Is it better to invest in a good life insurance policy that will pay out several thousand dollars, or to start investing in some kind of end of life burial? I don't have a clue how I would pursue the latter. Any suggestions of where and how to start?What is the best thing to do for your elderly parent?
First of all, I am over 70, and my wife is close to that. Our parents have been long gone, but we learned from them that we needed to get some things lined up so our kids don't have to be responsible for everything when we kick off.
We prepaid our funeral expenses. We opted for cremation, with no frills, no casket, no urn, no funeral service. If the kids want a memorial service a few months after our deaths, they can handle that part.
We both have life insurance policies that will help the kids eliminate their personal debt, or spend it on riotous living, their choice. They will only be stuck with disposing with our 50 years of accumulated junk. That could be fun, or maybe not.
You should discuss this with your parents, and hopefully come to some meaningful conclusions. Best of luck.What is the best thing to do for your elderly parent?
I think you should sit down with them and ask them what there financial situation is. If they have a good amount but away you may have no need to, as most parents want to leave their children money. Tell them why you want to do this. If you want to receive a large amount of money at their death you would need to buy a whole life insurance policy and they are expensive. If you can afford it great.
If they have the burial arrangements made and paid for great, if not then you might want to help them get this set up so that it won't be a hassle in the end.
If they are poor due to SS not paying out enough the best thing you could do is to invest in a portfolio with a financial adviser for them in your name. Then give them a certain amount of money made each year or quarter what ever the financial adviser suggests...nice way to help them live better while still here. Make sure you have a trusted financial adviser, talk to a friend or colleague that has good amount of money saved and invested and ask them who they use.
Are you thinking of investing for your parents? Or for yourself? Your question isn't really clear.
If it's for your parents, depending on their age, social security or old age assistance in Canada are already happening , extra amounts of money may put them in a different tax bracket and could cut the monies they receive. If they ' saved'; money through pesnion savings plan depending on their age they can access that as well. In Canada I believe it's at age 70 they can lifquidate their rrsps.
Seeking advice for something like this on the internet I think sets you up for scam artists and hustlers. Talk to your friends, talk to other people who you know are steady financial advisors and ask them where to start.
Dang Bernie, ya wanna make a profit on their ';passing away';? Do ya ever think of saying to them how much ya love them and how thankful you are for all the things they have done for you? or the times they were there to help you through rough times? Ever just pick up the phone and call to see how they are doing? This is what you can do for them, and , oh yea, visit them on a regular basis
My Mother and I are very close and we have had many conversations about what she wants when she dies. She is 92. I went to the funeral home with her and helped her pick everything out. She told me the hymns she wants and the music she wants. She wants her service at the church where she has been a member since she was 12. Mom was always up for fun and a party so after we bury her, she wants us to all go to her place and have a big party. Eat, drink and be merry.
Treat them like you would want to be treated ; and above all respect them.
If they are receptive to discussing burial or insurance, then do so ; but I would give them the choice in both categories.
First tell them you love them over and over again. Ask them what they want. Just make sure their burial expenses are paid for beforehand so you don't go through the wringer at the last moment.
If it's for your parents' sake, think of something they can appreciate and enjoy while still alive.
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Elementary Schools:What are your main concerns are as a parent of young children in school?
Any age really, but especially PreK- 6th grade.
What, if anything can your child's teachers do to help out?Elementary Schools:What are your main concerns are as a parent of young children in school?
There are too many horrible things happening in schools these days! Teacher have been doing a pretty decent job controlling violence but parents need to get involved too!
%26lt;------Supporter for children's rightsElementary Schools:What are your main concerns are as a parent of young children in school?
I think it's F*ed up that the teachers have to buy their own supplies. I always save my boxtops for education and give them to my son's teacher. I think it helps, even if it is just a few dollars worth every month.
My son is in a great elementary school. It's an inner city school but it is better than even private schools in our area. My son knows how to read and tell time in kindergarten. He never attended any preschool or pre-k.
I think parents should read to their kids and encourage them to use proper grammar. It is cool to talk ghetto but it's one of the reasons kids do bad on the language arts part of standardized tests. I enjoyed reading all the Harry Potter books with my son. He also gets a library book every week. He likes getting 5th grade reading level books just to show he can do it.
Bullies. My son's school has a No Bully policy and a group of teachers who try to prevent it but my son hates school because of 3 kids. I don't know what the teachers can do other than what they're already doing. The kids that pick on my kid are sneaky little .... you know.
School bullying is my greatest concern.
All you can do is make sure the teacher knows you are pro-active so she/he will make your child a priority.
When the teacher sends our requests for supplies and whatnot follow through and help out.
Volunteer in the class room if you can.
When you pick you child up from school make an effort to ask the teacher how your child is doing.
Well.... i'm worried about the 'things' Children are watching and doing these days lol x
Also, the strangers and the friends that convince them to do something they shouldn't! Keep watch at all times! x
oh and also Bullying! Teachers never notice this, i don't think!
It can be as small as laughing at them or as big as physically hitting them just because they don't like them for no reason...
XOXOXxx
im not a parent but if i was id be concerned about bombings! there was like 3 bomb threats at my school!!! but never a real bombing just threats.
MICHAEL JACKSON
penis
What, if anything can your child's teachers do to help out?Elementary Schools:What are your main concerns are as a parent of young children in school?
There are too many horrible things happening in schools these days! Teacher have been doing a pretty decent job controlling violence but parents need to get involved too!
%26lt;------Supporter for children's rightsElementary Schools:What are your main concerns are as a parent of young children in school?
I think it's F*ed up that the teachers have to buy their own supplies. I always save my boxtops for education and give them to my son's teacher. I think it helps, even if it is just a few dollars worth every month.
My son is in a great elementary school. It's an inner city school but it is better than even private schools in our area. My son knows how to read and tell time in kindergarten. He never attended any preschool or pre-k.
I think parents should read to their kids and encourage them to use proper grammar. It is cool to talk ghetto but it's one of the reasons kids do bad on the language arts part of standardized tests. I enjoyed reading all the Harry Potter books with my son. He also gets a library book every week. He likes getting 5th grade reading level books just to show he can do it.
Bullies. My son's school has a No Bully policy and a group of teachers who try to prevent it but my son hates school because of 3 kids. I don't know what the teachers can do other than what they're already doing. The kids that pick on my kid are sneaky little .... you know.
School bullying is my greatest concern.
All you can do is make sure the teacher knows you are pro-active so she/he will make your child a priority.
When the teacher sends our requests for supplies and whatnot follow through and help out.
Volunteer in the class room if you can.
When you pick you child up from school make an effort to ask the teacher how your child is doing.
Well.... i'm worried about the 'things' Children are watching and doing these days lol x
Also, the strangers and the friends that convince them to do something they shouldn't! Keep watch at all times! x
oh and also Bullying! Teachers never notice this, i don't think!
It can be as small as laughing at them or as big as physically hitting them just because they don't like them for no reason...
XOXOXxx
im not a parent but if i was id be concerned about bombings! there was like 3 bomb threats at my school!!! but never a real bombing just threats.
MICHAEL JACKSON
penis
How can i find out the results of my Conners-Parent Short?
My son is due for his IEP in March. His school has sent over a Conners 3tm-Parent Short form. How can I find out the results myself?How can i find out the results of my Conners-Parent Short?
The only way you will be able to do that is to go online and buy the scoring booklet. Please be as objective in your ratings as possible or you will receive a false score. If your child has ADHD, it is important for you and his teacher to know.
The only way you will be able to do that is to go online and buy the scoring booklet. Please be as objective in your ratings as possible or you will receive a false score. If your child has ADHD, it is important for you and his teacher to know.
Do two aparents do a better job than one natural parent?
The NCFA believes that single mothers should consider adoption based soley on the fact that she's a single mother. In their opinion two ( stranger ) adoptive parents would do a better job at parenting than one single natural parent to the child.
What is your opinion on this?Do two aparents do a better job than one natural parent?
Only 16 percent of adopted kids grow up in two parent homes compared to 24 percent of national average.
People promise a natural mother her child will have a two parent family and therefore they are better than her (single) then go ahead and get divorced anyway. It's BS.Do two aparents do a better job than one natural parent?
I think if a couple can not have children then they treat the adopted kid like thier own because they do not know any other way! But I think if a couple has kids of thier own and then adopt, they treat the adopted kid different, trust me I have seen this numerous times! I feel a natural mother can love her child more then anyone else, but it can also be a natural mother that is a horrible person that beats and mistreats her children and in that case they would have been better off being adopted out! So there are so many differnt situtations that change the picture! But a single mother can raise her children just fine! I raised my first 2 boys all by myself with out thier fathers!
The question as asked depends entirely on the individual parents.
I don't think that single motherhood alone is a reason a woman should relinquish. It's challenging to be a single parent, but it's certainly doable. If a mother is otherwise willing and able to parent, she should do so, even as a single mother.
I guess what it comes down to for me is that it shouldn't be ASSUMED that a two parent household is better. Children can be raised with love and proper care by a single parent just as well as they can by two.
I forget, does that stand for National Council Fomenting Adoption, or National Council F***ing up Adoptions?
And don't forget that these are the same people that promote the term ';biological stranger'; to refer to first parents.
Of course the whole idea is ridiculous and insulting to all single parents.
Yes, of course it is easier to have a co-parent. Also easier with grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, loving neighbors, community of all sorts. Single parents do not raise their kids in a vacuum. Single parents often marry. Married parents often divorce. Parents die.
Things happen. The particular circumstances into which a child is born don't stay static their whole life. To suggest that a loving single parent (or widowed or divorced?) automatically would be worse than a random couple is horribly insulting and totally wrong and ignorant.
But we understand why they are saying this, right? Need to keep the ';supply'; of babies up. Where else do their salaries come from?
I have seen my son's first mother's other children, both older, and younger.
I know that I'm a better parent than she is, and I'm strictly talking about emotionally, and hands on physically. Financially, I'm much better off, but it has nothing to do with the fact that her older child has no self confidence, he acts afraid of everything, he panics if he sees a police car (he's never been in DHS custody), and his grades aren't good in school, because he's a stressed child. It's also a fact that he's been stressed for 6 years before our son was born. Our son's younger sister suffers from stomach problems from stress. Out of her three children, the son I am raising is the healthiest, the happiest, the most expressive, and the most confident, even at a year old, and I know it's parenting, not the financial or the one or two factor. As a matter of fact, she's around her children's father 99% of the time, and I'm legally a single adoptive parent, although my fiance is the world's best father in my opinion, and always will be for this child, even when he's on the road working. When their first mom stayed with me a few months ago, it was then that our son became temporarily stressed, and ironically, his problems ended when she left.
Statistically.. children with a good father-figure have a MUCH better chance in many areas.. You can't argue with statistics.. they've been doing those studies for years.
Does that mean that the prospect of single parenthood is a reason to relinquish a child for adoption... No... absolutely not. Certainly women should not be told or pressured that their child is better off with someone else, because thta someone else has a husband. If a woman truly feels (without being pressured or brainwashed into thinking so) that she wants two parents for her child, and choses to relinquish for adoption based on that, then okay.. but she should never be told by others that she needs to. Especially because she may not always be single.. and the adoptive parents may not always be together...
Her'es the deal... Two-parents is the IDEALl.. But it's not always an option. And do we need the BEST to have a GOOD life.. even a GREAT one... No, certainly not.
It's the same with adoption... being raised by loving biological parents is the BEST... but sometimes the BEST isn't an option, and isn't necessary for a good life and a well-adjusted and sucessful individual.
The question is ridiculous because it doesn't take into account the many variables. Are the two adoptive parents in a stable relationship and able to take on the responsibilities of parenting? Is the single mother unstable mentally or financially?
Or, is the single mother level headed with a good job and a great support system? Are the adoptive parents teetering on divorce? So many scenarios. No one should consider any situation except individually.
No, two adoptive parents are not automatically better than one natural parent (which is often a single mother).
Many children are raised by single mothers, and they grow up to become smart, talented, compassionate adults.
Those who promote adoption into a two parent adoptive household as the solution for single motherhood are biased. They are usually making negative assumptions about the mother based on their personal or religious beliefs. And some of them are using adoption as a way to make money (as in the NCFA agencies who charge many thousands of dollars for adoption services).
I look at the question as ';does a family with both set of parents do a better job than a single parent ?'; I don't see why ';a'; or natural needs to be added in this circumstance.
My answer is: There is every chance a single parent or a family with both sets will raise the child equally well. But having both sets makes it easier on the child. I have seen fabolous single mothers. I have also heard them tell their experience of handling their children's questions about their dad. Its hard for them. But i have no doubt they are very good parents.
-this dogma only works for those stuck in the 50s, have their head stuck in a bible, or their hand stuck in the pile of money funding adoption. -funny, iwas a single mother prior to my marriage in 2000 and had more education than 80% of america(most do not have college degrees). -my son was an honor student and hasn't ever been in trouble. -in other words, there are no absolutes. -also I think it's pretty damn tacky for older adults to compare themselves to a young scared pregnant woman. -of COURSE an adult will be better off; but that dosn't make them a better parent.
-i wholeheartedly believe that iwas a much better parent then the married doctor's wife who only wanted my son to try and cure her infertility.
No one is frozen in time. Just because a woman is single right now doesn't mean she will not marry. And, children before marriage is no longer an impediment to that. I was married within a year of losing my son, and he would have been a welcome addition to my marriageability.
A married couple can divorce. A stress factor like infertility is an added risk for divorce. So, a couple that is married when they adopt can be divorced immediately. I have seen many statistics that suggest that adopters have a higher rate of divorce than the norm, so this married argument doesn't hold.
Then there are the myriad adopting who are single which sort of shoots the entire single mother argument right in the foot, doesn't it, and takes the argument right straight back to where it belongs....who has the money?
Why do people think like that? But then we're humans, so we are logical.
Why aren't you asking your government for single mothers pensions or at least some help? Just to remove the financial side of babies being given up for adoption. ( I know it can be abused by some people, but they are in the minority.)
They went from 10,000 adoptions nation wide to a few hundred in 10 years when that happened here. And we have less tax payers than America does. (If you do have that support no one has mentioned it here.)
I think it just depends there are some excellent single parents both single mother and single fathers. There are some not so excellent single parents. However it goes the other way excellent two parent homes, and not so excellent two parent homes. No one should have to place their child for adoption simple because they are a single parent. Families come in all kinds some people have 2 mom鈥檚 or dad鈥檚 some people are being raised by a grandparent or Aunt/Uncle etc.
Plus you just never know when you might become a single parent. I volunteer with a woman who lost her husband this past May to a heart attack. They had two children under 13 years old. So she has now gone from being a two parent home to being a single mother. Of course she could one day remarry and then have a 2 parent home again.
Certainly there are benefits of having a 2 parent home assuming that you and your spouse/partner share responsibilities. My brother is married but he pretty much does everything for the kids so in some ways he is a single dad even though he is married. He is the one to always get them up for school, while my SIL sleeps in. He is the one that makes dinner the majority of the time, while my SIL is doing other things.
';The NCFA believes that single mothers should consider adoption based soley on the fact that she's a single mother. In their opinion two ( stranger ) adoptive parents would do a better job at parenting than one single natural parent to the child.';
Hmmmm reminds me of some of the same crap that was used to screw with my mind until they made sure they had my child.
Yep the NCFA will say whatever it takes to keep the money rolling in for the baby brokers, oops I mean agencies...
Hi Gershom,
LOL, I'm with Rose here.
eff the NCFA!
There are way too many variables to make such huge assumptions and generalizations.
What if the child has two horrible aparents instead of one amazing natural parent? You could make a list a mile long of all the different scenarios that could be played out here. So in the end, i'm back to eff the NCFA for making such a huge generalization. What a joke.
I believe that if the natural parent(s) cannot parent their children, any willing, loving, dedicated person or persons who want to parent a child is better... whether is is a single person or a couple.
Being single should NOT be a reason to place a child into adoption unless the mother DOES NOT WANT TO PARENT THE CHILD. Those are two different issues.
natural or adopted, my answer is yes.
BECAUSE when you are both mom and dad and you are carrying every frustration on your own with no one to share it with, it can take its toll. it's not necessarily that two people are better parents to the child but rather, they are better partners to each other thus allowing each to be a better parent to the child.
jeez, i don't know if i can properly explain this. being a single parent, you have everything on your shoulders; being one of two, you have someone to share the responsibilities with. When you need 'that break' (which we all do), you can go to lunch with friends (baby free) while your partner stays home with the baby. It allows you to get out and be a person for a short while -- refresh yourself to be better.
but when you're the only one getting up in the middle of the night, day in and day out; you're the only one bringing home a (meager) paycheck; you're the only one to be mom and dad; you're the only one to handle everything . . .it can take its toll sometimes.
but when you have someone to share the ups and downs wtih, it helps you as a person. and when you feel better, you can be a better parent.
i really hope i got my point across...i suppose if we were talking in person, i'd be waving my hands because that magically helps me get my point across lol
but i'm not saying that it means all single parents shoudl automatically give their kids up to two parents..
I think as long as you have good people to raise kids it doesn't matter if they are one natural parent (like myself) or two adoptive parents.
I have two children and I think am doing a good Job at it, my daughter is the first kid in her kindergarten that is reading, and is well mannered child.
I can't say I agree with the NCFA.
I know lots of single mothers with amazing family support.
I was raised by a single mother, the BEING SINGLE part was't what hurt me as a child, it was everything else.
I could be a single mother in an instant. Life is short and you just never know when it's your or our partner's time to go. That wouldn't automatically make me a bad mother
maybe..but id never give up my son due to me being a single mama...i love him way to much to loose him...and we cant help it that we are the single parents its the guys fault for making it that way and not giving a rats *** about their own children!so no...*** the NCFA whatever they have to say....we can do it on our own being single...there are tough times yes but we all get through them tough times...and the fathers are the ones that make us single remember that!!
It's easier to raise a child with two parents. But easier doesn't necessarily mean better.
Aren't all newborns strangers to their parents or does a ';natural'; mother always understand what her baby is communicating when she/he cries or fusses or frowns or gurgles or makes that poopy face?
2 is BETTER... coming from a single mom. One person simply is not able to give as much as 2, and with 2 you have 2 minds, 2 ways of thinking, 2 to share the burden %26amp; the joys.
Doesn't matter how smart, fit, dedicated %26amp; devoted she/he is. It's just not possible to give as much as 2.
according to some yes.
But what bothers me is if something happens to the two parents and they become one parent are they in the same category that the single parent was in in the beginning? If so then what? Should they consider surrendering the child?
Sometimes. Depends on the individuals involved.
But I don't see being a single parent as automatically being a bad parent, either. I'm sure being a single parent is extremely difficult, but not impossible.
no! it depends on the morals of the people/person. wat if two of them are drug additcs and the one mom is a happy go lucky supporting person? you have to take each situation into account..
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Well let's see - my ONE natural mother abandoned me at birth.
My TWO adoptive parents abandoned me after the birth of my son.
Nope, my TWO adoptive parents sucked 2x more then my ONE natural mother.
The NCFA can go screw themselves.
I believe two parents would generally do a better job than one. People that adopt have made a decision to raise that child as their own. Not that a single mother cannot do a good job, many do.
It would have to depend upon the natural parent just as it would have to depend upon the two adoptive parents.
Quality not quantity should be the focus.
I think if your a single mother you can do it.You shouldn't have to adopt your child out just because you are a single parent.My mom was with 4 kids for 16 years!She has done a wonderful job!
I think the NCFA is all wet.
I do agree it's a lot more work to do a good job without a spouse, but that is not a reason to tell a woman she ';should'; give her children up for adoption.
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I know single parents and I know couple parents.
Both have positive and negative aspects and I think it really depends on the parent(s) instead of whether they are a couple or a single.
What is your opinion on this?Do two aparents do a better job than one natural parent?
Only 16 percent of adopted kids grow up in two parent homes compared to 24 percent of national average.
People promise a natural mother her child will have a two parent family and therefore they are better than her (single) then go ahead and get divorced anyway. It's BS.Do two aparents do a better job than one natural parent?
I think if a couple can not have children then they treat the adopted kid like thier own because they do not know any other way! But I think if a couple has kids of thier own and then adopt, they treat the adopted kid different, trust me I have seen this numerous times! I feel a natural mother can love her child more then anyone else, but it can also be a natural mother that is a horrible person that beats and mistreats her children and in that case they would have been better off being adopted out! So there are so many differnt situtations that change the picture! But a single mother can raise her children just fine! I raised my first 2 boys all by myself with out thier fathers!
The question as asked depends entirely on the individual parents.
I don't think that single motherhood alone is a reason a woman should relinquish. It's challenging to be a single parent, but it's certainly doable. If a mother is otherwise willing and able to parent, she should do so, even as a single mother.
I guess what it comes down to for me is that it shouldn't be ASSUMED that a two parent household is better. Children can be raised with love and proper care by a single parent just as well as they can by two.
I forget, does that stand for National Council Fomenting Adoption, or National Council F***ing up Adoptions?
And don't forget that these are the same people that promote the term ';biological stranger'; to refer to first parents.
Of course the whole idea is ridiculous and insulting to all single parents.
Yes, of course it is easier to have a co-parent. Also easier with grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, loving neighbors, community of all sorts. Single parents do not raise their kids in a vacuum. Single parents often marry. Married parents often divorce. Parents die.
Things happen. The particular circumstances into which a child is born don't stay static their whole life. To suggest that a loving single parent (or widowed or divorced?) automatically would be worse than a random couple is horribly insulting and totally wrong and ignorant.
But we understand why they are saying this, right? Need to keep the ';supply'; of babies up. Where else do their salaries come from?
I have seen my son's first mother's other children, both older, and younger.
I know that I'm a better parent than she is, and I'm strictly talking about emotionally, and hands on physically. Financially, I'm much better off, but it has nothing to do with the fact that her older child has no self confidence, he acts afraid of everything, he panics if he sees a police car (he's never been in DHS custody), and his grades aren't good in school, because he's a stressed child. It's also a fact that he's been stressed for 6 years before our son was born. Our son's younger sister suffers from stomach problems from stress. Out of her three children, the son I am raising is the healthiest, the happiest, the most expressive, and the most confident, even at a year old, and I know it's parenting, not the financial or the one or two factor. As a matter of fact, she's around her children's father 99% of the time, and I'm legally a single adoptive parent, although my fiance is the world's best father in my opinion, and always will be for this child, even when he's on the road working. When their first mom stayed with me a few months ago, it was then that our son became temporarily stressed, and ironically, his problems ended when she left.
Statistically.. children with a good father-figure have a MUCH better chance in many areas.. You can't argue with statistics.. they've been doing those studies for years.
Does that mean that the prospect of single parenthood is a reason to relinquish a child for adoption... No... absolutely not. Certainly women should not be told or pressured that their child is better off with someone else, because thta someone else has a husband. If a woman truly feels (without being pressured or brainwashed into thinking so) that she wants two parents for her child, and choses to relinquish for adoption based on that, then okay.. but she should never be told by others that she needs to. Especially because she may not always be single.. and the adoptive parents may not always be together...
Her'es the deal... Two-parents is the IDEALl.. But it's not always an option. And do we need the BEST to have a GOOD life.. even a GREAT one... No, certainly not.
It's the same with adoption... being raised by loving biological parents is the BEST... but sometimes the BEST isn't an option, and isn't necessary for a good life and a well-adjusted and sucessful individual.
The question is ridiculous because it doesn't take into account the many variables. Are the two adoptive parents in a stable relationship and able to take on the responsibilities of parenting? Is the single mother unstable mentally or financially?
Or, is the single mother level headed with a good job and a great support system? Are the adoptive parents teetering on divorce? So many scenarios. No one should consider any situation except individually.
No, two adoptive parents are not automatically better than one natural parent (which is often a single mother).
Many children are raised by single mothers, and they grow up to become smart, talented, compassionate adults.
Those who promote adoption into a two parent adoptive household as the solution for single motherhood are biased. They are usually making negative assumptions about the mother based on their personal or religious beliefs. And some of them are using adoption as a way to make money (as in the NCFA agencies who charge many thousands of dollars for adoption services).
I look at the question as ';does a family with both set of parents do a better job than a single parent ?'; I don't see why ';a'; or natural needs to be added in this circumstance.
My answer is: There is every chance a single parent or a family with both sets will raise the child equally well. But having both sets makes it easier on the child. I have seen fabolous single mothers. I have also heard them tell their experience of handling their children's questions about their dad. Its hard for them. But i have no doubt they are very good parents.
-this dogma only works for those stuck in the 50s, have their head stuck in a bible, or their hand stuck in the pile of money funding adoption. -funny, iwas a single mother prior to my marriage in 2000 and had more education than 80% of america(most do not have college degrees). -my son was an honor student and hasn't ever been in trouble. -in other words, there are no absolutes. -also I think it's pretty damn tacky for older adults to compare themselves to a young scared pregnant woman. -of COURSE an adult will be better off; but that dosn't make them a better parent.
-i wholeheartedly believe that iwas a much better parent then the married doctor's wife who only wanted my son to try and cure her infertility.
No one is frozen in time. Just because a woman is single right now doesn't mean she will not marry. And, children before marriage is no longer an impediment to that. I was married within a year of losing my son, and he would have been a welcome addition to my marriageability.
A married couple can divorce. A stress factor like infertility is an added risk for divorce. So, a couple that is married when they adopt can be divorced immediately. I have seen many statistics that suggest that adopters have a higher rate of divorce than the norm, so this married argument doesn't hold.
Then there are the myriad adopting who are single which sort of shoots the entire single mother argument right in the foot, doesn't it, and takes the argument right straight back to where it belongs....who has the money?
Why do people think like that? But then we're humans, so we are logical.
Why aren't you asking your government for single mothers pensions or at least some help? Just to remove the financial side of babies being given up for adoption. ( I know it can be abused by some people, but they are in the minority.)
They went from 10,000 adoptions nation wide to a few hundred in 10 years when that happened here. And we have less tax payers than America does. (If you do have that support no one has mentioned it here.)
I think it just depends there are some excellent single parents both single mother and single fathers. There are some not so excellent single parents. However it goes the other way excellent two parent homes, and not so excellent two parent homes. No one should have to place their child for adoption simple because they are a single parent. Families come in all kinds some people have 2 mom鈥檚 or dad鈥檚 some people are being raised by a grandparent or Aunt/Uncle etc.
Plus you just never know when you might become a single parent. I volunteer with a woman who lost her husband this past May to a heart attack. They had two children under 13 years old. So she has now gone from being a two parent home to being a single mother. Of course she could one day remarry and then have a 2 parent home again.
Certainly there are benefits of having a 2 parent home assuming that you and your spouse/partner share responsibilities. My brother is married but he pretty much does everything for the kids so in some ways he is a single dad even though he is married. He is the one to always get them up for school, while my SIL sleeps in. He is the one that makes dinner the majority of the time, while my SIL is doing other things.
';The NCFA believes that single mothers should consider adoption based soley on the fact that she's a single mother. In their opinion two ( stranger ) adoptive parents would do a better job at parenting than one single natural parent to the child.';
Hmmmm reminds me of some of the same crap that was used to screw with my mind until they made sure they had my child.
Yep the NCFA will say whatever it takes to keep the money rolling in for the baby brokers, oops I mean agencies...
Hi Gershom,
LOL, I'm with Rose here.
eff the NCFA!
There are way too many variables to make such huge assumptions and generalizations.
What if the child has two horrible aparents instead of one amazing natural parent? You could make a list a mile long of all the different scenarios that could be played out here. So in the end, i'm back to eff the NCFA for making such a huge generalization. What a joke.
I believe that if the natural parent(s) cannot parent their children, any willing, loving, dedicated person or persons who want to parent a child is better... whether is is a single person or a couple.
Being single should NOT be a reason to place a child into adoption unless the mother DOES NOT WANT TO PARENT THE CHILD. Those are two different issues.
natural or adopted, my answer is yes.
BECAUSE when you are both mom and dad and you are carrying every frustration on your own with no one to share it with, it can take its toll. it's not necessarily that two people are better parents to the child but rather, they are better partners to each other thus allowing each to be a better parent to the child.
jeez, i don't know if i can properly explain this. being a single parent, you have everything on your shoulders; being one of two, you have someone to share the responsibilities with. When you need 'that break' (which we all do), you can go to lunch with friends (baby free) while your partner stays home with the baby. It allows you to get out and be a person for a short while -- refresh yourself to be better.
but when you're the only one getting up in the middle of the night, day in and day out; you're the only one bringing home a (meager) paycheck; you're the only one to be mom and dad; you're the only one to handle everything . . .it can take its toll sometimes.
but when you have someone to share the ups and downs wtih, it helps you as a person. and when you feel better, you can be a better parent.
i really hope i got my point across...i suppose if we were talking in person, i'd be waving my hands because that magically helps me get my point across lol
but i'm not saying that it means all single parents shoudl automatically give their kids up to two parents..
I think as long as you have good people to raise kids it doesn't matter if they are one natural parent (like myself) or two adoptive parents.
I have two children and I think am doing a good Job at it, my daughter is the first kid in her kindergarten that is reading, and is well mannered child.
I can't say I agree with the NCFA.
I know lots of single mothers with amazing family support.
I was raised by a single mother, the BEING SINGLE part was't what hurt me as a child, it was everything else.
I could be a single mother in an instant. Life is short and you just never know when it's your or our partner's time to go. That wouldn't automatically make me a bad mother
maybe..but id never give up my son due to me being a single mama...i love him way to much to loose him...and we cant help it that we are the single parents its the guys fault for making it that way and not giving a rats *** about their own children!so no...*** the NCFA whatever they have to say....we can do it on our own being single...there are tough times yes but we all get through them tough times...and the fathers are the ones that make us single remember that!!
It's easier to raise a child with two parents. But easier doesn't necessarily mean better.
Aren't all newborns strangers to their parents or does a ';natural'; mother always understand what her baby is communicating when she/he cries or fusses or frowns or gurgles or makes that poopy face?
2 is BETTER... coming from a single mom. One person simply is not able to give as much as 2, and with 2 you have 2 minds, 2 ways of thinking, 2 to share the burden %26amp; the joys.
Doesn't matter how smart, fit, dedicated %26amp; devoted she/he is. It's just not possible to give as much as 2.
according to some yes.
But what bothers me is if something happens to the two parents and they become one parent are they in the same category that the single parent was in in the beginning? If so then what? Should they consider surrendering the child?
Sometimes. Depends on the individuals involved.
But I don't see being a single parent as automatically being a bad parent, either. I'm sure being a single parent is extremely difficult, but not impossible.
no! it depends on the morals of the people/person. wat if two of them are drug additcs and the one mom is a happy go lucky supporting person? you have to take each situation into account..
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Well let's see - my ONE natural mother abandoned me at birth.
My TWO adoptive parents abandoned me after the birth of my son.
Nope, my TWO adoptive parents sucked 2x more then my ONE natural mother.
The NCFA can go screw themselves.
I believe two parents would generally do a better job than one. People that adopt have made a decision to raise that child as their own. Not that a single mother cannot do a good job, many do.
It would have to depend upon the natural parent just as it would have to depend upon the two adoptive parents.
Quality not quantity should be the focus.
I think if your a single mother you can do it.You shouldn't have to adopt your child out just because you are a single parent.My mom was with 4 kids for 16 years!She has done a wonderful job!
I think the NCFA is all wet.
I do agree it's a lot more work to do a good job without a spouse, but that is not a reason to tell a woman she ';should'; give her children up for adoption.
cw
I know single parents and I know couple parents.
Both have positive and negative aspects and I think it really depends on the parent(s) instead of whether they are a couple or a single.
How is a parent's life affected if their child has a disorder?
How does it affect them emotionally and what are some of disadvantages and also how does it affect their lifeHow is a parent's life affected if their child has a disorder?
sorry question is pretty vague. erm I can only give you my interpretation of my son who is just growing out of developmental delays, why me, I don't think comes into it, as it is your child who you kind of feel sorry for, not yourself, guess it depends how much time you have to dwell on the subject, with a health problem, appointments, daily tasks etc, probably take over most emotions. Jealousy is there, not in a shes got kid with no problems, I want her child, but more, why can't my child have it as easy as hers, and why doesn't the mother appreciate her kid more, you know what I mean? I get very frustrated with parents who don;'t listen to their kids, as mine didn't talk and had problems speaking for years. Priorities kind of sort themselves out, for instance my son still has problems with reading, I don;t give two hoots if he doesn't sing in the latest school concert, which is essential neccessity for lots of parents. Reading is the priority, thats why he goes to school. In the early years I guess awkwardness is hard, people feeling sorry for you is horrible. I think deep down though it really does make you a stronger person, and what doesn't kill you, always makes you stronger. I think it makes you closer to your child, I don't have another kid to compare, but we share the same sense of humour, enjoy time together, and have fun, and thats what is important in life.
I don;t know whether you are the parent, child or relalive, but go with your instincts, it will make you harder on the outside, but softer on the inside. Hope that helps, good luck !!How is a parent's life affected if their child has a disorder?
Depends on the disorder. That's far too vague a question to answer with specifics.sunscreen
sorry question is pretty vague. erm I can only give you my interpretation of my son who is just growing out of developmental delays, why me, I don't think comes into it, as it is your child who you kind of feel sorry for, not yourself, guess it depends how much time you have to dwell on the subject, with a health problem, appointments, daily tasks etc, probably take over most emotions. Jealousy is there, not in a shes got kid with no problems, I want her child, but more, why can't my child have it as easy as hers, and why doesn't the mother appreciate her kid more, you know what I mean? I get very frustrated with parents who don;'t listen to their kids, as mine didn't talk and had problems speaking for years. Priorities kind of sort themselves out, for instance my son still has problems with reading, I don;t give two hoots if he doesn't sing in the latest school concert, which is essential neccessity for lots of parents. Reading is the priority, thats why he goes to school. In the early years I guess awkwardness is hard, people feeling sorry for you is horrible. I think deep down though it really does make you a stronger person, and what doesn't kill you, always makes you stronger. I think it makes you closer to your child, I don't have another kid to compare, but we share the same sense of humour, enjoy time together, and have fun, and thats what is important in life.
I don;t know whether you are the parent, child or relalive, but go with your instincts, it will make you harder on the outside, but softer on the inside. Hope that helps, good luck !!How is a parent's life affected if their child has a disorder?
Depends on the disorder. That's far too vague a question to answer with specifics.
What is the scariest moment you have had as a parent?
I had a scary delivery w/ my last daughter. About 12 days before they induced me, I went to the hospital thinking I was leaking fluid. The doctor just had me lay on a pad for an hour, %26amp;sent me home. I went to 2 more weekly appts before he decided he needed to induce me.The initial drugs they gave me didn't work, so they decided to break my water. In this process they found out I had no water to break. My husband and I tend to think that it was a slow leak...but the doctor never checked me. I was still not in labor, but my baby's heart rate dropped all the way down to 40. They had me maneuver and gave me an oxygen mask...they inserted a hydrating device up into my uterus. Finally after 10 hours of nothing, they gave me more powerful drugs that worked. She had the chord around her neck, she pooped in utero, she had a slow heart rate %26amp; she was blue, w/ 2 marks on her head from the hydrating probe. Her apgar score was 3. She had an angel watching over her.she is now about to be 8 months.What is the scariest moment you have had as a parent?
I had almost the same experience - I went to the hospital, having contractions 5 minutes apart but since I wasn't dilating, they kept me on monitors for one day and sent me home, although I was in such a pain. As soon as I got home, my water broke, so we went back to the hospital. I still had contractions 4-5 minutes apart, but wasn't dilating, so they waited for another day to give me some pitocin. I got an infection because I took so long, I had very high fever and my blood pressure dropped to 60/30. My son was born with apgar score 0, it took them 5 minutes to resuscitate him. He pooped in the utero and got the infection from placenta. It was really hard and they told us he might have developmental delay because of the lack of oxygen, but so far it seems that he will be fine. He is three month old now. Good luck with your baby!!!What is the scariest moment you have had as a parent?
my baby is 6 months and so far theres been nothing to worry about BUT
just not being near my daughter while i work is just so scary b/c you dont know how theyre treated when your not around and you dont know if they fell or not and those simple things so yeah thats about it but i know that in the future i will be terrified when my daughter goes out whenb shes older
When my son was about 1 month old, I always had this thing about clipping babies' nails, I was so scared. Everyone kept telling me it wouldn't happen (yeah...) So you know where this is going. I was clipping his nails and I took a chunk of skin off. Boy did it look painful! It bled a lot, too. I freaked out, but my son only cried for like a minute (I was torn up for DAYS about it). When I took him to the emergency room, no one took me seriously, they were just like ';oh, well you're a new mom';. But he was really bleeding, and it wouldn't stop! So that and the hospital staff being a bunch of jerks, saying ';oh well you should have taken him to the children's hospital, where they specialize in this kind of thing.'; I was so mad, it was the closest hospital in my area. After waiting for 4 hours, I got so angry, I just packed up and left.
Anyway, LOL sorry about that, I'm sure there are a ton of things that you (and I for that matter) will encounter as a new parent that will scare the crap out of you! I think it all just comes with being a mom though. As for what happened to you, I think the hospital should have just gone ahead and given you a C-section. I had one (my son was too big), but he was never in any kind of danger like that. With something like that, I would have to insist on it. But then again I'm not the hospital staff. I dunno.
Best of luck to you!
With my son there's been several (he's now 3.5). At 4 days old he had to go back to the hospital for jaunice. At the time I really didn't understand what it was, all I remember was crying hysterically.
Then when he was almost 9 months old and still not sitting up. I thought there was something really wrong with him. So did the doctor. It turns out his ears were full of fluid and needed tubes. After that he was so delayed up until he hit about 2.5 years.
Then (okay I'll admit this) last summer I accidentally locked him in the car. Very dangerous considering we live in AZ. To make a long story short, the Glendale fire department was very nice and got him out in like 2 minutes.
With my current pregnancy, I almost miscarried at 14 weeks. It was so scary!
I agree with you....I started leaking amniotic fluid 5 weeks early. When I called my OB that morning, she thought it was urine and told me to shake the baby off my bladder. I called her back 8 hours later and told her it was no better. When I got to the hosp , they said I was leaking fluid and put me on IV antibiotics because I had a fever. My son's fetal monitors were concerning, so they induced me quick! My son had his umbilical cord around his neck 3 times! The scariest moment was waiting to hear him cry...it took a long time, they had to do CPR on him.....it was the longest, scariest, most agonizing time of my life. Now he's 5 months and happy , smiling, giggling...and yes crying!
Wow, it truly is a miracle that you daughter came out fine in the end!!! I'm very happy for you.
My scary thing is when I went into labor with my daughter %26amp; my husband %26amp; I first got to the hospital, the nurses went through the whole routine of getting me hooked up to the monitors, IV, etc. Well when they went to hook up the fetal heart rate monitor they could not find the babies heartbeat.
The room was absolutely dead silent for like 5 minutes [which as many of you know seems like an eternity] while she kept moving the monitor around trying to get the babies heartbeat. My husband and I couldn't even look at each other.
Finally though she did find it. Turns out her stupid monitor just wasn't working right.
I could have died though waiting to hear her!
that is sooo scary. I'm gald everything turned out well. with my last one i had her normally. But when she came out she wasn't crying and then i looked at my husband and they had him holding an oxygen mask over her. But she is now 10 months old now and all is well. And it was so scary.
wow that's frightening!
my scariest moment was with my son when he was only 2. We have a pool. He thought he had his little floatie wings on his arms but nope... in to the deep end he jumped! My husband jumped in after him, shoes on and everything, thankfully my son was ok but that definitley shook me up. Near water you CANT take your eyes off of children, even if they can swim. Thankfully within 5 seconds of my son jumping in, my husband got him out!
Wow...that must have terrifying. Thank God for the happy outcome. My second son had to be put back in the hospital when he 3 days old. They thought he had meningitis. They did a spinal tap. He had wires and tubes coming out of every part of his body. He was in ICU for 10 days. They never figured out what was wrong. He just got better with antibiotics. He is now a 21 year old college student. I thank God everyday for all my children.
I think the scariest moment with my 15 month old so far is when she had an EKG done. It was so sad to see her hooked up to all those wires. (Her doctor thought she might have a heart problem.) She's fine as well, thank God~
wow... but I'm so glad everything turned out well. My scariest moments were two. One, when my baby fell off our bed :( She was 7 months. Thank the Lord she didn't get hurt bad but it was SCARY. And second, when my baby at 9 months started choking.... she coughed out the piece of chcken. But also SCARY. We have to be so careful with tiny ones!!
my scariest moment was when my son stuck a bobby pin in the electrical socket!!! my silly a%$ sister left one on the coffee table up under some papers and he found it. Thank God the only thing he suffered was the burn from the bobby pin being stuck to his leg!
Wow! That is a terrifying story!!! My water broke like that, too, with just leaking here and there. I'm so glad I kept insisting that I be seen at the doctor's office. They did an ultrsound, and yep! All the amniotic fluid had leaked out!
So glad to hear your precious daughter is ok! She did indeed have an angel watching over her!
That was quite the scare for you. I'm really happy that things turned out well! :)
I don't know if I can count my moments... LOL.
During labor with son... his heartrate dropped to the low 50's, and it turned out that he was stuck. If it weren't for the emergency c/section, we both could have died.
During labor with daughter... her heartrate dropped to the 30's, she had to be taken out immediately, though I did have a planned VBAC with her.
Daughter was born with cleft lip/palate... she's had 7 surgeries, and isn't even 5 years old yet. Every surgery we've been through has been scary for me.
I had almost the same experience - I went to the hospital, having contractions 5 minutes apart but since I wasn't dilating, they kept me on monitors for one day and sent me home, although I was in such a pain. As soon as I got home, my water broke, so we went back to the hospital. I still had contractions 4-5 minutes apart, but wasn't dilating, so they waited for another day to give me some pitocin. I got an infection because I took so long, I had very high fever and my blood pressure dropped to 60/30. My son was born with apgar score 0, it took them 5 minutes to resuscitate him. He pooped in the utero and got the infection from placenta. It was really hard and they told us he might have developmental delay because of the lack of oxygen, but so far it seems that he will be fine. He is three month old now. Good luck with your baby!!!What is the scariest moment you have had as a parent?
my baby is 6 months and so far theres been nothing to worry about BUT
just not being near my daughter while i work is just so scary b/c you dont know how theyre treated when your not around and you dont know if they fell or not and those simple things so yeah thats about it but i know that in the future i will be terrified when my daughter goes out whenb shes older
When my son was about 1 month old, I always had this thing about clipping babies' nails, I was so scared. Everyone kept telling me it wouldn't happen (yeah...) So you know where this is going. I was clipping his nails and I took a chunk of skin off. Boy did it look painful! It bled a lot, too. I freaked out, but my son only cried for like a minute (I was torn up for DAYS about it). When I took him to the emergency room, no one took me seriously, they were just like ';oh, well you're a new mom';. But he was really bleeding, and it wouldn't stop! So that and the hospital staff being a bunch of jerks, saying ';oh well you should have taken him to the children's hospital, where they specialize in this kind of thing.'; I was so mad, it was the closest hospital in my area. After waiting for 4 hours, I got so angry, I just packed up and left.
Anyway, LOL sorry about that, I'm sure there are a ton of things that you (and I for that matter) will encounter as a new parent that will scare the crap out of you! I think it all just comes with being a mom though. As for what happened to you, I think the hospital should have just gone ahead and given you a C-section. I had one (my son was too big), but he was never in any kind of danger like that. With something like that, I would have to insist on it. But then again I'm not the hospital staff. I dunno.
Best of luck to you!
With my son there's been several (he's now 3.5). At 4 days old he had to go back to the hospital for jaunice. At the time I really didn't understand what it was, all I remember was crying hysterically.
Then when he was almost 9 months old and still not sitting up. I thought there was something really wrong with him. So did the doctor. It turns out his ears were full of fluid and needed tubes. After that he was so delayed up until he hit about 2.5 years.
Then (okay I'll admit this) last summer I accidentally locked him in the car. Very dangerous considering we live in AZ. To make a long story short, the Glendale fire department was very nice and got him out in like 2 minutes.
With my current pregnancy, I almost miscarried at 14 weeks. It was so scary!
I agree with you....I started leaking amniotic fluid 5 weeks early. When I called my OB that morning, she thought it was urine and told me to shake the baby off my bladder. I called her back 8 hours later and told her it was no better. When I got to the hosp , they said I was leaking fluid and put me on IV antibiotics because I had a fever. My son's fetal monitors were concerning, so they induced me quick! My son had his umbilical cord around his neck 3 times! The scariest moment was waiting to hear him cry...it took a long time, they had to do CPR on him.....it was the longest, scariest, most agonizing time of my life. Now he's 5 months and happy , smiling, giggling...and yes crying!
Wow, it truly is a miracle that you daughter came out fine in the end!!! I'm very happy for you.
My scary thing is when I went into labor with my daughter %26amp; my husband %26amp; I first got to the hospital, the nurses went through the whole routine of getting me hooked up to the monitors, IV, etc. Well when they went to hook up the fetal heart rate monitor they could not find the babies heartbeat.
The room was absolutely dead silent for like 5 minutes [which as many of you know seems like an eternity] while she kept moving the monitor around trying to get the babies heartbeat. My husband and I couldn't even look at each other.
Finally though she did find it. Turns out her stupid monitor just wasn't working right.
I could have died though waiting to hear her!
that is sooo scary. I'm gald everything turned out well. with my last one i had her normally. But when she came out she wasn't crying and then i looked at my husband and they had him holding an oxygen mask over her. But she is now 10 months old now and all is well. And it was so scary.
wow that's frightening!
my scariest moment was with my son when he was only 2. We have a pool. He thought he had his little floatie wings on his arms but nope... in to the deep end he jumped! My husband jumped in after him, shoes on and everything, thankfully my son was ok but that definitley shook me up. Near water you CANT take your eyes off of children, even if they can swim. Thankfully within 5 seconds of my son jumping in, my husband got him out!
Wow...that must have terrifying. Thank God for the happy outcome. My second son had to be put back in the hospital when he 3 days old. They thought he had meningitis. They did a spinal tap. He had wires and tubes coming out of every part of his body. He was in ICU for 10 days. They never figured out what was wrong. He just got better with antibiotics. He is now a 21 year old college student. I thank God everyday for all my children.
I think the scariest moment with my 15 month old so far is when she had an EKG done. It was so sad to see her hooked up to all those wires. (Her doctor thought she might have a heart problem.) She's fine as well, thank God~
wow... but I'm so glad everything turned out well. My scariest moments were two. One, when my baby fell off our bed :( She was 7 months. Thank the Lord she didn't get hurt bad but it was SCARY. And second, when my baby at 9 months started choking.... she coughed out the piece of chcken. But also SCARY. We have to be so careful with tiny ones!!
my scariest moment was when my son stuck a bobby pin in the electrical socket!!! my silly a%$ sister left one on the coffee table up under some papers and he found it. Thank God the only thing he suffered was the burn from the bobby pin being stuck to his leg!
Wow! That is a terrifying story!!! My water broke like that, too, with just leaking here and there. I'm so glad I kept insisting that I be seen at the doctor's office. They did an ultrsound, and yep! All the amniotic fluid had leaked out!
So glad to hear your precious daughter is ok! She did indeed have an angel watching over her!
That was quite the scare for you. I'm really happy that things turned out well! :)
I don't know if I can count my moments... LOL.
During labor with son... his heartrate dropped to the low 50's, and it turned out that he was stuck. If it weren't for the emergency c/section, we both could have died.
During labor with daughter... her heartrate dropped to the 30's, she had to be taken out immediately, though I did have a planned VBAC with her.
Daughter was born with cleft lip/palate... she's had 7 surgeries, and isn't even 5 years old yet. Every surgery we've been through has been scary for me.
Can a 15 year old get a nose ring with parent consent in NJ?
I'm 15 years old, and today I went into a piercing shop to get a nose stud, but the piercer said you must be 16 and older. My mom was with me and everything but they still said no. But I know my other friends got their noses and we are all the same age. What are the laws?Can a 15 year old get a nose ring with parent consent in NJ?
';A person commits a disorderly persons offense if he knowingly tattoos or engages in body piercing of a minor under the age of 18 years without first having obtained the written permission of the minor's parent or legal guardian or, if neither exists, a person who stands in place of a parent.';
There's nothing written there about being 16. Why don't you print this out and bring it to the shop?
I might look for another place to get pierced, though. Although it might be store policy not to pierce people under the age of 16, it could mean that the piercer is just not familiar with local laws. That's really unprofessional and I'd be hesitant to get pierced by someone like that. Who knows what else he doesn't know about piercing procedures? He might not be following proper sanitizing procedures, he might do it with a piercing gun and ruin your nose for life, etc. There's lots of things that can go wrong so please put in the effort to find a competent shop.Can a 15 year old get a nose ring with parent consent in NJ?
I'm not sure about NJ but in CA you can get piercings at any age with parental consent. So the piercer probably was ignorant and thought someone so young shouldn't Pierce their nose.
It's 16, but some places bend the rules/
ask your friends where they all went?
';A person commits a disorderly persons offense if he knowingly tattoos or engages in body piercing of a minor under the age of 18 years without first having obtained the written permission of the minor's parent or legal guardian or, if neither exists, a person who stands in place of a parent.';
There's nothing written there about being 16. Why don't you print this out and bring it to the shop?
I might look for another place to get pierced, though. Although it might be store policy not to pierce people under the age of 16, it could mean that the piercer is just not familiar with local laws. That's really unprofessional and I'd be hesitant to get pierced by someone like that. Who knows what else he doesn't know about piercing procedures? He might not be following proper sanitizing procedures, he might do it with a piercing gun and ruin your nose for life, etc. There's lots of things that can go wrong so please put in the effort to find a competent shop.Can a 15 year old get a nose ring with parent consent in NJ?
I'm not sure about NJ but in CA you can get piercings at any age with parental consent. So the piercer probably was ignorant and thought someone so young shouldn't Pierce their nose.
It's 16, but some places bend the rules/
ask your friends where they all went?
How does a parent deal with a child with a mental illness like Schizophrenia
My son has recently been labeled - with schizophrenia. I keep thinking what was it that I had wrong with me to give him such a horrible thing. It's so hard, because I feel like - I cant help him. The drugs work but then he thinks he's ok...and goes off them. I feel like I'm loosing my mind.
How do you deal?How does a parent deal with a child with a mental illness like Schizophrenia
You might check out these websites:
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publicati鈥?/a>
http://www.nami.org
http://www.schizophrenia.ca/files/Rays_o鈥?/a>
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/schizop鈥?/a>
They have a lot of very good information on schizophrenia. The first three websites have booklets in pdf format that you can download and save for future reference.
There is also an excellent book, ';Surviving Schizophrenia: A Manual for Families, Patients, and Providers'; by E. Fuller Torrey, Fifth Edition. I know Barnes %26amp; Noble has it. Amazon.com only has the 4th edition. That is very good reading and tells a lot about schizophrenia. It is a ';must have'; book for a family with a member who has schizophrenia.
Best of Luck to you :-)
Paul.How does a parent deal with a child with a mental illness like Schizophrenia
We have a son who was diagnosed with this illness at 12 year old he has now turned 20, it is a chemical imbalance in the brain, it can be hereditary but not necessarily from parents maybe great grandparents or someone further back you are not to blame. It is supposedly the worst mental illness a person can have but with the right medication and support a person can lead a reasonably normal life. You can help him firstly by shielding him from stress, stress makes the illness worse. Listen to him he may have weird thoughts in his head, tell him its the illness making him think these things mainly and give him an ear to tell these thoughts to, otherwise they will get bigger and he may become sicker. Love him give him the support he needs but dont forget that you and your family also need support, a lot of families with someone suffering from this illness simply break up from the pressure, make sure you have friends who will support you give each other breaks regularly. There should be supports in the community where your son can go for a week or so every now and then and will be looked after by qualified people. Rest is important with schizophrenia otherwise the difficulties of it will get on top of everyone and it will lead to much hardship. contact me if you need more advice. Good luck.
Schizophrenia's a lot more common than we like to admit. My neighbor, a grade or so ahead of me, developed it in his late teens.
The problem with psychiatric drugs is that when they work, they make you feel like you don't need to take them. So people stop taking them -especially bipolars and schizophrenics. The best thing you can do is keep him on his meds, it may take a lot of work on your part, but it will make life better for both of you.
You might try talking to a therapist, or looking up a support group for family of people with mental illness or schizophrenia in your area. With about .5-1% of the population developing schizophrenia, you should be able to find one in your area, especially if you live in a high population area.
And no. It's nothing you did, there's nothing wrong with you. We don't know what causes schizophrenia, and there's no reason to blame yourself.
I don't have a child with it my dad has schizophrenia he has had it since i was really little, and i went through alot, My parents got divorced because my mom could not handle it, and hes been on alot of meds, and in and out of the hospital, but we are closer then ever i love my dad to death and i look at him as a normal person unlike my sister and others around him, the best thing i could ever do for him is listen to him he talks to me and opens up to me more then anyone, just be there its nothing you did it just happens and he will be ok my dad does shock therapy once a month hope this makes you feel alittle better God bless
Would you blame yourself if he had diabetes? What he has is a biological consition that is in the mind, there is nothing to do aboutthat, but treat it now...I would do your absolute best to make sure he stays on his medications and for yourself, there is agreat group out there called NAMI
www.nami.com
They have not only support groups for people suffering from mental illness, but support groups for their family member and loved ones as well..it is important that you know that you are not alone in this and that other parents are going through the same thing. Rely on them for support and learn and you can help others...
Best of luck...
'; what was it that I had wrong with me to give him ';
thats whats wrong
or,
you re the most horrible person in the world.
you choose.
I really want you to know that you DID NOT give your son schizophrenia! I firmly believe that people are in many instances born with a pre-disposition to schizophrenia (and other mental illnesses) so it is not something you can give to him, his brain is just programmed with it. The amazing thing about a lot of medications is that they work but the worst thing about them working is that they help the sufferer feel well enough that they believe they do not need the medication anymore. Most people do not want to be branded as ';mentally ill'; and taking medication(s) seems to keep them labeled that way. The difficulty is that once a person feels well enough it is easy to rationalize why they don't need their medications. One of the key things in a mentally ill person improving and continuing to do well once the predominant symptoms lessen is a good professional support system. Preferably one that he has regular access to and that can help educate him on why the medications are so necessary for his well-being. The other thing for your son could possibly be a support group of high functioning mentally ill peers who could help him by sharing their own experiences with medication and the mental health system. No one can understand a schizophrenic like another schizophrenic. Along the same lines no one can understand what it is like to have a mentally ill child than a parent in a similar circumstance. There are many organizations that are dedicated to working with the mentally ill that have free support groups for the parents, family and friends of the ';patient';. For example the local N.A.M.I. (National Alliance for the Mentally Ill) in my area has meetings where loved ones can meet to discuss not only the challanges of having a mentally ill child/family member but also to discuss the rewards. A safe place where people can discuss some of the things they have done that have worked and that haven't worked. They can also enable you to set some boundaries with your son as far as what behavior you will accept and which you will not. This in no way means that you are punishing him or brandishing him but simply a way for you to help him without feeling like you are losing your own mind. Just because your son has been ';labeled'; as schizophrenic does not mean his life or your life for that matter is over. Let your son know that you love him, that you have always loved him, schizophrenic or not. Assure him that you will support him and help him to the best of your ability as he works to help himself. You will not be able to save him or spare him from his illness but you can assist him in making his life the best it can be. But you also cannot enable him to make bad choices in regards to his treatment. Your son's illness will be a challange for the both of you but I assure you it is a challange that in most cases can be met. While there is no cure at this time there are treatments and it is my hope that you both are able deal with the challanges and triumph. Best of luck to you.
How do you deal?How does a parent deal with a child with a mental illness like Schizophrenia
You might check out these websites:
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publicati鈥?/a>
http://www.nami.org
http://www.schizophrenia.ca/files/Rays_o鈥?/a>
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/schizop鈥?/a>
They have a lot of very good information on schizophrenia. The first three websites have booklets in pdf format that you can download and save for future reference.
There is also an excellent book, ';Surviving Schizophrenia: A Manual for Families, Patients, and Providers'; by E. Fuller Torrey, Fifth Edition. I know Barnes %26amp; Noble has it. Amazon.com only has the 4th edition. That is very good reading and tells a lot about schizophrenia. It is a ';must have'; book for a family with a member who has schizophrenia.
Best of Luck to you :-)
Paul.How does a parent deal with a child with a mental illness like Schizophrenia
We have a son who was diagnosed with this illness at 12 year old he has now turned 20, it is a chemical imbalance in the brain, it can be hereditary but not necessarily from parents maybe great grandparents or someone further back you are not to blame. It is supposedly the worst mental illness a person can have but with the right medication and support a person can lead a reasonably normal life. You can help him firstly by shielding him from stress, stress makes the illness worse. Listen to him he may have weird thoughts in his head, tell him its the illness making him think these things mainly and give him an ear to tell these thoughts to, otherwise they will get bigger and he may become sicker. Love him give him the support he needs but dont forget that you and your family also need support, a lot of families with someone suffering from this illness simply break up from the pressure, make sure you have friends who will support you give each other breaks regularly. There should be supports in the community where your son can go for a week or so every now and then and will be looked after by qualified people. Rest is important with schizophrenia otherwise the difficulties of it will get on top of everyone and it will lead to much hardship. contact me if you need more advice. Good luck.
Schizophrenia's a lot more common than we like to admit. My neighbor, a grade or so ahead of me, developed it in his late teens.
The problem with psychiatric drugs is that when they work, they make you feel like you don't need to take them. So people stop taking them -especially bipolars and schizophrenics. The best thing you can do is keep him on his meds, it may take a lot of work on your part, but it will make life better for both of you.
You might try talking to a therapist, or looking up a support group for family of people with mental illness or schizophrenia in your area. With about .5-1% of the population developing schizophrenia, you should be able to find one in your area, especially if you live in a high population area.
And no. It's nothing you did, there's nothing wrong with you. We don't know what causes schizophrenia, and there's no reason to blame yourself.
I don't have a child with it my dad has schizophrenia he has had it since i was really little, and i went through alot, My parents got divorced because my mom could not handle it, and hes been on alot of meds, and in and out of the hospital, but we are closer then ever i love my dad to death and i look at him as a normal person unlike my sister and others around him, the best thing i could ever do for him is listen to him he talks to me and opens up to me more then anyone, just be there its nothing you did it just happens and he will be ok my dad does shock therapy once a month hope this makes you feel alittle better God bless
Would you blame yourself if he had diabetes? What he has is a biological consition that is in the mind, there is nothing to do aboutthat, but treat it now...I would do your absolute best to make sure he stays on his medications and for yourself, there is agreat group out there called NAMI
www.nami.com
They have not only support groups for people suffering from mental illness, but support groups for their family member and loved ones as well..it is important that you know that you are not alone in this and that other parents are going through the same thing. Rely on them for support and learn and you can help others...
Best of luck...
'; what was it that I had wrong with me to give him ';
thats whats wrong
or,
you re the most horrible person in the world.
you choose.
I really want you to know that you DID NOT give your son schizophrenia! I firmly believe that people are in many instances born with a pre-disposition to schizophrenia (and other mental illnesses) so it is not something you can give to him, his brain is just programmed with it. The amazing thing about a lot of medications is that they work but the worst thing about them working is that they help the sufferer feel well enough that they believe they do not need the medication anymore. Most people do not want to be branded as ';mentally ill'; and taking medication(s) seems to keep them labeled that way. The difficulty is that once a person feels well enough it is easy to rationalize why they don't need their medications. One of the key things in a mentally ill person improving and continuing to do well once the predominant symptoms lessen is a good professional support system. Preferably one that he has regular access to and that can help educate him on why the medications are so necessary for his well-being. The other thing for your son could possibly be a support group of high functioning mentally ill peers who could help him by sharing their own experiences with medication and the mental health system. No one can understand a schizophrenic like another schizophrenic. Along the same lines no one can understand what it is like to have a mentally ill child than a parent in a similar circumstance. There are many organizations that are dedicated to working with the mentally ill that have free support groups for the parents, family and friends of the ';patient';. For example the local N.A.M.I. (National Alliance for the Mentally Ill) in my area has meetings where loved ones can meet to discuss not only the challanges of having a mentally ill child/family member but also to discuss the rewards. A safe place where people can discuss some of the things they have done that have worked and that haven't worked. They can also enable you to set some boundaries with your son as far as what behavior you will accept and which you will not. This in no way means that you are punishing him or brandishing him but simply a way for you to help him without feeling like you are losing your own mind. Just because your son has been ';labeled'; as schizophrenic does not mean his life or your life for that matter is over. Let your son know that you love him, that you have always loved him, schizophrenic or not. Assure him that you will support him and help him to the best of your ability as he works to help himself. You will not be able to save him or spare him from his illness but you can assist him in making his life the best it can be. But you also cannot enable him to make bad choices in regards to his treatment. Your son's illness will be a challange for the both of you but I assure you it is a challange that in most cases can be met. While there is no cure at this time there are treatments and it is my hope that you both are able deal with the challanges and triumph. Best of luck to you.
What are some challenges of attending college as a working parent?
im a father of 1 soon will be 2 and im planning on attending schoolWhat are some challenges of attending college as a working parent?
It can be hard to manage your time effectively. Make sure you get organized and stay organized once you start studying. Set aside certain times to study/do assignments without interruption. Make sure you also schedule family/play time so that your kids' needs get met as well.
It can be hard to manage your time effectively. Make sure you get organized and stay organized once you start studying. Set aside certain times to study/do assignments without interruption. Make sure you also schedule family/play time so that your kids' needs get met as well.
Can a federal return be amended so that the other parent can claim the children?
I recently filed my federal reurn, but was denied due to the fact that I used my 1099T and 3 days later received a corrected 1099T from my school. My question is: After the 3 week period is up and my return is denied, would I be able to amend that return to remove the children so that my girlfriend can claim them? We live together, are not married, but the children are ours and have lived with us in the same household since they were born.Can a federal return be amended so that the other parent can claim the children?
What? Your question is completely convoluted. If you have vastly differing incomes, you will be better off seeing a JP and filing Married Filing Jointly.
How were you DENIED to file your taxes? Your return is not ';denied'; it is rejected. It's usually not rejected for using the wrong 1099, because the IRS gets the info around the same time that you do, but they don't process stuff immediately.
You need to file a 1040X. You can make any changes that you want on the 1040X. I recommend filling out a whole new 1040 and then take the two and fill out the 1040X.
There is no three week waiting period to file a 1040X.
What? Your question is completely convoluted. If you have vastly differing incomes, you will be better off seeing a JP and filing Married Filing Jointly.
How were you DENIED to file your taxes? Your return is not ';denied'; it is rejected. It's usually not rejected for using the wrong 1099, because the IRS gets the info around the same time that you do, but they don't process stuff immediately.
You need to file a 1040X. You can make any changes that you want on the 1040X. I recommend filling out a whole new 1040 and then take the two and fill out the 1040X.
There is no three week waiting period to file a 1040X.
How to teach Eskimo-Aleut to a child when the parent has to learn it first?
I have adopted an Aleut child, and want her to know and at least be able to understand her native language. does anyone have any suggestion on how to teach this language to her?How to teach Eskimo-Aleut to a child when the parent has to learn it first?
u should get someone who speaks it to teach the both of u.
my dad tried to teach me some haida when he never grew up knowin hardly any of it himself....it didn't work out. but i have learned some haida from some older people who remember some of the language.How to teach Eskimo-Aleut to a child when the parent has to learn it first?
First, try to find out as much as you can about her birth family and where they are from. When she is older, she will want to get in touch with her roots, as well as her native corporation enrollment and future scholarship programs, and will need to know the names of people and of the towns that they live or lived in.
That will also help you determine whether you want to learn Yup'ik, Suqpiaq, Aluttiq, etc.
Your next step will be to find someone to help the both of you learn. Because, as her mother, you are your daughter's first teacher. In order for her to learn, and to value what she has learned, you will have to learn, too. It will enrich your life, as well as hers.
Places to ask about looking for teachers would be non-profit native corporations from her heritage area, elders programs, museums, the University of Alaska Fairbanks campus Alaska Native Language Center, the Anchorage Alaska Native Heritage Center, etc. Keep contacting people until you find a teacher or teachers. Somewhere there will be an elder or a university student who can help you. Don't give up. You are giving your daughter an incredible gift, her language and identity, and the confidence and opportunities that knowing her heritage language will bring. You will be so glad you did this, and she will, too.sunscreen
u should get someone who speaks it to teach the both of u.
my dad tried to teach me some haida when he never grew up knowin hardly any of it himself....it didn't work out. but i have learned some haida from some older people who remember some of the language.How to teach Eskimo-Aleut to a child when the parent has to learn it first?
First, try to find out as much as you can about her birth family and where they are from. When she is older, she will want to get in touch with her roots, as well as her native corporation enrollment and future scholarship programs, and will need to know the names of people and of the towns that they live or lived in.
That will also help you determine whether you want to learn Yup'ik, Suqpiaq, Aluttiq, etc.
Your next step will be to find someone to help the both of you learn. Because, as her mother, you are your daughter's first teacher. In order for her to learn, and to value what she has learned, you will have to learn, too. It will enrich your life, as well as hers.
Places to ask about looking for teachers would be non-profit native corporations from her heritage area, elders programs, museums, the University of Alaska Fairbanks campus Alaska Native Language Center, the Anchorage Alaska Native Heritage Center, etc. Keep contacting people until you find a teacher or teachers. Somewhere there will be an elder or a university student who can help you. Don't give up. You are giving your daughter an incredible gift, her language and identity, and the confidence and opportunities that knowing her heritage language will bring. You will be so glad you did this, and she will, too.
Can an employee take FMLA leave to visit a sick parent in another country?
An employee wants to take 3 weeks of vacation to visit his family in Peru. His father is sick, but that was not initially his reason for taking time off. he put in a requst for 3 weeks and it was denied, because there is a 2 week maximum for time out for vacation. Now he is claiming he will use FMLA leave for the 3rd week of vacation because his father is sick. Is he within his rights??Can an employee take FMLA leave to visit a sick parent in another country?
If he wants to take an unpaid week to do it, and he qualifies and you are required to grant employees FMLA, I think you'd be causing yourself more grief than it's worth to deny the slacker.
I'd let it go; and have a long memory.
http://www.dol.gov/esa/whd/fmla/
If he wants to take an unpaid week to do it, and he qualifies and you are required to grant employees FMLA, I think you'd be causing yourself more grief than it's worth to deny the slacker.
I'd let it go; and have a long memory.
http://www.dol.gov/esa/whd/fmla/
I have a question for all single parents. How has a single parent in the household effected your children?
once they grew up? Has it had a negative affect on your children and how? Are your kids constantly asking you when you will get back with their father or mother? Please give me your thoughts and your experiences and how it has affected you.I have a question for all single parents. How has a single parent in the household effected your children?
Hi Cute,
I am not sure if this helps. But I grew up with both parents who will be celebrating there 25th anniversary soon and my husband has ONLY grew up with his mother. When we talk, you can hear the sadness in his voice when he talks about not having A Father in his life. My husband who will be a Father in 2009 (Hopefully)
knows how important it is for him to be there for Our children.
He does not want our children to go through what he had to.
Seeing what my husband had to go through only makes both of us want to become Better parents. In a way...A good thing came out of a negative experience.I have a question for all single parents. How has a single parent in the household effected your children?
Of COURSE it has a negative effect! You can't violate basics and not have bad effects.
Nobody doubted it (since the effects are so obvious) until the feminists in the 60s and 70s decided it shouldn't be so, and manufactured studies (which have since been thoroughly debunked) that said kids suffered no ill effects from single parenting.
In some cases, one parent might be such a bad influence that the children are LESS BAD OFF having him or her not there, but even at that, it's LESS BAD, not GOOD.
I'm a single mom, never married either. I have one 14 year old boy. It isn't having any negative affects on him, he loves doing ';everything'; with me and same goes for me, we have an extremely close bond with eachother. I adopted him last October, he had an early abusive childhood and was never used to feeling love and affection previously, so he's still getting used to it and so far he loves it!
He never asked me if I had a husband or partner either, I guess it just doesn't seem important to him. Maybe its harder or would have more affects if you have more than 1 child?
Well as I was growing up in a single family home, I realized how hard it was for my mother. When we weren't getting along, I went to live with my father..that didn't work out and I dislike my father. I now understand why it never worked out for them. Personally now, I'd for my children's father to be there. I guess I resented for mine not being there. Children will adapt to it, if anything it's positive because when they're older they'll be careful on who they choose to have their children with.
Not all single family household can have the parents back together
My mom died when I was ten
I had an Older sister(11) and an older brother(12) and two younger brother(6 and 8). My sibling ages were how old they were when my mom died.
My dad treat and gave my sister all the responsibility as an adult. This cause problem when he needed to treat her like a child.
It was very hard growing up with just a father as a girl. My dad did his best. The biggest thing that bug me, were most people let assume my mom left. She died.
My husband died when my daughter was two. Most people assume that we are divorce and he lives out of state. Rising a child by yourself is very hard. Most single parents have both parents. I just have myself. The hardest things are when dad's are suppose to be there, and it's just me.
No my child never ask if we will get back together
She does ask, if she died and goes to heaven, can she see him again
When a child losing a parent very to young, it effects you for the rest of the life
Well my k ids never asked me that becuz i was never with the father...but look i dont see any affects on my children as of now...It is tough when say ';fathers day'; comes around and every1 at school is making that stuff or when one of the kids at school say ';hey wheres you dad'; but i grew up myself w/o a father...It'd be nice to know my OTHER family but thats the only thing for me...Im not bothered too much by it but i was a mommys girl growing up...just stuck to my mother...Also now that I have read through this I think its a repetitave thing U just see these types of things hapenning more and more
Really it hasn't affected the kids too much. My wife just one day walked out on us never came back.Only my 16 year old daughter remembers that the rest of them brood can't remember her. she had some abandment issues at the time but she pretty moved on and everyone likes the family the way it is. (or so they say) But after some counceling we do ok. Yeah my 5 and 3 year old havn't really started asking and my adopted 16 year old just doesn't care because she never was part of her life and isn't a part of ours.
I am a single mother, but my daughter is only 15 months so I can't really say much right now. Only that her father is a pain in my backside, and hasn't seen her in 5 months, but is now claiming he is taking me to court for custody! So who knows how things will turn out. I am dreading the day though, that my daughter asks about. I starred your question so I could see the answers you get as well :)
Hi Cute,
I am not sure if this helps. But I grew up with both parents who will be celebrating there 25th anniversary soon and my husband has ONLY grew up with his mother. When we talk, you can hear the sadness in his voice when he talks about not having A Father in his life. My husband who will be a Father in 2009 (Hopefully)
knows how important it is for him to be there for Our children.
He does not want our children to go through what he had to.
Seeing what my husband had to go through only makes both of us want to become Better parents. In a way...A good thing came out of a negative experience.I have a question for all single parents. How has a single parent in the household effected your children?
Of COURSE it has a negative effect! You can't violate basics and not have bad effects.
Nobody doubted it (since the effects are so obvious) until the feminists in the 60s and 70s decided it shouldn't be so, and manufactured studies (which have since been thoroughly debunked) that said kids suffered no ill effects from single parenting.
In some cases, one parent might be such a bad influence that the children are LESS BAD OFF having him or her not there, but even at that, it's LESS BAD, not GOOD.
I'm a single mom, never married either. I have one 14 year old boy. It isn't having any negative affects on him, he loves doing ';everything'; with me and same goes for me, we have an extremely close bond with eachother. I adopted him last October, he had an early abusive childhood and was never used to feeling love and affection previously, so he's still getting used to it and so far he loves it!
He never asked me if I had a husband or partner either, I guess it just doesn't seem important to him. Maybe its harder or would have more affects if you have more than 1 child?
Well as I was growing up in a single family home, I realized how hard it was for my mother. When we weren't getting along, I went to live with my father..that didn't work out and I dislike my father. I now understand why it never worked out for them. Personally now, I'd for my children's father to be there. I guess I resented for mine not being there. Children will adapt to it, if anything it's positive because when they're older they'll be careful on who they choose to have their children with.
Not all single family household can have the parents back together
My mom died when I was ten
I had an Older sister(11) and an older brother(12) and two younger brother(6 and 8). My sibling ages were how old they were when my mom died.
My dad treat and gave my sister all the responsibility as an adult. This cause problem when he needed to treat her like a child.
It was very hard growing up with just a father as a girl. My dad did his best. The biggest thing that bug me, were most people let assume my mom left. She died.
My husband died when my daughter was two. Most people assume that we are divorce and he lives out of state. Rising a child by yourself is very hard. Most single parents have both parents. I just have myself. The hardest things are when dad's are suppose to be there, and it's just me.
No my child never ask if we will get back together
She does ask, if she died and goes to heaven, can she see him again
When a child losing a parent very to young, it effects you for the rest of the life
Well my k ids never asked me that becuz i was never with the father...but look i dont see any affects on my children as of now...It is tough when say ';fathers day'; comes around and every1 at school is making that stuff or when one of the kids at school say ';hey wheres you dad'; but i grew up myself w/o a father...It'd be nice to know my OTHER family but thats the only thing for me...Im not bothered too much by it but i was a mommys girl growing up...just stuck to my mother...Also now that I have read through this I think its a repetitave thing U just see these types of things hapenning more and more
Really it hasn't affected the kids too much. My wife just one day walked out on us never came back.Only my 16 year old daughter remembers that the rest of them brood can't remember her. she had some abandment issues at the time but she pretty moved on and everyone likes the family the way it is. (or so they say) But after some counceling we do ok. Yeah my 5 and 3 year old havn't really started asking and my adopted 16 year old just doesn't care because she never was part of her life and isn't a part of ours.
I am a single mother, but my daughter is only 15 months so I can't really say much right now. Only that her father is a pain in my backside, and hasn't seen her in 5 months, but is now claiming he is taking me to court for custody! So who knows how things will turn out. I am dreading the day though, that my daughter asks about. I starred your question so I could see the answers you get as well :)
What's the best way to move out of your parent's house?
It's 2008, and I'm ready to finally get my *** in gear, get a job and move out with a friend of mine. Any suggestions?What's the best way to move out of your parent's house?
i think you should have made a plan first. most landlords do credit checks, need first and last months deposit and security. they look at how long you have had a job also. as for the roommate be careful with that, most don't remain friends in the end. you might want to think about furniture, dishes, and things of that nature. it's not cheap to move out for the first time. i can't stress this enough, don't get credit cards thinking thats the way to get everything you need!What's the best way to move out of your parent's house?
Get the job first, save money then find a place to live. Good luck
Say Bye Mom Bye Dad.
Make sure you're financially ready. Most young people have no clue about how much it actually costs to live on their own.
Just make sure you have the money, and not just exactly the amount needed but extra money. You will need a security deposit in the range of 1000 and will probably have incidental costs just to start out. Make sure you can afford the rent, on time EVERY time. Today, you can really mess yourself up if you have a history of not paying rent, it will be next to impossible to get another apartment. Be CLEAR with your roommate on how you will get the bills paid and make sure this is a trustworthy person.
JOB.
I would get some boxes and rent a moving van.
i think you should have made a plan first. most landlords do credit checks, need first and last months deposit and security. they look at how long you have had a job also. as for the roommate be careful with that, most don't remain friends in the end. you might want to think about furniture, dishes, and things of that nature. it's not cheap to move out for the first time. i can't stress this enough, don't get credit cards thinking thats the way to get everything you need!What's the best way to move out of your parent's house?
Get the job first, save money then find a place to live. Good luck
Say Bye Mom Bye Dad.
Make sure you're financially ready. Most young people have no clue about how much it actually costs to live on their own.
Just make sure you have the money, and not just exactly the amount needed but extra money. You will need a security deposit in the range of 1000 and will probably have incidental costs just to start out. Make sure you can afford the rent, on time EVERY time. Today, you can really mess yourself up if you have a history of not paying rent, it will be next to impossible to get another apartment. Be CLEAR with your roommate on how you will get the bills paid and make sure this is a trustworthy person.
JOB.
I would get some boxes and rent a moving van.
Do you think teachers are nicer to parents and the kids on parent conference night?
Just has parent - teacher interview things tonight, and I went with my Mom. There is this teacher that is always so miserable and depressed, and nasty to us in class but all of a sudden she is so happy to actually be within 2 feet of a teenager. When she sat down with my Mom and me, she was smiling and crap.
Talk about acting. There was a couple of other teachers who are usually strict and mean, acting all happy.
It bothers me so much, because my parents think the teachers are all wonderful and nice when really some of them are mean. I don't think it's fare, do you?Do you think teachers are nicer to parents and the kids on parent conference night?
oh yes!! they try to act nicer and more pleasant than their usual behavior so that they can give a good impression to the parents, so that they will look qualified teachers. those kinds of teachers are hypocrites. the teachers that do not put on masks during parent teacher conference nights and be themselves are those that are genuine. =)Do you think teachers are nicer to parents and the kids on parent conference night?
I'm a teacher and we just parent/teacher conferences as well. I agree there are some teachers that act differently in and out of class. I'm who I am in and out of the classroom, unfortunately not all teachers are like that. I take my responsibility as a teacher very seriously.
I think if there's a teacher that you are having problems with then you need to let someone know. I would tell my parents and also tell the principal. I have specifics as to what is happening/wrong with the teacher. You can't just say they don't like you, you need to have something to support your words. You might be surprised how many other students feel the same way you do.
life isn't fair...i remember a big incident last year at my school where a parent assaulted a teacher cause she was rude at back to school night
Yes. They are trying to make a good impression on your parents, even if they are totally evil during the day.
A teacher will do one of two things:
1) Act really nice to the parents and kids, and that's how they really are.
2) Act really nice to the parents and kids, and they're putting up an act.
Ask the kids in the class how they act in the classroom regularly.
Of course teachers are on their best behavior in front of parents. It's all about the show. Often principals give teachers special instructions for how to be extra nice and extra enthusiastic for the parent-teacher conferences, even.
no its stupid they should act the same in class
My daughter was in fourth grade and kept insisting that her teacher was mean to everyone and I didn't beleive her. THEN, she all of a sudden stood up to the teacher to defend one of the other kids and I got called in from work for the whole incident! I told my daughter she is gonna make a GREAT lawyer!!! LOL!! Teachers are always fake to parents............my daughter will kick their A** though!!!
Welcome to the adult world of deceiving.
ALL teachers do it to impress the parents of their own skills that are lacking.
Next time stand up %26amp; politley say some thing about the situation, this will put the shoe on the other foot, stay calm, use diplomacy, dont back down if you are correct.
Tell your parents if you are not satisfied with any teachers who are treating you wrong or who are holding you back in some way.
Remember, Teachers are responsible for your Education, %26amp; not playing mind games with children.
Yes. Like if they ever graded something unfairly or yelled at you, they always stay faaar away from that subject, act super peppy, and seem to rush the conference...
Talk about acting. There was a couple of other teachers who are usually strict and mean, acting all happy.
It bothers me so much, because my parents think the teachers are all wonderful and nice when really some of them are mean. I don't think it's fare, do you?Do you think teachers are nicer to parents and the kids on parent conference night?
oh yes!! they try to act nicer and more pleasant than their usual behavior so that they can give a good impression to the parents, so that they will look qualified teachers. those kinds of teachers are hypocrites. the teachers that do not put on masks during parent teacher conference nights and be themselves are those that are genuine. =)Do you think teachers are nicer to parents and the kids on parent conference night?
I'm a teacher and we just parent/teacher conferences as well. I agree there are some teachers that act differently in and out of class. I'm who I am in and out of the classroom, unfortunately not all teachers are like that. I take my responsibility as a teacher very seriously.
I think if there's a teacher that you are having problems with then you need to let someone know. I would tell my parents and also tell the principal. I have specifics as to what is happening/wrong with the teacher. You can't just say they don't like you, you need to have something to support your words. You might be surprised how many other students feel the same way you do.
life isn't fair...i remember a big incident last year at my school where a parent assaulted a teacher cause she was rude at back to school night
Yes. They are trying to make a good impression on your parents, even if they are totally evil during the day.
A teacher will do one of two things:
1) Act really nice to the parents and kids, and that's how they really are.
2) Act really nice to the parents and kids, and they're putting up an act.
Ask the kids in the class how they act in the classroom regularly.
Of course teachers are on their best behavior in front of parents. It's all about the show. Often principals give teachers special instructions for how to be extra nice and extra enthusiastic for the parent-teacher conferences, even.
no its stupid they should act the same in class
My daughter was in fourth grade and kept insisting that her teacher was mean to everyone and I didn't beleive her. THEN, she all of a sudden stood up to the teacher to defend one of the other kids and I got called in from work for the whole incident! I told my daughter she is gonna make a GREAT lawyer!!! LOL!! Teachers are always fake to parents............my daughter will kick their A** though!!!
Welcome to the adult world of deceiving.
ALL teachers do it to impress the parents of their own skills that are lacking.
Next time stand up %26amp; politley say some thing about the situation, this will put the shoe on the other foot, stay calm, use diplomacy, dont back down if you are correct.
Tell your parents if you are not satisfied with any teachers who are treating you wrong or who are holding you back in some way.
Remember, Teachers are responsible for your Education, %26amp; not playing mind games with children.
Yes. Like if they ever graded something unfairly or yelled at you, they always stay faaar away from that subject, act super peppy, and seem to rush the conference...
Ducing meiosis i how many cells are produced from one parent cell?
help please!
also, how many cells are produced at the end of meiosis ii?
how do meiosis and mitosis differ?Ducing meiosis i how many cells are produced from one parent cell?
after meiosis I there are 2 haploid cells
after meiosis II there are 4 haploid cells
Mitosis results in 2 diploid cells (body cell, aka somatic cell)
Meiosis results in 4 haploid cells (sex cells, aka gametes)Ducing meiosis i how many cells are produced from one parent cell?
meiosis is split into two stages: meiosis I and meiosis II
by the end of meiosis II (telophase II) 4 daughter cells have been produced from the one parent cell, each containing 1/2 of the original diploid number of chromosomes (haploid)
mitosis is different because it is used for growth or generation of cells, unlike meiosis which is used in preparations of gametes for sexual reproduction. also with mitosis, the cells produced contain the same diploid number of chromosomes as the parent cell had.
meiosis 1: 2
meiosis 2: 4
In meiosis 1 the two cells produced each divide in meiosis 2
meiosis: haploid cells
mitosis: diploid cells
also, how many cells are produced at the end of meiosis ii?
how do meiosis and mitosis differ?Ducing meiosis i how many cells are produced from one parent cell?
after meiosis I there are 2 haploid cells
after meiosis II there are 4 haploid cells
Mitosis results in 2 diploid cells (body cell, aka somatic cell)
Meiosis results in 4 haploid cells (sex cells, aka gametes)Ducing meiosis i how many cells are produced from one parent cell?
meiosis is split into two stages: meiosis I and meiosis II
by the end of meiosis II (telophase II) 4 daughter cells have been produced from the one parent cell, each containing 1/2 of the original diploid number of chromosomes (haploid)
mitosis is different because it is used for growth or generation of cells, unlike meiosis which is used in preparations of gametes for sexual reproduction. also with mitosis, the cells produced contain the same diploid number of chromosomes as the parent cell had.
meiosis 1: 2
meiosis 2: 4
In meiosis 1 the two cells produced each divide in meiosis 2
meiosis: haploid cells
mitosis: diploid cells
Can people under 18 purchase vaginal thrush treatments without a parent or anything?
Home remedies for the win! Use a fresh clove of garlic, it will go away within a few days. Itchy? Plain no sugar yogurt used as a cream will fix that. Ahhh, how nice it is to not pump yourself up with harsh chemicals!
To answer the original question. Yes- but you may be allergic to some of the ingredients, so check what your medicine allergies are. Also, if by chance you have a bacterial infection and not a yeast one, over the counter products will make it worse. You'll need a prescription antibotic for that.Can people under 18 purchase vaginal thrush treatments without a parent or anything?
Vaginal Thrush is more commonly called a ';yeast infection'; and yes, you can purchase it at any age - but the best thing you can do is get a prescription for an oral antifungal (diflucan) from a doctor.
I am absolutely baffled as to why kids are so scared of involving their parents with health related issues. Trust me, your parents WANT to help you in those situations.Can people under 18 purchase vaginal thrush treatments without a parent or anything?
Yes. They'll be at the drug store near condoms and/or near pads and tampons and things. It'll set you back about 7-$20 US depending which one you pick. There is a small chance that the kit you buy at the drugstore won't take care of the problem or it will come back as soon as the treatment is over and you'll have to see a doctor about it and get a prescription for something else. However, the kits from the drugstore have never failed to work for me.
I'm not certain but I think so, it's not a presciption thing, unless it's serious maybe, and it's highly common, so i think you can get it.
only condoms..Are u talking about a douche?? Then yessunscreen
To answer the original question. Yes- but you may be allergic to some of the ingredients, so check what your medicine allergies are. Also, if by chance you have a bacterial infection and not a yeast one, over the counter products will make it worse. You'll need a prescription antibotic for that.Can people under 18 purchase vaginal thrush treatments without a parent or anything?
Vaginal Thrush is more commonly called a ';yeast infection'; and yes, you can purchase it at any age - but the best thing you can do is get a prescription for an oral antifungal (diflucan) from a doctor.
I am absolutely baffled as to why kids are so scared of involving their parents with health related issues. Trust me, your parents WANT to help you in those situations.Can people under 18 purchase vaginal thrush treatments without a parent or anything?
Yes. They'll be at the drug store near condoms and/or near pads and tampons and things. It'll set you back about 7-$20 US depending which one you pick. There is a small chance that the kit you buy at the drugstore won't take care of the problem or it will come back as soon as the treatment is over and you'll have to see a doctor about it and get a prescription for something else. However, the kits from the drugstore have never failed to work for me.
I'm not certain but I think so, it's not a presciption thing, unless it's serious maybe, and it's highly common, so i think you can get it.
only condoms..Are u talking about a douche?? Then yes
What made single parent families work during both world wars?
In Canada Australia New Zealand and other commonwealth nations -- the men left from 1914 - 18 and again in 1939 to 45
Birth rates fell significantly --almost all males between the ages of 18 and 40 were gone
Women raised the families built the bombs took over the hospitals the local schools organized the society and clothed and fed their men over seas
During 2 wars -- of 4 and 6 years --- the single parent family was the rule and not the exception -- and they managed not only to raise jr but to educate him and feed and cloth millions of soldiers including keeping the soldiers in weapons munitions and bombs while running the nation at the same time
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So what is the difference between this reality then as opposed to now ?What made single parent families work during both world wars?
People weren't as selfish back then. Or as lazy.What made single parent families work during both world wars?
They were married to their husbands
Birth rates fell significantly --almost all males between the ages of 18 and 40 were gone
Women raised the families built the bombs took over the hospitals the local schools organized the society and clothed and fed their men over seas
During 2 wars -- of 4 and 6 years --- the single parent family was the rule and not the exception -- and they managed not only to raise jr but to educate him and feed and cloth millions of soldiers including keeping the soldiers in weapons munitions and bombs while running the nation at the same time
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So what is the difference between this reality then as opposed to now ?What made single parent families work during both world wars?
People weren't as selfish back then. Or as lazy.What made single parent families work during both world wars?
They were married to their husbands
As a concerned parent, should Palin step down from the VP slot to focus on what is far more important, family?
Does not ';family values'; require valuing ones family above all else to include personal ambition?As a concerned parent, should Palin step down from the VP slot to focus on what is far more important, family?
The situation shows two things;
1. Palin is not capable of handling parenthood and a demanding job like Governor of Alaska and certainly NOT the highly demanding job of US Vice President.
2. McCain's leadership and judgement is flawed in even considering someone who is not capable of balancing the demands of parenthood with their career. As a concerned parent, should Palin step down from the VP slot to focus on what is far more important, family?
So you're saying that NO mother should be allowed to have a job, or career if they have children. And I thought that Republicans were the party being accused of wanting to keep women barefoot and pregnant. Does your concern about parenting also reach Michelle Obama, or is it OK for her to be a ';bad parent'; because she agrees with you politically? Or maybe the Obama's just don't have any ';family values';. Evidently, they don't according to your statement.
You guys are really starting to show your true colors. It was fine for a mother to be a Senator from NY and run for president, as long as she is a liberal, but let a conservative woman do the same, and it's terrible. Can you see the INCONSISTENCY?
Would you be asking this question if it were a man in this position? I don't think so, Palin looks to have a very supportive family, and I am sure they are strong enough to get through this just fine. I think you sound a little chauvinist to me.
I have had the same thought myself. With the birth of a disabled child 4 months ago, the pregnancy of her unmarried 17 year old daughter, I think her claim of family values is questionable.
family isn't more important than country, is it?
God... country... family
No,no,no... please. Let her talk on family values to american people and teach them how to be a model parent...
Yes, but did McCain put the good of the country before political stunts in picking this person to begin with. Republicans are hypocrites.
Sure, Obama should do the same. He has two young daughters to raise. Or are you the old fashion type thinking only mothers should raise the kids?
she is doing what is best for her family...should presidents and/or VP's be single with no children...
always nosnod
Thats what her excuse will be when McCain throws her under the Straight Talk express
No. Obama has 2 little girls that need him. Why arent you asking if HE should step down?
Geez, Chi, why dont you give the lady a chance? I thought you were above all of this nastiness and ugliness. Most of you people never even heard of the woman a week ago and now you are all experts on her personal life.
ADD: Her husband is a full time stay-at-home dad. Michelle is not a stay-at-home mom. By your standards, sounds like the Obamas suck as parents even more.
The situation shows two things;
1. Palin is not capable of handling parenthood and a demanding job like Governor of Alaska and certainly NOT the highly demanding job of US Vice President.
2. McCain's leadership and judgement is flawed in even considering someone who is not capable of balancing the demands of parenthood with their career. As a concerned parent, should Palin step down from the VP slot to focus on what is far more important, family?
So you're saying that NO mother should be allowed to have a job, or career if they have children. And I thought that Republicans were the party being accused of wanting to keep women barefoot and pregnant. Does your concern about parenting also reach Michelle Obama, or is it OK for her to be a ';bad parent'; because she agrees with you politically? Or maybe the Obama's just don't have any ';family values';. Evidently, they don't according to your statement.
You guys are really starting to show your true colors. It was fine for a mother to be a Senator from NY and run for president, as long as she is a liberal, but let a conservative woman do the same, and it's terrible. Can you see the INCONSISTENCY?
Would you be asking this question if it were a man in this position? I don't think so, Palin looks to have a very supportive family, and I am sure they are strong enough to get through this just fine. I think you sound a little chauvinist to me.
I have had the same thought myself. With the birth of a disabled child 4 months ago, the pregnancy of her unmarried 17 year old daughter, I think her claim of family values is questionable.
family isn't more important than country, is it?
God... country... family
No,no,no... please. Let her talk on family values to american people and teach them how to be a model parent...
Yes, but did McCain put the good of the country before political stunts in picking this person to begin with. Republicans are hypocrites.
Sure, Obama should do the same. He has two young daughters to raise. Or are you the old fashion type thinking only mothers should raise the kids?
she is doing what is best for her family...should presidents and/or VP's be single with no children...
always nosnod
Thats what her excuse will be when McCain throws her under the Straight Talk express
No. Obama has 2 little girls that need him. Why arent you asking if HE should step down?
Geez, Chi, why dont you give the lady a chance? I thought you were above all of this nastiness and ugliness. Most of you people never even heard of the woman a week ago and now you are all experts on her personal life.
ADD: Her husband is a full time stay-at-home dad. Michelle is not a stay-at-home mom. By your standards, sounds like the Obamas suck as parents even more.
At what age can a female child decide which divorced parent to live with in Oregon USA?
a little girl living in Oregon with her Dad by order of the court wants to live with her Mum, she is only 10 years old. at what age can she speak to the court for herself?At what age can a female child decide which divorced parent to live with in Oregon USA?
In the US, a child never has the choice to pick one parent over the other. Usually, the judge will listen to the wishes of any child able and willing to express them, and there is no minimum age in Oregon. (Children under twelve in some states, and fourteen in most, rarely testify in divorce proceedings, but the judge will speak to them privately in chambers. The judges I work with routinely speak with children as young as six.) However, the decision is based on many factors.
Judges are very reluctant to change physical custody with any child who's doing well. It's not likely, short of something cataclysmic, such as the father being homeless or abusing her.At what age can a female child decide which divorced parent to live with in Oregon USA?
At age 12 judges will CONSIDER the wishes of a child.
In the US, a child never has the choice to pick one parent over the other. Usually, the judge will listen to the wishes of any child able and willing to express them, and there is no minimum age in Oregon. (Children under twelve in some states, and fourteen in most, rarely testify in divorce proceedings, but the judge will speak to them privately in chambers. The judges I work with routinely speak with children as young as six.) However, the decision is based on many factors.
Judges are very reluctant to change physical custody with any child who's doing well. It's not likely, short of something cataclysmic, such as the father being homeless or abusing her.At what age can a female child decide which divorced parent to live with in Oregon USA?
At age 12 judges will CONSIDER the wishes of a child.
What are some challenges of attending college as a working parent?
im a father of 1 soon will be 2 and im planning on attending schoolWhat are some challenges of attending college as a working parent?
It will be hard, trust me I know. But I swear its so worth it in the end. My husband is going to go back to school here in a few months so he'll be working and go to school also (im no longer working so I can finish school faster). But in the end think about how much better your life and your families life will be.What are some challenges of attending college as a working parent?
My personal experience with this has show me that (at least in our case) the biggest hurdle was what to do about work/school/home-with-child schedules. Work and school both require a lot of time and effort, and chances are your partner will also be working. This all leaves little time for family, and that gets tired really fast for people who like to be close with their loved ones. I can't comment on your financial situation, nor would I ask, but things can get really tight money-wise when attending school. I'm not trying to put you off it, as I have a great deal of respect for higher education, but since you asked...
Do it!!! It is exhausting and complicated and all of those other things, but don't let parenthood stop you from living your own fulfilled life.
I continued to work full time and go to University after I had my first son. The biggest complication is balancing everything. I was lucky to have supportive family and a supportive partner - but if I could go back I would have worked part time and only went to school part time. It was too much for me at the time. After I had my second son, I was lucky to be able to work only 3 days a week (10 hour shifts) and still maintain my benefits. It left me 4 days a week to focus on school (I dropped my school load to part time) and my children. It was hard, I won't lie. But not impossible.
It might take a bit longer to get through it, but it's so worth it.
I tried it as a mom. My son was a couple months old, I worked for my father and law, and took an online class. I was too tired, of course, I was a new mom too, and I just jumped back into all of it after giving birth. It can be done, but it is hard. If your partner is supportive and willing to help out more (they will have to do more with the kids so you can work and go to school). Just plan your schedule and try to be flexible....the best you can as a parent.
For two years I was a single mom of two kids, with help from family I was able to make it. The hardest part is lack of sleep and balancing family time with school work. I found that the best time to study was when the kids were alseep. I put them to bed at 8 and did my homework and studied until 11 then went to bed myself. Up about 530 to start the day all over again....Good luck and don't let the stress get to you. It will only make it worse.
I raise three boys, run a household, work full time, and go to school full time, as well! What are some of the challenges??
1. Sleep
2. Time
3. Sleep
4. Time
5. Time
6. Time
It's hard-esp. being mom! Luckily, I work mostly on weekends, and am home 3 nights a week to have dinner with the family, BUT...I must plan things way ahead of time, everyone is on a schedule, and laundry must never fall behind. I usually do my school work while the kids are in school or when they go to bed. Sometimes I have to stop and make sure my husband remembers who I am-other than the pre-planned dinner and clean shorts-but then it's right back to the books!
What gets ya through? Keeping your eye on the prize-knowing in a few years, this life will be where we want it to be due to our dedication and hard work.
Good Luck!
There is LOTS of support out there when you do begin, so keep going!
It will be hard, trust me I know. But I swear its so worth it in the end. My husband is going to go back to school here in a few months so he'll be working and go to school also (im no longer working so I can finish school faster). But in the end think about how much better your life and your families life will be.What are some challenges of attending college as a working parent?
My personal experience with this has show me that (at least in our case) the biggest hurdle was what to do about work/school/home-with-child schedules. Work and school both require a lot of time and effort, and chances are your partner will also be working. This all leaves little time for family, and that gets tired really fast for people who like to be close with their loved ones. I can't comment on your financial situation, nor would I ask, but things can get really tight money-wise when attending school. I'm not trying to put you off it, as I have a great deal of respect for higher education, but since you asked...
Do it!!! It is exhausting and complicated and all of those other things, but don't let parenthood stop you from living your own fulfilled life.
I continued to work full time and go to University after I had my first son. The biggest complication is balancing everything. I was lucky to have supportive family and a supportive partner - but if I could go back I would have worked part time and only went to school part time. It was too much for me at the time. After I had my second son, I was lucky to be able to work only 3 days a week (10 hour shifts) and still maintain my benefits. It left me 4 days a week to focus on school (I dropped my school load to part time) and my children. It was hard, I won't lie. But not impossible.
It might take a bit longer to get through it, but it's so worth it.
I tried it as a mom. My son was a couple months old, I worked for my father and law, and took an online class. I was too tired, of course, I was a new mom too, and I just jumped back into all of it after giving birth. It can be done, but it is hard. If your partner is supportive and willing to help out more (they will have to do more with the kids so you can work and go to school). Just plan your schedule and try to be flexible....the best you can as a parent.
For two years I was a single mom of two kids, with help from family I was able to make it. The hardest part is lack of sleep and balancing family time with school work. I found that the best time to study was when the kids were alseep. I put them to bed at 8 and did my homework and studied until 11 then went to bed myself. Up about 530 to start the day all over again....Good luck and don't let the stress get to you. It will only make it worse.
I raise three boys, run a household, work full time, and go to school full time, as well! What are some of the challenges??
1. Sleep
2. Time
3. Sleep
4. Time
5. Time
6. Time
It's hard-esp. being mom! Luckily, I work mostly on weekends, and am home 3 nights a week to have dinner with the family, BUT...I must plan things way ahead of time, everyone is on a schedule, and laundry must never fall behind. I usually do my school work while the kids are in school or when they go to bed. Sometimes I have to stop and make sure my husband remembers who I am-other than the pre-planned dinner and clean shorts-but then it's right back to the books!
What gets ya through? Keeping your eye on the prize-knowing in a few years, this life will be where we want it to be due to our dedication and hard work.
Good Luck!
There is LOTS of support out there when you do begin, so keep going!
If a noncustodial parent signs for a minor child to marry, is it a legal marriage?
Would a marriage be legal if a parent (with no legal custody) signed permission for the minor child to be married?If a noncustodial parent signs for a minor child to marry, is it a legal marriage?
No.
That would be the same as asking a neighbor to sign for you.
The custodial parent is the ONLY parent with rights to sign for an underage marriage in this case. Even though the other person is a parent of the child, if they lack the custodial right to make legal decisions regarding the rights and privileges of the child in question, they cannot sign ANYTHING legally binding for the child.If a noncustodial parent signs for a minor child to marry, is it a legal marriage?
My god are you retarded answerer???
The 2nd state will show no record of a parental custodian civil proceeding from another state.
SO THE PARENT CAN STILL GRANT PERMISSION IN A STATE WHICH DOESNT HAVE KNOWLEDGE OF WHAT HAPPENED SOMEWHERE ELSE.
MORON THAT IS ALSO TRUE AND SOMEONE CAN GET MARRIED IN ENGLAND AND ALSO IN AMERICA BECAUSE STATES ARE NOT UP TO PAR WITH INFORMATION TECHNOLOGY THAT THE FEDERAL LEVEL IS
There are two types of physical custody arrangements:
1. The child resides with one parent, but both or either can make decisions for the child.
2. The child resides with one parent and that parent is given
priority on all decisions.
The terms should have been spelled out in the final divorce papers. In the case of the first, then either would be able to sign.
Please don't do something behind your custodial parent's back. They have custody for a reason.
No and why should a minor be getting married? Marriage is for the creation of babies. That is why so many people are upset about homosexual marriages, there can't be babies. A minor is not ready to pop out a child a year and definitely unable to support the babies. If the child needs sex that badly, then put the female on birth control and teach the male to use his hand.
No.
That would be the same as asking a neighbor to sign for you.
The custodial parent is the ONLY parent with rights to sign for an underage marriage in this case. Even though the other person is a parent of the child, if they lack the custodial right to make legal decisions regarding the rights and privileges of the child in question, they cannot sign ANYTHING legally binding for the child.If a noncustodial parent signs for a minor child to marry, is it a legal marriage?
My god are you retarded answerer???
The 2nd state will show no record of a parental custodian civil proceeding from another state.
SO THE PARENT CAN STILL GRANT PERMISSION IN A STATE WHICH DOESNT HAVE KNOWLEDGE OF WHAT HAPPENED SOMEWHERE ELSE.
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MORON THAT IS ALSO TRUE AND SOMEONE CAN GET MARRIED IN ENGLAND AND ALSO IN AMERICA BECAUSE STATES ARE NOT UP TO PAR WITH INFORMATION TECHNOLOGY THAT THE FEDERAL LEVEL IS
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There are two types of physical custody arrangements:
1. The child resides with one parent, but both or either can make decisions for the child.
2. The child resides with one parent and that parent is given
priority on all decisions.
The terms should have been spelled out in the final divorce papers. In the case of the first, then either would be able to sign.
Please don't do something behind your custodial parent's back. They have custody for a reason.
No and why should a minor be getting married? Marriage is for the creation of babies. That is why so many people are upset about homosexual marriages, there can't be babies. A minor is not ready to pop out a child a year and definitely unable to support the babies. If the child needs sex that badly, then put the female on birth control and teach the male to use his hand.
How to buy Family Home from parent?
How does one go about buying a home from outside of the UK. I currently live abroad, but would like to purchase the family home from my Dad, now retired , and raise my family in the home I grew up in. Just not sure where to begin. How to buy Family Home from parent?
you have to pay MARKET value for it...
e.g. he can't sell you it for 拢1 to avoid inheritance tax, which is what people used to do and they stopped that.
you probably would need a solicitor anyway, and the deed's get signed over to you.How to buy Family Home from parent?
You have two choices; he can give it to you or you can buy it from him.
If he gives it, he can give it to an offshore trust or to you personally. Either way, he will then need to live 7 years to validate the gift.
If you buy it from him at market price, you can do anything you want with it although obviously, to the extent that he has not spent it, there will be inheritance tax payable on the money on his death. This is the simplest solution if you can afford to do it.
If you or a trust receive it as a gift, it becomes much more complex. For one thing, he would need to pay you market rent if he continues to live there or it would become a 'gift with reservations'. This is a nasty situation which would not only invalidate the gift but could potentially lead to your father paying income tax on the imputed value of the rent he did not pay.
Then you or the trust will need to pay UK taxes on the income from the rent offsettable against any mortgage or other overhead.
Also, if a trust owns it, there will be capital gains tax payable by the trust when the house is ultimately sold.
Does he own it or does it have a lien? One thing you can do if he owns the property is have him put it in to a Trust naming you the Executor of the Trust. I know of people here in the States that have done it this way. Speak to an Atty to see if the same can be done there.hand soap
you have to pay MARKET value for it...
e.g. he can't sell you it for 拢1 to avoid inheritance tax, which is what people used to do and they stopped that.
you probably would need a solicitor anyway, and the deed's get signed over to you.How to buy Family Home from parent?
You have two choices; he can give it to you or you can buy it from him.
If he gives it, he can give it to an offshore trust or to you personally. Either way, he will then need to live 7 years to validate the gift.
If you buy it from him at market price, you can do anything you want with it although obviously, to the extent that he has not spent it, there will be inheritance tax payable on the money on his death. This is the simplest solution if you can afford to do it.
If you or a trust receive it as a gift, it becomes much more complex. For one thing, he would need to pay you market rent if he continues to live there or it would become a 'gift with reservations'. This is a nasty situation which would not only invalidate the gift but could potentially lead to your father paying income tax on the imputed value of the rent he did not pay.
Then you or the trust will need to pay UK taxes on the income from the rent offsettable against any mortgage or other overhead.
Also, if a trust owns it, there will be capital gains tax payable by the trust when the house is ultimately sold.
Does he own it or does it have a lien? One thing you can do if he owns the property is have him put it in to a Trust naming you the Executor of the Trust. I know of people here in the States that have done it this way. Speak to an Atty to see if the same can be done there.
How is it that being a parent is the most important/difficult job on the planet....?
but there is no application process?
I've just finished reading some appalling stories about child abuse and it got me to thinking.
Wouldn't it be great if there were some sort of screening process for people so we could sterilize the shitty parents before they screw up some innocent kid's life?How is it that being a parent is the most important/difficult job on the planet....?
I understand were you are coming from, but take it from me, someone who has worked with social services.. that bad parents come in all packages...and they know how to lie and manipulate.
What we do need is tougher laws and more funding to social services and other law enforcement agencies that do investigate abuse. One worker could have hundreds of open cases at once, there is simply no way any 1 human can keep up with everyone of those children. I personally would love to see people who have their kids taken away sterilized so they can't have anymore.How is it that being a parent is the most important/difficult job on the planet....?
It's an interesting idea, Ivy, but who gets to make the call about who's a bad parent, and who's a good one? What are the criteria? Someone who beats kids? Or just someone who can't earn a certain minimum amount each year? How about someone that just uses bad language? Surely the little darlings shouldn't hear stuff like that, should they? I know a few people who are sure they're pretty good parents, but I think that the grandparents should have been sterilized 60 or 70 years ago. But the sad part of it is, you don't know who will make a good parent or not until it's too late.
Interesting idea - but tough to put into practice.
i totally agree with u.....u need a license to drive, but even a convicted child molester can become a parent. it is wrong!! childens innocent lives should be considered more precious than ANYTHING, no matter what, or who is offended by it. I also cant see why a person could get the death penalty for killing a police officer who very well knows the danger he is in when he goes to work everyday, but if they rape and kill a 5 month old girl (baby brianna) a person gets to live out their life in prison. if anyoone deserves to die, i beleive it is the child rapists. The only reason i could think that the government isnt doing more to protect our children would be that they are the pedophiles or know one.
i do agree however the only problem is who gets to decide what makes a great parent and what makes a crappy one (other then obvious things like living in a box or drug use etc). it's not easy to tell if someone is going to be a good parent until they have kids. i have had a couple people in my family tell me they never though i would be the kind of mom that i am (loving attentive etc... ) and that they are proud of me for doing so well with my daughter. so if people based my years before children on whether or not i would be allowed to have children then i wouldn't have gotten my chance to have kids and make a good mom. it sucks that there are really crappy parents in the world but at the same time no one should have a right to say this person gets kids and this one doesn't.
I agree! The sad thing is, couples who cannot have children and choose to adopt have to go through an extremely expensive and rigorous screening process and jump through hoops. AND the birth mother has 3 months to change her mind and claim her baby. Yet deadbeat parents can repeatedly have children no matter what, pretty much.
Exactly. Something has to be done. There are so many kids out there who are wild, mean, gross, and just plain o' nasty to other little kids for no reason. Why? Because they grow up like that at home and have no good parents. If parents were to raise their child like they are suppose to with love and kindness we would have these problems so less than often. It's so sad.
I feel so sorry for all those children out there that go through so much crap it makes me sick. I just don't get child abuses. Really why do they have children if they don't even want them other than to beat them? And if you always see it on the news these child abuses don't have ONE child they have like 5 so why did they have more if they couldn't even handle the first one? It's so annoying. Poor kids...I pray for them all.
Is sterilising people in case they turn out to be bad parents the answer? Or should there be more support for parents. I am not nearly as good a parent as I should be, but feel confident I'll improve once my baby sleeps through the night. Should I be sterilised because I don't function well when sleep deprived?
I agree, people ragged on me for being young, yet there are older moms beating the crap out of their kids, or hooking at night while their kids are home alone, yet mine are very well taken care of, never left alone, never hit once, so yeah I definitely think they need to start worrying about everyone, and maybe send out random social workers out of the blue, to any ones house, just to check for signs of abuse, or neglect, might catch these SOB's before they kill their kids
I am a parent for 29 years now .and i am proud to be a mother for 4 chidren all grown up two of them with kids so i am already a grandmother, i should say not an easy to be one but yet really rewarding and self fullfilling job because you raise them with full effort ,gave education and now i see them a successful one.
But people lie on applications all the time%26gt;
many who seem like capable candidates for anything in life turn out to be incapable once they fill the position.
Sad.
I've just finished reading some appalling stories about child abuse and it got me to thinking.
Wouldn't it be great if there were some sort of screening process for people so we could sterilize the shitty parents before they screw up some innocent kid's life?How is it that being a parent is the most important/difficult job on the planet....?
I understand were you are coming from, but take it from me, someone who has worked with social services.. that bad parents come in all packages...and they know how to lie and manipulate.
What we do need is tougher laws and more funding to social services and other law enforcement agencies that do investigate abuse. One worker could have hundreds of open cases at once, there is simply no way any 1 human can keep up with everyone of those children. I personally would love to see people who have their kids taken away sterilized so they can't have anymore.How is it that being a parent is the most important/difficult job on the planet....?
It's an interesting idea, Ivy, but who gets to make the call about who's a bad parent, and who's a good one? What are the criteria? Someone who beats kids? Or just someone who can't earn a certain minimum amount each year? How about someone that just uses bad language? Surely the little darlings shouldn't hear stuff like that, should they? I know a few people who are sure they're pretty good parents, but I think that the grandparents should have been sterilized 60 or 70 years ago. But the sad part of it is, you don't know who will make a good parent or not until it's too late.
Interesting idea - but tough to put into practice.
i totally agree with u.....u need a license to drive, but even a convicted child molester can become a parent. it is wrong!! childens innocent lives should be considered more precious than ANYTHING, no matter what, or who is offended by it. I also cant see why a person could get the death penalty for killing a police officer who very well knows the danger he is in when he goes to work everyday, but if they rape and kill a 5 month old girl (baby brianna) a person gets to live out their life in prison. if anyoone deserves to die, i beleive it is the child rapists. The only reason i could think that the government isnt doing more to protect our children would be that they are the pedophiles or know one.
i do agree however the only problem is who gets to decide what makes a great parent and what makes a crappy one (other then obvious things like living in a box or drug use etc). it's not easy to tell if someone is going to be a good parent until they have kids. i have had a couple people in my family tell me they never though i would be the kind of mom that i am (loving attentive etc... ) and that they are proud of me for doing so well with my daughter. so if people based my years before children on whether or not i would be allowed to have children then i wouldn't have gotten my chance to have kids and make a good mom. it sucks that there are really crappy parents in the world but at the same time no one should have a right to say this person gets kids and this one doesn't.
I agree! The sad thing is, couples who cannot have children and choose to adopt have to go through an extremely expensive and rigorous screening process and jump through hoops. AND the birth mother has 3 months to change her mind and claim her baby. Yet deadbeat parents can repeatedly have children no matter what, pretty much.
Exactly. Something has to be done. There are so many kids out there who are wild, mean, gross, and just plain o' nasty to other little kids for no reason. Why? Because they grow up like that at home and have no good parents. If parents were to raise their child like they are suppose to with love and kindness we would have these problems so less than often. It's so sad.
I feel so sorry for all those children out there that go through so much crap it makes me sick. I just don't get child abuses. Really why do they have children if they don't even want them other than to beat them? And if you always see it on the news these child abuses don't have ONE child they have like 5 so why did they have more if they couldn't even handle the first one? It's so annoying. Poor kids...I pray for them all.
Is sterilising people in case they turn out to be bad parents the answer? Or should there be more support for parents. I am not nearly as good a parent as I should be, but feel confident I'll improve once my baby sleeps through the night. Should I be sterilised because I don't function well when sleep deprived?
I agree, people ragged on me for being young, yet there are older moms beating the crap out of their kids, or hooking at night while their kids are home alone, yet mine are very well taken care of, never left alone, never hit once, so yeah I definitely think they need to start worrying about everyone, and maybe send out random social workers out of the blue, to any ones house, just to check for signs of abuse, or neglect, might catch these SOB's before they kill their kids
I am a parent for 29 years now .and i am proud to be a mother for 4 chidren all grown up two of them with kids so i am already a grandmother, i should say not an easy to be one but yet really rewarding and self fullfilling job because you raise them with full effort ,gave education and now i see them a successful one.
But people lie on applications all the time%26gt;
many who seem like capable candidates for anything in life turn out to be incapable once they fill the position.
Sad.
Why do some people really seem to feel and say they were a good parent, when others clearly knew they were`t?
I know a few people in my own family, whom talk and seem to really feel they were good parents, when everyone in the family knows they were not.Why do some people really seem to feel and say they were a good parent, when others clearly knew they were`t?
Too look good in everyone's eyes. And any mistakes the children do the parents just has to put on the facts as the Children were the ones in fault and can not go back accuse themselves. So then this means the parents has a excuse of not being at fault.Why do some people really seem to feel and say they were a good parent, when others clearly knew they were`t?
People say it so they feel happier. There is many diffrent ways to be a good parent. having your child love you is the most important way of being a good parent.
Mabey they beleive they are but they are not.
Denial.
Too look good in everyone's eyes. And any mistakes the children do the parents just has to put on the facts as the Children were the ones in fault and can not go back accuse themselves. So then this means the parents has a excuse of not being at fault.Why do some people really seem to feel and say they were a good parent, when others clearly knew they were`t?
People say it so they feel happier. There is many diffrent ways to be a good parent. having your child love you is the most important way of being a good parent.
Mabey they beleive they are but they are not.
Denial.
Can I drive legally in Florida with my NYS Learner's permit and a parent in the car?
We are going to Florida for vacation (not becoming residents so this question is not about obtaining a Florida permit) and I want to know if it would be legal for me to drive with my mom or dad in the state of Florida. I am 16 years old.Can I drive legally in Florida with my NYS Learner's permit and a parent in the car?
';Any person with an out-of-state learners license must comply with Florida鈥檚 laws while driving in Florida. A learner鈥檚 license requires that a licensed driver 21 years or older ride in the front passenger seat. In addition, they can only drive during daylight hours during the first three months and until 10 p.m. thereafter.';
';Any person with an out-of-state learners license must comply with Florida鈥檚 laws while driving in Florida. A learner鈥檚 license requires that a licensed driver 21 years or older ride in the front passenger seat. In addition, they can only drive during daylight hours during the first three months and until 10 p.m. thereafter.';
What do i do as a parent when a teacher hits my child?
my daughters study in chinmaya vidyalaya in virugambakkam. they and other children are hit by teachers. when we try to complain to the principal, she is always unavailable. as a mother what should i do.What do i do as a parent when a teacher hits my child?
EPOCH is a new national organization which aims to end physical punishment of children by parents and other carers. Now that hitting has been almost eliminated in schools and child care institutions, it is time to end it in the home as well.
EPOCH hopes to achieve its aim through public education, research and legal reforms. EPOCH wants to see changes in attitudes to children; to see children recognized as people - and recognition that it is as wrong to hurt a child as it is to hurt another adult. Far from having a right or even a duty to hit children, parents have a right to information about non-violent ways of bringing up their children, and a duty to discipline them with their heads and hearts rather than with their hands or implements. EPOCH will work with and for parents and other organization to promote non-violent, positive methods of bringing up children.
The law protects the rest of us from violence at the hands of anyone else. Why shouldn't it protect children too?
EPOCH believes that ending physical punishment will have many positive effects:
* children can only achieve their full potential when they are recognized as individual people with rights of their own;
* the current acceptance of physical punishment helps to cause more serious child abuse;
* even `light' physical punishment can unintentionally cause significant injuries to small children;
* children who are hit by their parents learn that violent solutions are acceptable and are more likely in turn to hit their own children. Violence breeds violence.
What's so wrong with hitting children?
Better to ask ';what's right about it?'; Everybody agrees it is morally wrong to settle arguments between adult people with blows. But children are people too. Why should they of all people lack equal protection from all forms of violence - particularly when they are among the most vulnerable physically?
Physical punishments are not only morally wrong, they don't work either. A whack on the bottom may stop children for that moment. But it won't stop them doing the same thing later on because being hit does not teach them anything useful. It doesn't teach them how you want them to behave, and it doesn't teach them to try to please you. Research evidence shows that children who have been slapped or hit are usually so overwhelmed with anger and hurt feelings that they cannot remember what they were punished forWhat do i do as a parent when a teacher hits my child?
Your welcome , when i was a kid in school my teachers used to beat me , but luckly I was a girl . I ve see the news about children getting depressed by the teachers torture or insults and they commit sucide. I want to be a part of stoping this torture of children by the teachers.
complain it in the media.. go to the site.. you will find the names of the news channel and other media... send a email to them regarding the school... and see what happens next.. as if you want to fight - fight for al the other children's too...
take her out of the school and homeschool your child
If the principal is always unavailable go to the education board and make sure that you have proof, this is a blantant disregard for the rules of being a teacher and any teacher that hits a child needs to be sacked. If there are other children being hit by the teacher get their parents involved also, power in numbers.
i would never let another person hit my child in the first place that alone means you have let it get to far!
If it was me i would give this teacher a taste of there own medicine and i would wipe the floor with them.
call the person over the principal
If it not your culture for the teachers to hit your child, them hit them back.......two rights that good
With draw your child from the school and file a lawsuit. This principal is not stepping up to the plate. She's letting this teacher get by with things she shouldn't.
JACKIE F is right, I would go and knock them out. I can't believe a parent would stand back and let that happen. I certainly WOULDN'T.
Unavailable? HUH, I'd SORT out unavailable.
Grab a weapon and parents and storm the place. Drag the teachers to the street, make them naked and make them stand on one leg holding big books above their heads for 4 hours. Take pictures.
I need more facts, I'll explain. Is the teacher abusing your child for no reason or is your child behaving badly all the time? I attended my first 2 years of school in Romania where at that time punishment from the teacher was common if you did something bad. Finishing school here in the US kids were very disrespectful to their teacher, mouthing off, cursing and even hitting. So how does that teach a child to respect other people especially their senior. Don't get me wrong, the parents should teach a child respect before they even get to school but as we all know that doesn't always happen.
So my answer is find out more detail, if the teacher is abusing your child go further then the principal, keep going till your reach the highest person in charge but if your child is bad maybe you need to something about that.
file a police report and have her arrested.
where the hell are you from? It probaly legal to hit your kid.
If corporal punishment is not allowed, then report it to the school board or the police.
Call the DHS right now ...I would I would not wait another sec.
I have searched Chinmaya Vidyalaya and also Virugambakkam.
This is found to be in India in the south.
In this country, the protection from abuse is dyerbolical.
If you can speak English, then I would assume you can travel or live in such countries.
I would consider taking your girl out of India to an English speaking country that has lawas against this treatment.
I do not know if the authorities would arrest the teacher, or what can be done.
You should try seeing authorities above the teachers and head-teachers.
If not, there is no other option as a last resort, to force the teacher to stop your self.
i.e. For self defence or the defence of your little girl, threaten the teacher in some way, but ensure that you do not get found out!
It also worth considering a different school, but this could just result in the same problems.
tell the school board, the media, anybody who will listen. Or go to the teacher and lay Hell on her.
report the teacher to children services and police
Go over their head go to the superintendent,then if he or she doesn't do anything go to the school board,if that doesn't work take it to the board of education! if nothing happens then tell them you are going to get a lawyer!It's up to you and they don't want anyone to be able to correct their own children at home then when they get old enough to go to school they call them brats and hit them there.
I have found that in India theres mixed feelings about physical disclipline at schools. Some schools and even parents feel that teacher have the right to hit kids under the guise of disciplining them. The overcrowding in the education system means that teachers are more valued than the students, Hence your principal probably reluctant to let go of the teacher, in case another qualified one is hard to find. As in the rest of the world, teachers are usually underpaid and really under tremendous pressure- the classrooms sometimes have 70 kids stuffed into them. So while its not acceptable, it is understandable that the teacher would resort to the easiest means to controll the class.
But the issue is that it is legally banned in India to physically discipline the child. And how strongly do you feel about it? At a pinch are you willing to take your children out of the school? So you can and should gather the parents and go to the police, keeping in mind that at worst your kids might be asked to leave the school.
Either...
1. Take your child out of the school. However you pronounce it...
2. If corporal punishment is legal in the school, you should have thought about that before sending them to the school.
3. If they send home notes (like they do here asking permission to spank your child) sign the freaking note ';no';.
4. Sadly, complaining about it to the principal isn't going to really work because it's your word against the teacher's. Unless the teacher left a bruise, you don't have anything. I know it sucks. But that's the way it is. Principals will only respond to proof, and that's if they even care at all.
You should go to the police and have her charged with asult, she is violating your daughters human rights.
go to the cops
child services, cops, board of ed
they will fire the teacher
teachers have this thing with let them not get fired but if they hit, then they get fired so do that
Report the teacher to the board of education and police! Go down there and talk to the teacher and tell her or him that she or he is NEVER to TOUCH your child again or they will be JAILED!
Complain and let them know how you feel about your children being hit and mistreated!! Make sur eyou MAKE A POINT!!
EPOCH is a new national organization which aims to end physical punishment of children by parents and other carers. Now that hitting has been almost eliminated in schools and child care institutions, it is time to end it in the home as well.
EPOCH hopes to achieve its aim through public education, research and legal reforms. EPOCH wants to see changes in attitudes to children; to see children recognized as people - and recognition that it is as wrong to hurt a child as it is to hurt another adult. Far from having a right or even a duty to hit children, parents have a right to information about non-violent ways of bringing up their children, and a duty to discipline them with their heads and hearts rather than with their hands or implements. EPOCH will work with and for parents and other organization to promote non-violent, positive methods of bringing up children.
The law protects the rest of us from violence at the hands of anyone else. Why shouldn't it protect children too?
EPOCH believes that ending physical punishment will have many positive effects:
* children can only achieve their full potential when they are recognized as individual people with rights of their own;
* the current acceptance of physical punishment helps to cause more serious child abuse;
* even `light' physical punishment can unintentionally cause significant injuries to small children;
* children who are hit by their parents learn that violent solutions are acceptable and are more likely in turn to hit their own children. Violence breeds violence.
What's so wrong with hitting children?
Better to ask ';what's right about it?'; Everybody agrees it is morally wrong to settle arguments between adult people with blows. But children are people too. Why should they of all people lack equal protection from all forms of violence - particularly when they are among the most vulnerable physically?
Physical punishments are not only morally wrong, they don't work either. A whack on the bottom may stop children for that moment. But it won't stop them doing the same thing later on because being hit does not teach them anything useful. It doesn't teach them how you want them to behave, and it doesn't teach them to try to please you. Research evidence shows that children who have been slapped or hit are usually so overwhelmed with anger and hurt feelings that they cannot remember what they were punished forWhat do i do as a parent when a teacher hits my child?
Your welcome , when i was a kid in school my teachers used to beat me , but luckly I was a girl . I ve see the news about children getting depressed by the teachers torture or insults and they commit sucide. I want to be a part of stoping this torture of children by the teachers.
Report Abuse
complain it in the media.. go to the site.. you will find the names of the news channel and other media... send a email to them regarding the school... and see what happens next.. as if you want to fight - fight for al the other children's too...
take her out of the school and homeschool your child
If the principal is always unavailable go to the education board and make sure that you have proof, this is a blantant disregard for the rules of being a teacher and any teacher that hits a child needs to be sacked. If there are other children being hit by the teacher get their parents involved also, power in numbers.
i would never let another person hit my child in the first place that alone means you have let it get to far!
If it was me i would give this teacher a taste of there own medicine and i would wipe the floor with them.
call the person over the principal
If it not your culture for the teachers to hit your child, them hit them back.......two rights that good
With draw your child from the school and file a lawsuit. This principal is not stepping up to the plate. She's letting this teacher get by with things she shouldn't.
JACKIE F is right, I would go and knock them out. I can't believe a parent would stand back and let that happen. I certainly WOULDN'T.
Unavailable? HUH, I'd SORT out unavailable.
Grab a weapon and parents and storm the place. Drag the teachers to the street, make them naked and make them stand on one leg holding big books above their heads for 4 hours. Take pictures.
I need more facts, I'll explain. Is the teacher abusing your child for no reason or is your child behaving badly all the time? I attended my first 2 years of school in Romania where at that time punishment from the teacher was common if you did something bad. Finishing school here in the US kids were very disrespectful to their teacher, mouthing off, cursing and even hitting. So how does that teach a child to respect other people especially their senior. Don't get me wrong, the parents should teach a child respect before they even get to school but as we all know that doesn't always happen.
So my answer is find out more detail, if the teacher is abusing your child go further then the principal, keep going till your reach the highest person in charge but if your child is bad maybe you need to something about that.
file a police report and have her arrested.
where the hell are you from? It probaly legal to hit your kid.
If corporal punishment is not allowed, then report it to the school board or the police.
Call the DHS right now ...I would I would not wait another sec.
I have searched Chinmaya Vidyalaya and also Virugambakkam.
This is found to be in India in the south.
In this country, the protection from abuse is dyerbolical.
If you can speak English, then I would assume you can travel or live in such countries.
I would consider taking your girl out of India to an English speaking country that has lawas against this treatment.
I do not know if the authorities would arrest the teacher, or what can be done.
You should try seeing authorities above the teachers and head-teachers.
If not, there is no other option as a last resort, to force the teacher to stop your self.
i.e. For self defence or the defence of your little girl, threaten the teacher in some way, but ensure that you do not get found out!
It also worth considering a different school, but this could just result in the same problems.
tell the school board, the media, anybody who will listen. Or go to the teacher and lay Hell on her.
report the teacher to children services and police
Go over their head go to the superintendent,then if he or she doesn't do anything go to the school board,if that doesn't work take it to the board of education! if nothing happens then tell them you are going to get a lawyer!It's up to you and they don't want anyone to be able to correct their own children at home then when they get old enough to go to school they call them brats and hit them there.
I have found that in India theres mixed feelings about physical disclipline at schools. Some schools and even parents feel that teacher have the right to hit kids under the guise of disciplining them. The overcrowding in the education system means that teachers are more valued than the students, Hence your principal probably reluctant to let go of the teacher, in case another qualified one is hard to find. As in the rest of the world, teachers are usually underpaid and really under tremendous pressure- the classrooms sometimes have 70 kids stuffed into them. So while its not acceptable, it is understandable that the teacher would resort to the easiest means to controll the class.
But the issue is that it is legally banned in India to physically discipline the child. And how strongly do you feel about it? At a pinch are you willing to take your children out of the school? So you can and should gather the parents and go to the police, keeping in mind that at worst your kids might be asked to leave the school.
Either...
1. Take your child out of the school. However you pronounce it...
2. If corporal punishment is legal in the school, you should have thought about that before sending them to the school.
3. If they send home notes (like they do here asking permission to spank your child) sign the freaking note ';no';.
4. Sadly, complaining about it to the principal isn't going to really work because it's your word against the teacher's. Unless the teacher left a bruise, you don't have anything. I know it sucks. But that's the way it is. Principals will only respond to proof, and that's if they even care at all.
You should go to the police and have her charged with asult, she is violating your daughters human rights.
go to the cops
child services, cops, board of ed
they will fire the teacher
teachers have this thing with let them not get fired but if they hit, then they get fired so do that
Report the teacher to the board of education and police! Go down there and talk to the teacher and tell her or him that she or he is NEVER to TOUCH your child again or they will be JAILED!
Complain and let them know how you feel about your children being hit and mistreated!! Make sur eyou MAKE A POINT!!
What is the probability of producing a child that will phenotypically resemble the first parent listed?
What is the probability of producing a child that will phenotypically resemble the first parent listed?
a. AaBbCcDd x aabbccdd
b. aabbccdd x AABBCCDD
c. AaBbCcDd x AaBbCcDd
d. aabbccdd x aabbccddWhat is the probability of producing a child that will phenotypically resemble the first parent listed?
First you can split the genotypes into individual gene. Then you calculate the probability of the crosses to have a child with the same genotypes as the first parents.
a.
Aa x aa --%26gt; 1/2Aa : 1/2aa
Bb x bb --%26gt; 1/2Bb : 1/2bb
Cc x cc --%26gt; 1/2Cc : 1/2cc
Dd x dd --%26gt; 1/2Dd : 1/2dd
The probability of a child with genotype AaBbCcDd = 1/2 x 1/2 x 1/2 x 1/2 = 1/16
b. 0 x 0 x 0 x 0 = 0
c. 1/2 x 1/2 x 1/2 x 1/2 = 1/16
d. 1 x 1 x 1 x 1 = 1 (All would be aabbccdd)
a. AaBbCcDd x aabbccdd
b. aabbccdd x AABBCCDD
c. AaBbCcDd x AaBbCcDd
d. aabbccdd x aabbccddWhat is the probability of producing a child that will phenotypically resemble the first parent listed?
First you can split the genotypes into individual gene. Then you calculate the probability of the crosses to have a child with the same genotypes as the first parents.
a.
Aa x aa --%26gt; 1/2Aa : 1/2aa
Bb x bb --%26gt; 1/2Bb : 1/2bb
Cc x cc --%26gt; 1/2Cc : 1/2cc
Dd x dd --%26gt; 1/2Dd : 1/2dd
The probability of a child with genotype AaBbCcDd = 1/2 x 1/2 x 1/2 x 1/2 = 1/16
b. 0 x 0 x 0 x 0 = 0
c. 1/2 x 1/2 x 1/2 x 1/2 = 1/16
d. 1 x 1 x 1 x 1 = 1 (All would be aabbccdd)
Why is it important for a parent plant to disperse its seeds?
Put on your thinking cap...! If the seeds were not dispersed, they would not germinate and there would be no more baby plants to grow up to be mommies and daddies.
Seed dispersal is vital for continuity of the species (meaning- so it won't become extinct!Why is it important for a parent plant to disperse its seeds?
The reproductory process allows the seedlings to carry on the same traits of the mother plant and ensure the survival of the species. Some plants such as the Cesalpinia (Pride of Barbados) will release its seeds with such a force as to throw the seeds away from the mother plant so as not to be shaded by the parent. This way ample sunlight can germinate the seeds and ensure the survival mechanism.Why is it important for a parent plant to disperse its seeds?
why is it, that its important for any organism to reproduce..?
Seed dispersal is vital for continuity of the species (meaning- so it won't become extinct!Why is it important for a parent plant to disperse its seeds?
The reproductory process allows the seedlings to carry on the same traits of the mother plant and ensure the survival of the species. Some plants such as the Cesalpinia (Pride of Barbados) will release its seeds with such a force as to throw the seeds away from the mother plant so as not to be shaded by the parent. This way ample sunlight can germinate the seeds and ensure the survival mechanism.Why is it important for a parent plant to disperse its seeds?
why is it, that its important for any organism to reproduce..?
Any Tips for Surviving Living with Parent?
My mom and I do not get along at all. I've been planning what to do when I move out since I was 10. But it's getting worse since I've been getting older. Emancipation isn't an option, so any tips for surviving the next 2 years?Any Tips for Surviving Living with Parent?
I don't know what your mother does... I can only refer to mine. Nevertheless, I think, I know what you feel like...
In my case I had to try to not listen. Listening only lead to more hurt. Don't listen. Don't answer. And doing something that shows you, you can do things is a good way, too.
Stay away from strange people, unsafe places and unhealthy thoughts. Throw bottles against walls to get rid from hate and anger. And do sports to route that energy where it doesn't hurt anybody, you included.
And watch out for the others - heavy sarcasm with people who understand helps a whole lot.
Believe me, the last two years you will make it alive - imagine how you'll never answer the phone when she will be lonely once you're gone - and believe me, she will be ;)
You can do that - you wanna win, don't you?! :)Any Tips for Surviving Living with Parent?
Do what you can to keep peace in the house and contribute what you're expected to as long as it's within reason.
It may not be a lot of fun but you can get along if you treat it a little like business (your mom may have to have the same philosophy). In the long run, you'll be better prepared for life in the workplace if you can make it through this adversity. You'll always have coworkers or bosses that rub you the wrong way, and some of them may actually take pleasure in trying to make your life miserable. If you can deal with that, you'll have the opportunity to go farther, or at least reduce stress.
It's difficult to answer this question without knowing you and your mom, and especially what's making your relationship so difficult.
It's easy to say everyone has tensions with their mother and that it usually gets better with time, but of course I don't know your situation so I could just be assuming the best. Elaborate on this question and we may be able to provide you with more help.
I've been in the same boat. Now I only have to wait 110 days. Almost there!
Getting a job is vital. It gets you out of the house, and it gets you money so you can move out once you're 18.
Try to avoid conflict, I know how hard it can be but it helps.
Try keeping a positive attitude. Time flies by fast and you'll be out of there sooner than you think.
And when all else fails kill her with kindness. It sucks, but it pisses them off...
Best of luck to you!
if there are things that you do that set her off, then avoid that. Get a job if you can, keep yourself busy, keep your school work up... maybe join a club or organization that makes you feel like someone needs you around - volunteer work is great too. If you have a nice church or senior center around, they usually have work you can do too.
It makes you feel better about your own situations when you can help others that feel down about their own lives.
Save your money for moving out!
good luck
How about your dad or any other relative who might take you in for the next years till you are legally an adult.As for you and your mum,maybe counseling or make some compromises the BOTH of you....I quess for your mum its stressy too,you are not the only one who suffers,im sure
Keep busy with things that will benefit you in the future.Try and ignore as best you can the family politics and be civilized so as no to cause arguments you can then be blamed for! good luck.
Move in with a grandparent or something. That's what I did! :]
If she's anything like my mom, there is no pleasing her. Don't do drugs? She's not happy. Get good grades? Still not happy. Just got to deal with it.
Get a job and don't get high or drunk and focus on your studies so you're busy and can avoid confrontations
ya, keep your mouth shut and behave.
I don't know what your mother does... I can only refer to mine. Nevertheless, I think, I know what you feel like...
In my case I had to try to not listen. Listening only lead to more hurt. Don't listen. Don't answer. And doing something that shows you, you can do things is a good way, too.
Stay away from strange people, unsafe places and unhealthy thoughts. Throw bottles against walls to get rid from hate and anger. And do sports to route that energy where it doesn't hurt anybody, you included.
And watch out for the others - heavy sarcasm with people who understand helps a whole lot.
Believe me, the last two years you will make it alive - imagine how you'll never answer the phone when she will be lonely once you're gone - and believe me, she will be ;)
You can do that - you wanna win, don't you?! :)Any Tips for Surviving Living with Parent?
Do what you can to keep peace in the house and contribute what you're expected to as long as it's within reason.
It may not be a lot of fun but you can get along if you treat it a little like business (your mom may have to have the same philosophy). In the long run, you'll be better prepared for life in the workplace if you can make it through this adversity. You'll always have coworkers or bosses that rub you the wrong way, and some of them may actually take pleasure in trying to make your life miserable. If you can deal with that, you'll have the opportunity to go farther, or at least reduce stress.
It's difficult to answer this question without knowing you and your mom, and especially what's making your relationship so difficult.
It's easy to say everyone has tensions with their mother and that it usually gets better with time, but of course I don't know your situation so I could just be assuming the best. Elaborate on this question and we may be able to provide you with more help.
I've been in the same boat. Now I only have to wait 110 days. Almost there!
Getting a job is vital. It gets you out of the house, and it gets you money so you can move out once you're 18.
Try to avoid conflict, I know how hard it can be but it helps.
Try keeping a positive attitude. Time flies by fast and you'll be out of there sooner than you think.
And when all else fails kill her with kindness. It sucks, but it pisses them off...
Best of luck to you!
if there are things that you do that set her off, then avoid that. Get a job if you can, keep yourself busy, keep your school work up... maybe join a club or organization that makes you feel like someone needs you around - volunteer work is great too. If you have a nice church or senior center around, they usually have work you can do too.
It makes you feel better about your own situations when you can help others that feel down about their own lives.
Save your money for moving out!
good luck
How about your dad or any other relative who might take you in for the next years till you are legally an adult.As for you and your mum,maybe counseling or make some compromises the BOTH of you....I quess for your mum its stressy too,you are not the only one who suffers,im sure
Keep busy with things that will benefit you in the future.Try and ignore as best you can the family politics and be civilized so as no to cause arguments you can then be blamed for! good luck.
Move in with a grandparent or something. That's what I did! :]
If she's anything like my mom, there is no pleasing her. Don't do drugs? She's not happy. Get good grades? Still not happy. Just got to deal with it.
Get a job and don't get high or drunk and focus on your studies so you're busy and can avoid confrontations
ya, keep your mouth shut and behave.
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