My niece just told her mom she was pregnant. Her mom replied: '; I know how to take care of that real quick'; and vowed to take her asap to have an abortion against her daughter's will. Is this legal?In Texas, can a parent force their 14 year old daughter to get an abortion?
No. It's not legal, because it's not her body. Unfortunately, it is 14 year olds decision on whether or not she wants to keep the pregnancy.In Texas, can a parent force their 14 year old daughter to get an abortion?
I think you should talk to her about what her reasons for wanting to have the child are. If they are stupid like she thinks she is going to marry the father and thats a big part of it well she shouldn't be having the kid because that fantasy is so far out there. Also how many months along is she. I believe if only 2 or 3 months she can just take the magic pills and presto no more bun in the oven but I haven't looked it up in a long time. Its going to be a hard decision either way. I like her thinking because its very positive and spiritual to a degree. I talked to a lady one time who had gotten an abortion and she said it took her years to realize that god loves her and forgives her. The child is 14 though so me personally I would not hold it against her. As others said its her body.
i think the mother have no right to force her daughter to go for an abortion cos they should find out who is the guy that got her daughter pregnant. sit down talk with the guy parents to see what they think if they want their son to take the responsiblity then ur aunt can not force ur niece to go abortion any more. if that guy parents want her to go for an abortion then it is really unfortunate for ur niece and the parents of that guy are being un human to a little life. what i think is to bring ur aunt and niece to go see a councillor and see what they could help ur niece.
No. All she'd need to do is tell the doctor that she didn't want to do this and he wouldn't. Then she needs to find a new place to live, because her mom will likely put her into foster care. Her mom can't force her to get an abortion, but she can't force her mom to support her baby.
I don't believe in ABORTION!!
she should keep the baby...
if she believes in GOD
boy i want to say no but parents rights over Minor and all not sure and even after whats the crime?
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
Can I drop out of high school at age 17 without parent approval?
I live in Florida. School is hell for me, and I hate every second of it. I'm not staying in school so don't try and change my mind.Can I drop out of high school at age 17 without parent approval?
There is no state in the union with compulsory education laws for minors of greater age than fifteen.
So, that means that you actually wound up staying in school at least a whole year longer than you had to.
But, don't take my word for it: simply walk into your high school office and tell the receptionist that you've decided to drop out, and that you are just there to turn your textbooks back in and obtain the final list of any fees or dues you still owe.
Expect them to tell you to go to class (it's how they get the money from their sponsors that gets them paid), and to threaten you with detention, but remain resolute and continue to inform them that the only direction you will be heading once you leave the office is off-campus.
Once they tell you that they're calling the police, is the sign that they recognize their own lack of authority to impose any kind of punishment upon you.
At that point, simply walk out.
Then, of course, I would strongly recommend you sign up at your local community college. College classes are OH SO MUCH less hellish than anything they force you into in high school. This is because NOBODY is forced to attend college, and they know that if they don't make classes worthwhile, they won't be able to keep students coming, which is how THEY earn their paychecks.
So, even though I am NOT trying to talk you out of staying in high school, I AM trying to encourage you into continuing your education. College is NOT the hell that high schools most definitely can become.
Get your GED, get an Associate's Degree, and earn some scholarships. You'll be grateful, when you do.Can I drop out of high school at age 17 without parent approval?
????
I always hated school, but my state's compulsory education law applied until I was 17 and by then I was already about a week into my senior year.
In Florida, compulsory education laws no longer apply at 16, with the exception of Manatee County, where the compulsory education laws cease to apply at 18 (source: http://www.infoplease.com/ipa/A0112617.h鈥?/a> ).
If you're in your Senior year, you've only got a few months left, so it would not make much sense to drop out.
If you want to drop out, you should take the GED test, which is the equivalent of a diploma once you are able to do so. Alot of employers like to see a diploma or GED and having a GED leaves open the possibility to attend college later if you decide that you want to do so.
I'm very familiar with all the problems in the school system. I'm well aware that the schools tend to cause hatred of learning in, at the very least, a minority of students. I'm also aware of attending high school causing mental health problems. It is unfortunate that most of the country fails to pay attention to what is going on in the schools. The fact that you hate school and want to drop out is proof that the school is not doing its job properly.
Guess there will be one more welfare checking coming out of the gov't offices. Great choice kid.
nooo you can't even do it with parent approval jail time and some other stuff
Yes
you're gonna regret that decision A LOT in 5 years.
TRUST ME. I HATED school, and I still do, but I am EXTREMELY glad I finished it. That diploma makes sure I don't work at Wal Mart til I'm 50.
I think you can here in PA. Try it!
I'm feel sorry for you knowing everything at 17 you've only got one more year to go. Seriously think about this.
Are you planning on getting a GED soon after you drop out?
No one will hire you with out some kind of graduation or certificate. So the best you'll be able to do is flippin burgers or working at Walmart in some menial part time job.
Not much to look forward to and an awful lot to regret.
Oh and if MOM WILL LET YOU, you'll be living with her for a really long time too.
yes you can, whether you should or not is a different question. If you drop out of school you are almost certainly making the worst decision of your life, one that will effect everything you do in the future.
Sure, just stop going.
You have to check the laws for your state.
In Cali, I Think you need to be 18 to drop out.
However, I really dont encouraged since the old cliche proves true that education is your path to a better futre
I don't know I think u can.
um i am pretty sure you can.
i am a senior right now i have 5 months of school left.
i mean i personally hate school, i hate teachers, i hate knowing that everything i do is based on how good the person before me did because it all only matters about grades. and everyone telling you that dropping out is a bad idea, **** em.
get your GED, you must, this is true. but honestly a GED and a high school diploma are no different, the only true difference is that most people who get there GED don't give a **** anymore and dont try hard afterwords.
if u stick with what u want to do u can,
go get into a community college and advance in your life.
but it is how much u want it. do what feels right to you.
p.s. i am getting my GED
It depends on your state. In some states, it is 16. Other states require you to be 18.
There is no state in the union with compulsory education laws for minors of greater age than fifteen.
So, that means that you actually wound up staying in school at least a whole year longer than you had to.
But, don't take my word for it: simply walk into your high school office and tell the receptionist that you've decided to drop out, and that you are just there to turn your textbooks back in and obtain the final list of any fees or dues you still owe.
Expect them to tell you to go to class (it's how they get the money from their sponsors that gets them paid), and to threaten you with detention, but remain resolute and continue to inform them that the only direction you will be heading once you leave the office is off-campus.
Once they tell you that they're calling the police, is the sign that they recognize their own lack of authority to impose any kind of punishment upon you.
At that point, simply walk out.
Then, of course, I would strongly recommend you sign up at your local community college. College classes are OH SO MUCH less hellish than anything they force you into in high school. This is because NOBODY is forced to attend college, and they know that if they don't make classes worthwhile, they won't be able to keep students coming, which is how THEY earn their paychecks.
So, even though I am NOT trying to talk you out of staying in high school, I AM trying to encourage you into continuing your education. College is NOT the hell that high schools most definitely can become.
Get your GED, get an Associate's Degree, and earn some scholarships. You'll be grateful, when you do.Can I drop out of high school at age 17 without parent approval?
????
I always hated school, but my state's compulsory education law applied until I was 17 and by then I was already about a week into my senior year.
In Florida, compulsory education laws no longer apply at 16, with the exception of Manatee County, where the compulsory education laws cease to apply at 18 (source: http://www.infoplease.com/ipa/A0112617.h鈥?/a> ).
If you're in your Senior year, you've only got a few months left, so it would not make much sense to drop out.
If you want to drop out, you should take the GED test, which is the equivalent of a diploma once you are able to do so. Alot of employers like to see a diploma or GED and having a GED leaves open the possibility to attend college later if you decide that you want to do so.
I'm very familiar with all the problems in the school system. I'm well aware that the schools tend to cause hatred of learning in, at the very least, a minority of students. I'm also aware of attending high school causing mental health problems. It is unfortunate that most of the country fails to pay attention to what is going on in the schools. The fact that you hate school and want to drop out is proof that the school is not doing its job properly.
Guess there will be one more welfare checking coming out of the gov't offices. Great choice kid.
nooo you can't even do it with parent approval jail time and some other stuff
Yes
you're gonna regret that decision A LOT in 5 years.
TRUST ME. I HATED school, and I still do, but I am EXTREMELY glad I finished it. That diploma makes sure I don't work at Wal Mart til I'm 50.
I think you can here in PA. Try it!
I'm feel sorry for you knowing everything at 17 you've only got one more year to go. Seriously think about this.
Are you planning on getting a GED soon after you drop out?
No one will hire you with out some kind of graduation or certificate. So the best you'll be able to do is flippin burgers or working at Walmart in some menial part time job.
Not much to look forward to and an awful lot to regret.
Oh and if MOM WILL LET YOU, you'll be living with her for a really long time too.
yes you can, whether you should or not is a different question. If you drop out of school you are almost certainly making the worst decision of your life, one that will effect everything you do in the future.
Sure, just stop going.
You have to check the laws for your state.
In Cali, I Think you need to be 18 to drop out.
However, I really dont encouraged since the old cliche proves true that education is your path to a better futre
I don't know I think u can.
um i am pretty sure you can.
i am a senior right now i have 5 months of school left.
i mean i personally hate school, i hate teachers, i hate knowing that everything i do is based on how good the person before me did because it all only matters about grades. and everyone telling you that dropping out is a bad idea, **** em.
get your GED, you must, this is true. but honestly a GED and a high school diploma are no different, the only true difference is that most people who get there GED don't give a **** anymore and dont try hard afterwords.
if u stick with what u want to do u can,
go get into a community college and advance in your life.
but it is how much u want it. do what feels right to you.
p.s. i am getting my GED
It depends on your state. In some states, it is 16. Other states require you to be 18.
Should the state be able to remove a child from a parent because the child is severely obese?
There is a child that goes to the preschool that I work at. He is 6 yrs old and is very obese. Anytime he says he is hungry (she is the preschool's cook) she tries to get him more food. Not healthy food...food like McDonalds and other unhealthy foods.Should the state be able to remove a child from a parent because the child is severely obese?
well you have to do something. that is a shame. give that women a slap of reality.Should the state be able to remove a child from a parent because the child is severely obese?
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well you have to do something. that is a shame. give that women a slap of reality.Should the state be able to remove a child from a parent because the child is severely obese?
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Where can a single parent get a grant or low interest loan to purchase a manufactured home?
I suggest you check out non profits, who are the recipients of most housing grants. Check out Habitat for Humanity.
Also visit the Nehemiah Corp as they have a downpayment assistance program for qualified lenders http://www.getdownpayment.com/
The Housing and Urban Development in their Grants Available page makes it clear that they do not provide grants to individuals -- hence no grants for a person to buy a home http://www.hud.gov/grants/index.cfm
';While HUD does not offer direct grants or loans to individuals, we do work through local governments and non-profit organizations to make financial assistance and counseling available.';
You can go to the Catalog of Federal Domestic Assistance (CFDA) http://www.cfda.gov and Grants.gov http://www.grants.gov - these are two FREE sites created by the federal government to provide transparency and information on grants. Browse through the listings and see if you can find any grant that would support your purposes.
Or check with your realtor/mortgage broker if you can qualify for a FHA loan http://www.fha.com/Where can a single parent get a grant or low interest loan to purchase a manufactured home?
Fortunately, the internet has opened up a host of opportunities to obtain such loans. There are websites that specialize in just that. Furthermore, there are traditional lenders that offer an online application pathway%26lt;!--provides you with provisional acceptance depending upon your ability to prove your statements to the lender. This streamlines the lending process and gets rid of a lot of borrowing anxiety. If you meet specified criteria and can prove that you do, then you will definitely get the loan.
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How to get a particular loan should only be one aspect of your research, the other (even more important) things you need to take into account are the terms and conditions of the loan, your ability to make the monthly--%26gt;payments and whether or not you will need to put up real estate as security.Once you have taken the time to ask yourself some searching questions and also get some reliable answers from lenders, you will be in a much better position to choose a loan.sunscreen
Also visit the Nehemiah Corp as they have a downpayment assistance program for qualified lenders http://www.getdownpayment.com/
The Housing and Urban Development in their Grants Available page makes it clear that they do not provide grants to individuals -- hence no grants for a person to buy a home http://www.hud.gov/grants/index.cfm
';While HUD does not offer direct grants or loans to individuals, we do work through local governments and non-profit organizations to make financial assistance and counseling available.';
You can go to the Catalog of Federal Domestic Assistance (CFDA) http://www.cfda.gov and Grants.gov http://www.grants.gov - these are two FREE sites created by the federal government to provide transparency and information on grants. Browse through the listings and see if you can find any grant that would support your purposes.
Or check with your realtor/mortgage broker if you can qualify for a FHA loan http://www.fha.com/Where can a single parent get a grant or low interest loan to purchase a manufactured home?
Fortunately, the internet has opened up a host of opportunities to obtain such loans. There are websites that specialize in just that. Furthermore, there are traditional lenders that offer an online application pathway%26lt;!--provides you with provisional acceptance depending upon your ability to prove your statements to the lender. This streamlines the lending process and gets rid of a lot of borrowing anxiety. If you meet specified criteria and can prove that you do, then you will definitely get the loan.
http://best-loans.awardspace.com/
How to get a particular loan should only be one aspect of your research, the other (even more important) things you need to take into account are the terms and conditions of the loan, your ability to make the monthly--%26gt;payments and whether or not you will need to put up real estate as security.Once you have taken the time to ask yourself some searching questions and also get some reliable answers from lenders, you will be in a much better position to choose a loan.
I'm a single parent of 2 special needs adults. How can I make more money to make ends meet each month?
I make $27800 at my job a year %26amp; my children's SSI payments are $18109 a year. Right now with all my bills, I'm barely making ends meet. My credit is terrible from a past bankrupcy, I need help now so I don't have to sell my home. I'm really at my wits end.I'm a single parent of 2 special needs adults. How can I make more money to make ends meet each month?
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Buy fluorescent bulbs for all the rooms in your house and buy a 2002 Toyota Prius or a 2002 Honda Insight. (You will save thousands of dollars in gasoline each year)
Do you have to be home at all times? My hubby and I did two local paper routes for a while, we were gone just over two hours every morning, and made $63 a day. It wasn't very fun, and it got old having to get up every single day no matter what, but it was a ton of extra money for us %26amp; was a job that my husband could do before he went to work, and that allowed us to stay home with our daughter- if your main job isn't early in the morning, maybe you could fit something like that in...
You might be able to obtain some help from your local family and children services. It is usually listed as a county department or agency. If they are unable to help you they probably know where you could attain some assistance.
Increasing your income could really help. Selling stuff (like a car, house, sofa, whatever), another job or some overtime is a good short-term solution assuming that the spending is in order.
$27k might hurt now but you should think about what you want to be earning in 5 years. You don鈥檛 want to be in the same situation income-wise. You can find a way to kick up that incomer over 5 years. You have been though a bankruptcy once and are feeling the pinch again; you have to get out of that cycle.
There are many ways to work with BeautiControl. They train you to have Spa parties in which you can customize skincare the guests, sell spa/body products and cosmetics. They also train you to determine peoples ';seasons'; and which colors are best for them both in wardrobe and cosmetics, with make-up application techniques. Another route is being Bridal consultant, they supply everything you need to help brides with there big day, regarding dress type, hair style %26amp; veil choice, skincare, make-up and relaxation techniques. Another option is going in to businesses and having mini stress breaks.
I have hosted parties at my house, gone to peoples houses and hosted parties for them, gone into businesses for the stress breaks and now I use the products with my massage clients. The products are wonderful and they sell themselves.
I am pretty new to BC, but so far I love it. I joined for the skincare because I had heard wonderful things about it, and because to remain a consultant and receive the discount on the skincare you just have to place a $100 retail order every 3 months. (minus discount). Now I am building a business for myself, so I can stay at home with my little girl, she is one month old.
BC supplies everything to start your own business. All for $99, what an opportunity!
It's usually $250 to join and receive over $500 in products but this month it's $99!
If you are interested, email me or check out my site listed below in sources.
Good Luck!
Barbie
1029211I'm a single parent of 2 special needs adults. How can I make more money to make ends meet each month?
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If you want to do surveys I have best ones in my blog here:
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Buy fluorescent bulbs for all the rooms in your house and buy a 2002 Toyota Prius or a 2002 Honda Insight. (You will save thousands of dollars in gasoline each year)
Do you have to be home at all times? My hubby and I did two local paper routes for a while, we were gone just over two hours every morning, and made $63 a day. It wasn't very fun, and it got old having to get up every single day no matter what, but it was a ton of extra money for us %26amp; was a job that my husband could do before he went to work, and that allowed us to stay home with our daughter- if your main job isn't early in the morning, maybe you could fit something like that in...
You might be able to obtain some help from your local family and children services. It is usually listed as a county department or agency. If they are unable to help you they probably know where you could attain some assistance.
Increasing your income could really help. Selling stuff (like a car, house, sofa, whatever), another job or some overtime is a good short-term solution assuming that the spending is in order.
$27k might hurt now but you should think about what you want to be earning in 5 years. You don鈥檛 want to be in the same situation income-wise. You can find a way to kick up that incomer over 5 years. You have been though a bankruptcy once and are feeling the pinch again; you have to get out of that cycle.
How to set up a support group for parent and children for siblings who have died?
You can go to Yahoo groups, and start one there.How to set up a support group for parent and children for siblings who have died?
Whatever your local free paper is like we have a horse trader, willow tree or pennysaver (all free to pick up but not free to advertise) and put an ad of where and when ( maybe a church or your home) have coffee and little debbies, and tissues ready. Then go, week one may not bring anyone but as people notice more will come.How to set up a support group for parent and children for siblings who have died?
start off by making an internet site, and also you could provide counselling , take a basic course in counselling. You could advertise your site in shop windows and as leafleats. In newspapers, they will advertise it. Good luck! =D
you can try going through a church..better yet a hospital social worker maybe. not sure if thats what you mean or you setting up your own personal like ';at home'; group. then you would prob have to look into mental medical health.
i don't esakuly know how, but when i wa 5 and this year i went to hospice for my mom so you can probably ask hospice
hopes this helps
online? try meetup.com
Whatever your local free paper is like we have a horse trader, willow tree or pennysaver (all free to pick up but not free to advertise) and put an ad of where and when ( maybe a church or your home) have coffee and little debbies, and tissues ready. Then go, week one may not bring anyone but as people notice more will come.How to set up a support group for parent and children for siblings who have died?
start off by making an internet site, and also you could provide counselling , take a basic course in counselling. You could advertise your site in shop windows and as leafleats. In newspapers, they will advertise it. Good luck! =D
you can try going through a church..better yet a hospital social worker maybe. not sure if thats what you mean or you setting up your own personal like ';at home'; group. then you would prob have to look into mental medical health.
i don't esakuly know how, but when i wa 5 and this year i went to hospice for my mom so you can probably ask hospice
hopes this helps
online? try meetup.com
What would you do if you were a parent and saw your kids (boy and girl both 18) making out and fooling around?
And both were yours by blood not step kids. What would you do? how would you react?What would you do if you were a parent and saw your kids (boy and girl both 18) making out and fooling around?
I suppose I would confront them while they were doing it and just stand there. I would let them do the talking. Silence is sometimes better then words. And really what can you say to that other then ';this is wrong';.What would you do if you were a parent and saw your kids (boy and girl both 18) making out and fooling around?
Well... First even of they are 18 they are in your house and they should obey ur rules. If they are not willing to obey them them strip them of the privileges u offer them. BUT first have the talk with them and re-establish the rules. Make sure they understand what u expect of them. What u will not have in your house, and what will follow if they do it again. This is also a good time to talk about safe sex, and put ur daughter on birth control EVEN if she says she is not having sex. Tell her it makes her periods smoother and will give her better skin. Because too many kids are getting pregnant. I was 20 when I got prgnant and now I wish my mom forced me on the pill in a sneaky way.lol Now im 25 and see too many of my friends not taking it because they say they will get fat, and guess what... got pregnant.But thats the only full proof way. Anyway.. Its just important to talk with ur kids and show them that that they are disrespecting your house. Also never keep them unsupervised. No boyfriend or girlfriend in the room, and they can only hang out in common areas. No matter hold old they are still children and mom and dad are still providing for them. They would be lost in the big bad world alone, and they need u to stay tough too. Good luck. BTW I have a 16 year old sister so I know what ur going through and I was there with my parents not to long ago. So this is my perspective on it.
Cry.
Shout at them.
Probably end up hitting them.
Throw them the fcuk out my house.
Not talk to them for a long long time.
Cry some more.
That would disgust me, i don't know how i'll react because i would be so mad and i might hurt them so much or separate them for good.
I would be so disgusted and i would of Fu(ked them both up!
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snatch'em both bald headed and kick there ***'s out of the house
i would freak out! they are brother and sister! ew! you might wanna put them in counseling
I suppose I would confront them while they were doing it and just stand there. I would let them do the talking. Silence is sometimes better then words. And really what can you say to that other then ';this is wrong';.What would you do if you were a parent and saw your kids (boy and girl both 18) making out and fooling around?
Well... First even of they are 18 they are in your house and they should obey ur rules. If they are not willing to obey them them strip them of the privileges u offer them. BUT first have the talk with them and re-establish the rules. Make sure they understand what u expect of them. What u will not have in your house, and what will follow if they do it again. This is also a good time to talk about safe sex, and put ur daughter on birth control EVEN if she says she is not having sex. Tell her it makes her periods smoother and will give her better skin. Because too many kids are getting pregnant. I was 20 when I got prgnant and now I wish my mom forced me on the pill in a sneaky way.lol Now im 25 and see too many of my friends not taking it because they say they will get fat, and guess what... got pregnant.But thats the only full proof way. Anyway.. Its just important to talk with ur kids and show them that that they are disrespecting your house. Also never keep them unsupervised. No boyfriend or girlfriend in the room, and they can only hang out in common areas. No matter hold old they are still children and mom and dad are still providing for them. They would be lost in the big bad world alone, and they need u to stay tough too. Good luck. BTW I have a 16 year old sister so I know what ur going through and I was there with my parents not to long ago. So this is my perspective on it.
Cry.
Shout at them.
Probably end up hitting them.
Throw them the fcuk out my house.
Not talk to them for a long long time.
Cry some more.
That would disgust me, i don't know how i'll react because i would be so mad and i might hurt them so much or separate them for good.
I would be so disgusted and i would of Fu(ked them both up!
____________________
snatch'em both bald headed and kick there ***'s out of the house
i would freak out! they are brother and sister! ew! you might wanna put them in counseling
Do you think that your parents or parent did a good job raising you?
Why or why not?Do you think that your parents or parent did a good job raising you?
I think they did a great job. They taught me how to do things for myself and deal with my own problems. They taught me how to be responsible and polite. They are truly the perfect parents.
Edit: Although once they wouldn't let me go see the Kids in the Hall when they toured because they thought it was inappropriate for my age even though I bought my own ticket. I'm still kind of bitter about that. :DDo you think that your parents or parent did a good job raising you?
My mom did a fantastic job, she let me choose my own path and encouraged me for whatever I did. One very important point was that she gave me the freedom to choose my own beliefs, she didn't force a religion onto me. For that, I am incredibly grateful.
My fondest childhood memory is my dad. He did excellent. He believed in me and let me know it. I could do anything I put my mind to, and if I didn't do as well as others he praised me for doing my best.
My mom, not so much
They did the best they could.
It is all any of us can ever do.
Only if you consider a stepmother telling you that you're not smart enough, pretty enough, and that everything you do is stupid. If you think that when you told the truth you were constantly called a liar and had a bar of soap rammed in your mouth and had ping pong paddles, yardsticks, hairbrushes, etc. broken over your butt for not living up to their expectations a good job, then I would say yes.
Instead, I learned how to put myself down, not to trust people, always compare myself to others and have to erase 15 years of ';tapes'; through 30 years of therapy. With my husband's help I have learned that I am pretty, I am smart, I do deserve the right to be happy and that I do know how to set my own limits and boundaries.
Words. So easily said and yet so painful. Once said, they can never be taken back. Words do more damage to a child than any spanking ever could. Because those words ruin a child and their innocence and their belief that their ';parents'; love them. A child believes what their parent tells them and the parent's reality becomes the child's reality.
Don't have children if you can't treat them like the precious gifts they are.
I think they did pretty well. They both taught me the importance of being responsible, working hard, being honest, and didn't screw me up emotionally. My mother is an inspirational person because despite being bedridden due to long suffering from MS she is still a very positive person, and is very caring. I only wish my father hadn't died so early in my life as I was very close to him.
No, my mother abandoned me and my father was an alcoholic. Still is actually. I raised myself.
Yeah. They taught me isolation and having to get through life by myself, while constantly hurling insults my way and saying I'm useless.
Great parents, they were. I learned to get by on my own.
I think they did a great job. They taught me how to do things for myself and deal with my own problems. They taught me how to be responsible and polite. They are truly the perfect parents.
Edit: Although once they wouldn't let me go see the Kids in the Hall when they toured because they thought it was inappropriate for my age even though I bought my own ticket. I'm still kind of bitter about that. :DDo you think that your parents or parent did a good job raising you?
My mom did a fantastic job, she let me choose my own path and encouraged me for whatever I did. One very important point was that she gave me the freedom to choose my own beliefs, she didn't force a religion onto me. For that, I am incredibly grateful.
My fondest childhood memory is my dad. He did excellent. He believed in me and let me know it. I could do anything I put my mind to, and if I didn't do as well as others he praised me for doing my best.
My mom, not so much
They did the best they could.
It is all any of us can ever do.
Only if you consider a stepmother telling you that you're not smart enough, pretty enough, and that everything you do is stupid. If you think that when you told the truth you were constantly called a liar and had a bar of soap rammed in your mouth and had ping pong paddles, yardsticks, hairbrushes, etc. broken over your butt for not living up to their expectations a good job, then I would say yes.
Instead, I learned how to put myself down, not to trust people, always compare myself to others and have to erase 15 years of ';tapes'; through 30 years of therapy. With my husband's help I have learned that I am pretty, I am smart, I do deserve the right to be happy and that I do know how to set my own limits and boundaries.
Words. So easily said and yet so painful. Once said, they can never be taken back. Words do more damage to a child than any spanking ever could. Because those words ruin a child and their innocence and their belief that their ';parents'; love them. A child believes what their parent tells them and the parent's reality becomes the child's reality.
Don't have children if you can't treat them like the precious gifts they are.
I think they did pretty well. They both taught me the importance of being responsible, working hard, being honest, and didn't screw me up emotionally. My mother is an inspirational person because despite being bedridden due to long suffering from MS she is still a very positive person, and is very caring. I only wish my father hadn't died so early in my life as I was very close to him.
No, my mother abandoned me and my father was an alcoholic. Still is actually. I raised myself.
Yeah. They taught me isolation and having to get through life by myself, while constantly hurling insults my way and saying I'm useless.
Great parents, they were. I learned to get by on my own.
Can a public school (in CA) require a parent to pay a specific $ amount in order to fund an academic program?
My son is a 7th grader at our local public school and today he brought home a rather threatening letter stating that each parent MUST contribute a specific $$ amount in order to help fund the science department at the school. According to this letter we must pay this $$ amount now or, if we are unable to pay the entire fee now, there is a payment plan available.
I am wondering about the leaglity of this, considering it is a public school and this is a regular academic program (i.e. this is my son's regular science class). The letter is chock full of the words ';mandatory'; and ';required'; etc. which leads me to believe that I MUST pay this fee. I can afford the fee but i am sure that there are many parents who cannot, and may feel coerced by this letter. Any info on how legal or illegal this may be is grealty appreciated!Can a public school (in CA) require a parent to pay a specific $ amount in order to fund an academic program?
contact your city counsel member or mayor if your town is small and ask why your tax money for schools is not paying for this. Then explain that you will need to got to the newspapers for a better explanation if they give you the run around. Extortion is illegal even for the school dept and local government.Can a public school (in CA) require a parent to pay a specific $ amount in order to fund an academic program?
look at the bright side, your taxes aren't going up.
i would talk to them and explain you cant afford it
i mean 7th grade its not chemistry their learning
try calling ur school borad
Public schools cannot require fees for regular education.
Doesn't sound right to me. Contact the school board.
I am wondering about the leaglity of this, considering it is a public school and this is a regular academic program (i.e. this is my son's regular science class). The letter is chock full of the words ';mandatory'; and ';required'; etc. which leads me to believe that I MUST pay this fee. I can afford the fee but i am sure that there are many parents who cannot, and may feel coerced by this letter. Any info on how legal or illegal this may be is grealty appreciated!Can a public school (in CA) require a parent to pay a specific $ amount in order to fund an academic program?
contact your city counsel member or mayor if your town is small and ask why your tax money for schools is not paying for this. Then explain that you will need to got to the newspapers for a better explanation if they give you the run around. Extortion is illegal even for the school dept and local government.Can a public school (in CA) require a parent to pay a specific $ amount in order to fund an academic program?
look at the bright side, your taxes aren't going up.
i would talk to them and explain you cant afford it
i mean 7th grade its not chemistry their learning
try calling ur school borad
Public schools cannot require fees for regular education.
Doesn't sound right to me. Contact the school board.
What do i need to park in a 'parent and child' parking space in the UK?
Do i need some sort of sticker? Or will the baby seat in the back of the car be enough proof?What do i need to park in a 'parent and child' parking space in the UK?
A child under age 3 and a pass from Tesco helps.
The stores are getting annoyed at the abuse.
SAINSBURY鈥橲 shoppers in Newbury could now be slapped with a 拢50 fine if they break parking rules.
Anyone using the store鈥檚 designated 鈥榩arent and child鈥?or 鈥榙isabled鈥?parking spaces, who either does not have a child with them or is not carrying a Blue Badge to demonstrate their disability, will be forced to pay the hefty charge within 28 days.
http://www.newburytoday.co.uk/News/Artic鈥?/a>
Making a stand: Asda will fine customers who break car park rules
Asda will fine drivers 拢60 for parking in its disabled or parent and child spaces when they shouldn't, it was announced today.
The supermarket is rolling out the penalty nationwide from Monday following a trial at six stores.
Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-鈥?/a>What do i need to park in a 'parent and child' parking space in the UK?
As far as I can tell, you just need to hope that a cop isn't around when he sees you get in or out of your car without a child. Or, since those spaces are close to the storefront, hope that the employees don't see you doing it and either A) call the cops to give you a ticket or B) refuse to serve you until you move into a regular space. Just like handicapped spaces, I've seen plenty of people using them at the malls and grocery stores that aren't handicapped or have children.
a car and a child
hope this helps
xxsunscreen
A child under age 3 and a pass from Tesco helps.
The stores are getting annoyed at the abuse.
SAINSBURY鈥橲 shoppers in Newbury could now be slapped with a 拢50 fine if they break parking rules.
Anyone using the store鈥檚 designated 鈥榩arent and child鈥?or 鈥榙isabled鈥?parking spaces, who either does not have a child with them or is not carrying a Blue Badge to demonstrate their disability, will be forced to pay the hefty charge within 28 days.
http://www.newburytoday.co.uk/News/Artic鈥?/a>
Making a stand: Asda will fine customers who break car park rules
Asda will fine drivers 拢60 for parking in its disabled or parent and child spaces when they shouldn't, it was announced today.
The supermarket is rolling out the penalty nationwide from Monday following a trial at six stores.
Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-鈥?/a>What do i need to park in a 'parent and child' parking space in the UK?
As far as I can tell, you just need to hope that a cop isn't around when he sees you get in or out of your car without a child. Or, since those spaces are close to the storefront, hope that the employees don't see you doing it and either A) call the cops to give you a ticket or B) refuse to serve you until you move into a regular space. Just like handicapped spaces, I've seen plenty of people using them at the malls and grocery stores that aren't handicapped or have children.
a car and a child
hope this helps
xx
What are the pros and cons of step-parent adoption?
Although step-parent adoption allows a child to be eligible for everything that the step-parent's biological children can receive (inheritance, medical insurance and the like,) there are also downsides.
For example, if a couple divorces, the former step-parent, now parent, is subject to everything any biological parent must follow. This includes child support, possible continuation of medical coverage, continuation of inheritance rights. What problems may arise if this parent now feels that since this isn't his/her biological child, why should s/he have to continue these requirements of parenthood. The ultimate problem can be that this adoptive parent may rather give up parental rights in order to ';divorce'; the child, since s/he is divorcing the natural parent.What are the pros and cons of step-parent adoption?
The pros and cons will vary in each and every situation, so it's really hard to make generalized statements. That's why every adoption decision - step parent or otherwise - needs to be made carefully.
Most of the cons you will find are for the adoptive step-parent, and almost all of those include divorce situations. That is why the adoption of the child needs to be a seperate decision from the marriage. You should not adopt a child just because you married the parent. Step-parents have many rights including the ability to cary the child on medical coverage. You can also stipulate inheritance in your will without need to adopt. However, step-parents do not have ALL the rights to a child that a biological parent (or adoptive parent) has. The most important one is a right to parent the child if the marriage disolves or the step-parent becomes a widow/widower.
For example, my decision to try to adopt my former step-daughter was a commitment I was ready to make to HER, not to her father. Unfortunately, we were unable to get it accomplished before my ex had his little breakdown and left us (by us, I mean me, his daughter, and our son). Because I hadn't been able to adopt her, and I was no longer technically her ';step-mother'; (by right of no longer being married to her father) I was unable to care for her properly. At any moment I could have been accused of kidnapping by either my ex or the biological mother (even though that wasn't true, I hadn't taken her anywhere - my ex had LEFT her with me). More importantly, while I could have insured her under my insurance since she was living with me and I was the primary caregiver, I could not have gotten her medical attention because I was not her parent. That is a rather important barb in the law. In some states step-parents can sign medical authorizations, but not always, and usually only in an emergency. I always had to carry with me a document signed by my ex saying I was authorized to approve medical care for her even when we were together. I also could not sign her up for school because to do so required a copy of her birth certificate, but only her parents are authorized to request one. In short, because I had not yet adopted her, my hands were completely tied. What makes my situation rather sad is that NEITHER PARENT WANTED HER! Her biological mother hasn't seen her since she was 15 months old (she's now 6 and a half, and was over 3 at the time this all happened) and hasn't had custody of her since she was 10 months old. Her father walked away without a second glance, he truly had had a mental breakdown and though he was another person. I was forced (not legally or through threats, but by virtue of it being the only way to get her what she needed) to turn her over to her paternal grandparents. They had raised her before, from about 13 months until just before her second birthday when my ex stopped traveling for work and settled down with me. They had power of attourney for her father, and they could get her the services she needs.
I still don't think that severed my obligations to her however. After all, if I was ready to be a parent to her, then just because the papers weren't signed doesn't meant I can just walk away from her without a second glance. I walk a delicate balance with her grandparents right now. There is a large LARGE amount of awkwardness, but I still visit, and try to buy some clothes and things like that when I can. I put her on the waiting list for a state program that has finally kicked in, and provides her medicaid services, therapy, and respit for her grandparents. I would be willing to do more - but as I said, it is a delicate balance.
A step-parent who truly wants to be a parent to the child should definitely adopt a child. A step-parent who is only adopting a child out of ';duty'; or to make things ';easier'; should not adopt the child. One day the sence of ';duty'; may no longer be there, and it may cease to be ';easy'; if your marriage fails. An adoption is not an agreement with your spouse, it is an agreement with the child, and should be treated as such.
That being said, step-parent adoption should ONLY take place with the original parent (biological parent) is either completely out of the picture, or very nearly. It is not right to try and replace a biological father or mother who is still trying to pull his/her weight with the child, and is just not living with the child because of divorce etc. Many children these days have two very good parents, even if the parents no longer live together. It is not right to sever that connection in order to make a pretty picture through step-parent adoption. However, if the biological parent is pretty much out of the picture (even if he/she is paying child support), if the child doesn't know who that parent is or sees them less frequently than once a year, then step-parent adoption is a wonderful thing. Every child deserves to have two real parents, and if a step-parent is that other real parent, then adopting the child is the right thing to do.
On the child's side, a step-parent adoption has very few downsides. The only time it would become a ';downside'; is if a previously active biological parent was forced out of the picture so the step-parent could adopt.
For the biological parent who will retain custody is married to the adopting step-parent there are very few downsides. You will no longer get child support, of course, and if you divorce you will have to go though ANOTHER custody arrangement with the new father. However, if you truly love your kids and believe the step-parent to be a good parent, then it should be worth the risk to make sure your child has two loving parents. Also, it is important to realize that if something ever happens to you, right now your child would go to the other biological parent who he/she probably doesn't know very well (at least, probably doesn't if you're considering step parent adoption). If you let the step-parent adopt, that means your child would be able to stay in their home, with their siblings if something every happens to you.
Again, I can't stress this enough, EVERY adoption, even step-parent adoption, is an agreement between the parent and the CHILD. It is not an agreement between two married adults. The responsibility does not rest with the marriage it rests with the CHILD! Do not adopt, as a step-parent, if you do not understand this, accept this, and most of all WANT this.What are the pros and cons of step-parent adoption?
Try thinking about it the other way. Imagine if you were a step-parent, loving and taking care of a child for years, maybe even being the primary caregiver, and then you start having difficulties with your spouse. One of you starts divorce proceedings...and suddenly the child you love and think of as one of your own is taken away and you are told you can NEVER see him or her again and there is NOTHING you can do.
This is a more common problem for gay couples (because virtually all children of gay couples are biologically connected to one parent and not the other and the laws rarely even allow the option of becoming the legal parent), but it definitely happens. Also, in situations like this, the natural parent can use access to the child as a bargaining chip to get more from the divorce settlement.
This is not to say that your scenario doesn't happen, of course it does. But the longer the marriage lasted, the younger the kids were when the marriage happened, the less involved the other biological parent is involved in the kid's life and the presence of half-siblings all make it more likely that the step-parent feels that the kid is truly theirs.
My husband is stepfather to both of my children and they are covered under his medical insurance and are also entitled to a piece of our estate when we pass. It is OURS not his, therefore it belongs to both his children and my children...we are splitting it evenly. Besides, we're not dropping dead so our children can strike it rich!
Good parents don't divorce a child when a marriage fails---biological or otherwise!
If a step parent adopts a child- its their choice- going into it you know there is a possiblity of divorce- there always is.
Seriously- i'd tell em to get over it and that they made their decision. And if this is what someone is thinking before adoption- its not for them..... What would happen if a random child was adopted--- by both parents- do they then decide during a divorce that they no longer want the child because its not ';biologically'; theirs?
This happened to me. My children's biological father gave them up %26amp; the step father adopted them. About 5 months later we divorced. He is responsible for paying child support %26amp; paying 1/2 of the medical bills. My current husband is the one that carries med./dental/vision ins. on my children, because he is the responsible one. It took me about 2 yrs. to start getting any type of help from the adoptive parent. Also, he treats my children differently. I have one child that refuses to go over there.I don't make him go either.
For example, if a couple divorces, the former step-parent, now parent, is subject to everything any biological parent must follow. This includes child support, possible continuation of medical coverage, continuation of inheritance rights. What problems may arise if this parent now feels that since this isn't his/her biological child, why should s/he have to continue these requirements of parenthood. The ultimate problem can be that this adoptive parent may rather give up parental rights in order to ';divorce'; the child, since s/he is divorcing the natural parent.What are the pros and cons of step-parent adoption?
The pros and cons will vary in each and every situation, so it's really hard to make generalized statements. That's why every adoption decision - step parent or otherwise - needs to be made carefully.
Most of the cons you will find are for the adoptive step-parent, and almost all of those include divorce situations. That is why the adoption of the child needs to be a seperate decision from the marriage. You should not adopt a child just because you married the parent. Step-parents have many rights including the ability to cary the child on medical coverage. You can also stipulate inheritance in your will without need to adopt. However, step-parents do not have ALL the rights to a child that a biological parent (or adoptive parent) has. The most important one is a right to parent the child if the marriage disolves or the step-parent becomes a widow/widower.
For example, my decision to try to adopt my former step-daughter was a commitment I was ready to make to HER, not to her father. Unfortunately, we were unable to get it accomplished before my ex had his little breakdown and left us (by us, I mean me, his daughter, and our son). Because I hadn't been able to adopt her, and I was no longer technically her ';step-mother'; (by right of no longer being married to her father) I was unable to care for her properly. At any moment I could have been accused of kidnapping by either my ex or the biological mother (even though that wasn't true, I hadn't taken her anywhere - my ex had LEFT her with me). More importantly, while I could have insured her under my insurance since she was living with me and I was the primary caregiver, I could not have gotten her medical attention because I was not her parent. That is a rather important barb in the law. In some states step-parents can sign medical authorizations, but not always, and usually only in an emergency. I always had to carry with me a document signed by my ex saying I was authorized to approve medical care for her even when we were together. I also could not sign her up for school because to do so required a copy of her birth certificate, but only her parents are authorized to request one. In short, because I had not yet adopted her, my hands were completely tied. What makes my situation rather sad is that NEITHER PARENT WANTED HER! Her biological mother hasn't seen her since she was 15 months old (she's now 6 and a half, and was over 3 at the time this all happened) and hasn't had custody of her since she was 10 months old. Her father walked away without a second glance, he truly had had a mental breakdown and though he was another person. I was forced (not legally or through threats, but by virtue of it being the only way to get her what she needed) to turn her over to her paternal grandparents. They had raised her before, from about 13 months until just before her second birthday when my ex stopped traveling for work and settled down with me. They had power of attourney for her father, and they could get her the services she needs.
I still don't think that severed my obligations to her however. After all, if I was ready to be a parent to her, then just because the papers weren't signed doesn't meant I can just walk away from her without a second glance. I walk a delicate balance with her grandparents right now. There is a large LARGE amount of awkwardness, but I still visit, and try to buy some clothes and things like that when I can. I put her on the waiting list for a state program that has finally kicked in, and provides her medicaid services, therapy, and respit for her grandparents. I would be willing to do more - but as I said, it is a delicate balance.
A step-parent who truly wants to be a parent to the child should definitely adopt a child. A step-parent who is only adopting a child out of ';duty'; or to make things ';easier'; should not adopt the child. One day the sence of ';duty'; may no longer be there, and it may cease to be ';easy'; if your marriage fails. An adoption is not an agreement with your spouse, it is an agreement with the child, and should be treated as such.
That being said, step-parent adoption should ONLY take place with the original parent (biological parent) is either completely out of the picture, or very nearly. It is not right to try and replace a biological father or mother who is still trying to pull his/her weight with the child, and is just not living with the child because of divorce etc. Many children these days have two very good parents, even if the parents no longer live together. It is not right to sever that connection in order to make a pretty picture through step-parent adoption. However, if the biological parent is pretty much out of the picture (even if he/she is paying child support), if the child doesn't know who that parent is or sees them less frequently than once a year, then step-parent adoption is a wonderful thing. Every child deserves to have two real parents, and if a step-parent is that other real parent, then adopting the child is the right thing to do.
On the child's side, a step-parent adoption has very few downsides. The only time it would become a ';downside'; is if a previously active biological parent was forced out of the picture so the step-parent could adopt.
For the biological parent who will retain custody is married to the adopting step-parent there are very few downsides. You will no longer get child support, of course, and if you divorce you will have to go though ANOTHER custody arrangement with the new father. However, if you truly love your kids and believe the step-parent to be a good parent, then it should be worth the risk to make sure your child has two loving parents. Also, it is important to realize that if something ever happens to you, right now your child would go to the other biological parent who he/she probably doesn't know very well (at least, probably doesn't if you're considering step parent adoption). If you let the step-parent adopt, that means your child would be able to stay in their home, with their siblings if something every happens to you.
Again, I can't stress this enough, EVERY adoption, even step-parent adoption, is an agreement between the parent and the CHILD. It is not an agreement between two married adults. The responsibility does not rest with the marriage it rests with the CHILD! Do not adopt, as a step-parent, if you do not understand this, accept this, and most of all WANT this.What are the pros and cons of step-parent adoption?
Try thinking about it the other way. Imagine if you were a step-parent, loving and taking care of a child for years, maybe even being the primary caregiver, and then you start having difficulties with your spouse. One of you starts divorce proceedings...and suddenly the child you love and think of as one of your own is taken away and you are told you can NEVER see him or her again and there is NOTHING you can do.
This is a more common problem for gay couples (because virtually all children of gay couples are biologically connected to one parent and not the other and the laws rarely even allow the option of becoming the legal parent), but it definitely happens. Also, in situations like this, the natural parent can use access to the child as a bargaining chip to get more from the divorce settlement.
This is not to say that your scenario doesn't happen, of course it does. But the longer the marriage lasted, the younger the kids were when the marriage happened, the less involved the other biological parent is involved in the kid's life and the presence of half-siblings all make it more likely that the step-parent feels that the kid is truly theirs.
My husband is stepfather to both of my children and they are covered under his medical insurance and are also entitled to a piece of our estate when we pass. It is OURS not his, therefore it belongs to both his children and my children...we are splitting it evenly. Besides, we're not dropping dead so our children can strike it rich!
Good parents don't divorce a child when a marriage fails---biological or otherwise!
If a step parent adopts a child- its their choice- going into it you know there is a possiblity of divorce- there always is.
Seriously- i'd tell em to get over it and that they made their decision. And if this is what someone is thinking before adoption- its not for them..... What would happen if a random child was adopted--- by both parents- do they then decide during a divorce that they no longer want the child because its not ';biologically'; theirs?
This happened to me. My children's biological father gave them up %26amp; the step father adopted them. About 5 months later we divorced. He is responsible for paying child support %26amp; paying 1/2 of the medical bills. My current husband is the one that carries med./dental/vision ins. on my children, because he is the responsible one. It took me about 2 yrs. to start getting any type of help from the adoptive parent. Also, he treats my children differently. I have one child that refuses to go over there.I don't make him go either.
Can someone tell me is it normal for parent to dote on only the younger sister?
My mom dote on my younger sister so much that she can get whatever she wants.Even a $250 handphone. But when I have got no money to buy contact lens she will just try to ingore what I say! Why is it like that? I am sadCan someone tell me is it normal for parent to dote on only the younger sister?
It is normal for the youngest to be doted on the most in a lot of households. That doesn't make it right though. Have you tried talking to your parents about it? Maybe when you've said something before, you were upset or angry and being immature.
I would suggest a mature sit down with your parents and discuss how their actions make you feel. Try not to be accusatory or angry or upset when you speak to them.
It is normal for the youngest to be doted on the most in a lot of households. That doesn't make it right though. Have you tried talking to your parents about it? Maybe when you've said something before, you were upset or angry and being immature.
I would suggest a mature sit down with your parents and discuss how their actions make you feel. Try not to be accusatory or angry or upset when you speak to them.
Which parent has custody of children during separation before a divorce in IL?
We are getting two different stories from two different counties... but it should be the same state wide... what's the deal?Which parent has custody of children during separation before a divorce in IL?
When you file for a legal separation, there will be a part in the paperword that touches on children in the marriage. You can check the box requesting the children are you be in your custody...
That's the only way besides kidnapping.. and the kids won't be with you then at all!Which parent has custody of children during separation before a divorce in IL?
generally custody is legally decided at the preliminary hearing, and finalized at the divorce. Dont ask your kids, unless they are like 17 or so. That is not a decision that should be forced on a child. My ex and I had a discussion about custody before he moved out. I said I thought the kids should be with me and visit him, and he agreed. You should come to an arrangement with your STBX that is most beneficial to the children, then have it held up by the judge.
its the same every where both parents have custody the man or woman can get the child and skip the country and there is nothing you can do about it until you go down and get it in writing, one parent will have full custody and the other can have visitation or you can do it 50/50 or what ever the two of you decide. But if the child is a certain age they can decide who they want to live with because your child will be appointed a guardian of enlightenment I think that's what its called, and that person will ask your child questions and act as a lawyer on the behalf of the child
I think either parent, because nothing has been filed yet in court. When you file for divorce, when children are involved, they set a preliminary hearing which decides child support, custody, visitation for the duration of the divorce proceedings. You need to file in the county in which you live.
It isn't the same everywhere. Ask your children what they would like. They can make the decision for you.
When you file for a legal separation, there will be a part in the paperword that touches on children in the marriage. You can check the box requesting the children are you be in your custody...
That's the only way besides kidnapping.. and the kids won't be with you then at all!Which parent has custody of children during separation before a divorce in IL?
generally custody is legally decided at the preliminary hearing, and finalized at the divorce. Dont ask your kids, unless they are like 17 or so. That is not a decision that should be forced on a child. My ex and I had a discussion about custody before he moved out. I said I thought the kids should be with me and visit him, and he agreed. You should come to an arrangement with your STBX that is most beneficial to the children, then have it held up by the judge.
its the same every where both parents have custody the man or woman can get the child and skip the country and there is nothing you can do about it until you go down and get it in writing, one parent will have full custody and the other can have visitation or you can do it 50/50 or what ever the two of you decide. But if the child is a certain age they can decide who they want to live with because your child will be appointed a guardian of enlightenment I think that's what its called, and that person will ask your child questions and act as a lawyer on the behalf of the child
I think either parent, because nothing has been filed yet in court. When you file for divorce, when children are involved, they set a preliminary hearing which decides child support, custody, visitation for the duration of the divorce proceedings. You need to file in the county in which you live.
It isn't the same everywhere. Ask your children what they would like. They can make the decision for you.
What age can a child in Florida choose parent to live with?
divorced parents, joint custody,16 year old living with primary designated parent. Wants to live with father. Does anyone know the law regarding childs age at which they can decide which parent to live with.
I know what your thinking. Who would allow a ';child'; to decide anything before becoming an adult at 18What age can a child in Florida choose parent to live with?
At 16 the child's wishes to live with one or the other parent will be taken into consideration.
If the environment with the other parent is not destructive in any way, the child most likely will get his wish.What age can a child in Florida choose parent to live with?
well i am 14 and i had to go to court and choose to live with my father and they let me!!!!!
I know what your thinking. Who would allow a ';child'; to decide anything before becoming an adult at 18What age can a child in Florida choose parent to live with?
At 16 the child's wishes to live with one or the other parent will be taken into consideration.
If the environment with the other parent is not destructive in any way, the child most likely will get his wish.What age can a child in Florida choose parent to live with?
well i am 14 and i had to go to court and choose to live with my father and they let me!!!!!
Can i become a secondary driver on my parent's policy with 3 cars in the family?
Just found out even with my dad's deal as he works with RBC, it will still cost 5-7 thousand a year. Thats way to much.
its 700 a year to become a secondary driver.
Is there any way to get around the system?
I have a married sister who does not live at home.
We have 2 cars.
IIf i get one will the insurance company know that its mine? Use different insurance company?
Any ideas?Can i become a secondary driver on my parent's policy with 3 cars in the family?
if you parents havetheir names on the title it can be insured by them that is only way to do it.Can i become a secondary driver on my parent's policy with 3 cars in the family?
Three cars, three drivers, and you'll have to be the full-time driver on one of them. With two cars and three drivers, you can be part-time on one, probably the newer or more expensive one.
its 700 a year to become a secondary driver.
Is there any way to get around the system?
I have a married sister who does not live at home.
We have 2 cars.
IIf i get one will the insurance company know that its mine? Use different insurance company?
Any ideas?Can i become a secondary driver on my parent's policy with 3 cars in the family?
if you parents havetheir names on the title it can be insured by them that is only way to do it.Can i become a secondary driver on my parent's policy with 3 cars in the family?
Three cars, three drivers, and you'll have to be the full-time driver on one of them. With two cars and three drivers, you can be part-time on one, probably the newer or more expensive one.
Can someone tell me is it normal for parent to dote on only the younger sister?
My mom dote on my younger sister so much that she can get whatever she wants.Even a $250 handphone. But when I have got no money to buy contact lens she will just try to ingore what I say! Why is it like that? I am sadCan someone tell me is it normal for parent to dote on only the younger sister?
It is normal for the youngest to be doted on the most in a lot of households. That doesn't make it right though. Have you tried talking to your parents about it? Maybe when you've said something before, you were upset or angry and being immature.
I would suggest a mature sit down with your parents and discuss how their actions make you feel. Try not to be accusatory or angry or upset when you speak to them.sunscreen
It is normal for the youngest to be doted on the most in a lot of households. That doesn't make it right though. Have you tried talking to your parents about it? Maybe when you've said something before, you were upset or angry and being immature.
I would suggest a mature sit down with your parents and discuss how their actions make you feel. Try not to be accusatory or angry or upset when you speak to them.
Military bases where families live separate from the parent in service.What are these neighborhoods called?
Greetings, Please help my confusion about something i am trying to make sense of. During the Korean war, many young American families moved to live on specially constructed military bases. What i am confused about is, isn;t the military base, a hub where the service men in the Navy would be sent out from? Isn't the ';base'; the headquarters station for the Navy? (not a mini community where predominantly wives and their young children lived ). If I am right on this then what was the complex called where the families lived?Military bases where families live separate from the parent in service.What are these neighborhoods called?
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What age can a child in Florida choose parent to live with?
divorced parents, joint custody,16 year old living with primary designated parent. Wants to live with father. Does anyone know the law regarding childs age at which they can decide which parent to live with.
I know what your thinking. Who would allow a ';child'; to decide anything before becoming an adult at 18What age can a child in Florida choose parent to live with?
At 16 the child's wishes to live with one or the other parent will be taken into consideration.
If the environment with the other parent is not destructive in any way, the child most likely will get his wish.What age can a child in Florida choose parent to live with?
well i am 14 and i had to go to court and choose to live with my father and they let me!!!!!
I know what your thinking. Who would allow a ';child'; to decide anything before becoming an adult at 18What age can a child in Florida choose parent to live with?
At 16 the child's wishes to live with one or the other parent will be taken into consideration.
If the environment with the other parent is not destructive in any way, the child most likely will get his wish.What age can a child in Florida choose parent to live with?
well i am 14 and i had to go to court and choose to live with my father and they let me!!!!!
Can i become a secondary driver on my parent's policy with 3 cars in the family?
Just found out even with my dad's deal as he works with RBC, it will still cost 5-7 thousand a year. Thats way to much.
its 700 a year to become a secondary driver.
Is there any way to get around the system?
I have a married sister who does not live at home.
We have 2 cars.
IIf i get one will the insurance company know that its mine? Use different insurance company?
Any ideas?Can i become a secondary driver on my parent's policy with 3 cars in the family?
if you parents havetheir names on the title it can be insured by them that is only way to do it.Can i become a secondary driver on my parent's policy with 3 cars in the family?
Three cars, three drivers, and you'll have to be the full-time driver on one of them. With two cars and three drivers, you can be part-time on one, probably the newer or more expensive one.
its 700 a year to become a secondary driver.
Is there any way to get around the system?
I have a married sister who does not live at home.
We have 2 cars.
IIf i get one will the insurance company know that its mine? Use different insurance company?
Any ideas?Can i become a secondary driver on my parent's policy with 3 cars in the family?
if you parents havetheir names on the title it can be insured by them that is only way to do it.Can i become a secondary driver on my parent's policy with 3 cars in the family?
Three cars, three drivers, and you'll have to be the full-time driver on one of them. With two cars and three drivers, you can be part-time on one, probably the newer or more expensive one.
What are the pros and cons of step-parent adoption?
Although step-parent adoption allows a child to be eligible for everything that the step-parent's biological children can receive (inheritance, medical insurance and the like,) there are also downsides.
For example, if a couple divorces, the former step-parent, now parent, is subject to everything any biological parent must follow. This includes child support, possible continuation of medical coverage, continuation of inheritance rights. What problems may arise if this parent now feels that since this isn't his/her biological child, why should s/he have to continue these requirements of parenthood. The ultimate problem can be that this adoptive parent may rather give up parental rights in order to ';divorce'; the child, since s/he is divorcing the natural parent.What are the pros and cons of step-parent adoption?
The pros and cons will vary in each and every situation, so it's really hard to make generalized statements. That's why every adoption decision - step parent or otherwise - needs to be made carefully.
Most of the cons you will find are for the adoptive step-parent, and almost all of those include divorce situations. That is why the adoption of the child needs to be a seperate decision from the marriage. You should not adopt a child just because you married the parent. Step-parents have many rights including the ability to cary the child on medical coverage. You can also stipulate inheritance in your will without need to adopt. However, step-parents do not have ALL the rights to a child that a biological parent (or adoptive parent) has. The most important one is a right to parent the child if the marriage disolves or the step-parent becomes a widow/widower.
For example, my decision to try to adopt my former step-daughter was a commitment I was ready to make to HER, not to her father. Unfortunately, we were unable to get it accomplished before my ex had his little breakdown and left us (by us, I mean me, his daughter, and our son). Because I hadn't been able to adopt her, and I was no longer technically her ';step-mother'; (by right of no longer being married to her father) I was unable to care for her properly. At any moment I could have been accused of kidnapping by either my ex or the biological mother (even though that wasn't true, I hadn't taken her anywhere - my ex had LEFT her with me). More importantly, while I could have insured her under my insurance since she was living with me and I was the primary caregiver, I could not have gotten her medical attention because I was not her parent. That is a rather important barb in the law. In some states step-parents can sign medical authorizations, but not always, and usually only in an emergency. I always had to carry with me a document signed by my ex saying I was authorized to approve medical care for her even when we were together. I also could not sign her up for school because to do so required a copy of her birth certificate, but only her parents are authorized to request one. In short, because I had not yet adopted her, my hands were completely tied. What makes my situation rather sad is that NEITHER PARENT WANTED HER! Her biological mother hasn't seen her since she was 15 months old (she's now 6 and a half, and was over 3 at the time this all happened) and hasn't had custody of her since she was 10 months old. Her father walked away without a second glance, he truly had had a mental breakdown and though he was another person. I was forced (not legally or through threats, but by virtue of it being the only way to get her what she needed) to turn her over to her paternal grandparents. They had raised her before, from about 13 months until just before her second birthday when my ex stopped traveling for work and settled down with me. They had power of attourney for her father, and they could get her the services she needs.
I still don't think that severed my obligations to her however. After all, if I was ready to be a parent to her, then just because the papers weren't signed doesn't meant I can just walk away from her without a second glance. I walk a delicate balance with her grandparents right now. There is a large LARGE amount of awkwardness, but I still visit, and try to buy some clothes and things like that when I can. I put her on the waiting list for a state program that has finally kicked in, and provides her medicaid services, therapy, and respit for her grandparents. I would be willing to do more - but as I said, it is a delicate balance.
A step-parent who truly wants to be a parent to the child should definitely adopt a child. A step-parent who is only adopting a child out of ';duty'; or to make things ';easier'; should not adopt the child. One day the sence of ';duty'; may no longer be there, and it may cease to be ';easy'; if your marriage fails. An adoption is not an agreement with your spouse, it is an agreement with the child, and should be treated as such.
That being said, step-parent adoption should ONLY take place with the original parent (biological parent) is either completely out of the picture, or very nearly. It is not right to try and replace a biological father or mother who is still trying to pull his/her weight with the child, and is just not living with the child because of divorce etc. Many children these days have two very good parents, even if the parents no longer live together. It is not right to sever that connection in order to make a pretty picture through step-parent adoption. However, if the biological parent is pretty much out of the picture (even if he/she is paying child support), if the child doesn't know who that parent is or sees them less frequently than once a year, then step-parent adoption is a wonderful thing. Every child deserves to have two real parents, and if a step-parent is that other real parent, then adopting the child is the right thing to do.
On the child's side, a step-parent adoption has very few downsides. The only time it would become a ';downside'; is if a previously active biological parent was forced out of the picture so the step-parent could adopt.
For the biological parent who will retain custody is married to the adopting step-parent there are very few downsides. You will no longer get child support, of course, and if you divorce you will have to go though ANOTHER custody arrangement with the new father. However, if you truly love your kids and believe the step-parent to be a good parent, then it should be worth the risk to make sure your child has two loving parents. Also, it is important to realize that if something ever happens to you, right now your child would go to the other biological parent who he/she probably doesn't know very well (at least, probably doesn't if you're considering step parent adoption). If you let the step-parent adopt, that means your child would be able to stay in their home, with their siblings if something every happens to you.
Again, I can't stress this enough, EVERY adoption, even step-parent adoption, is an agreement between the parent and the CHILD. It is not an agreement between two married adults. The responsibility does not rest with the marriage it rests with the CHILD! Do not adopt, as a step-parent, if you do not understand this, accept this, and most of all WANT this.What are the pros and cons of step-parent adoption?
Try thinking about it the other way. Imagine if you were a step-parent, loving and taking care of a child for years, maybe even being the primary caregiver, and then you start having difficulties with your spouse. One of you starts divorce proceedings...and suddenly the child you love and think of as one of your own is taken away and you are told you can NEVER see him or her again and there is NOTHING you can do.
This is a more common problem for gay couples (because virtually all children of gay couples are biologically connected to one parent and not the other and the laws rarely even allow the option of becoming the legal parent), but it definitely happens. Also, in situations like this, the natural parent can use access to the child as a bargaining chip to get more from the divorce settlement.
This is not to say that your scenario doesn't happen, of course it does. But the longer the marriage lasted, the younger the kids were when the marriage happened, the less involved the other biological parent is involved in the kid's life and the presence of half-siblings all make it more likely that the step-parent feels that the kid is truly theirs.
My husband is stepfather to both of my children and they are covered under his medical insurance and are also entitled to a piece of our estate when we pass. It is OURS not his, therefore it belongs to both his children and my children...we are splitting it evenly. Besides, we're not dropping dead so our children can strike it rich!
Good parents don't divorce a child when a marriage fails---biological or otherwise!
If a step parent adopts a child- its their choice- going into it you know there is a possiblity of divorce- there always is.
Seriously- i'd tell em to get over it and that they made their decision. And if this is what someone is thinking before adoption- its not for them..... What would happen if a random child was adopted--- by both parents- do they then decide during a divorce that they no longer want the child because its not ';biologically'; theirs?
This happened to me. My children's biological father gave them up %26amp; the step father adopted them. About 5 months later we divorced. He is responsible for paying child support %26amp; paying 1/2 of the medical bills. My current husband is the one that carries med./dental/vision ins. on my children, because he is the responsible one. It took me about 2 yrs. to start getting any type of help from the adoptive parent. Also, he treats my children differently. I have one child that refuses to go over there.I don't make him go either.
For example, if a couple divorces, the former step-parent, now parent, is subject to everything any biological parent must follow. This includes child support, possible continuation of medical coverage, continuation of inheritance rights. What problems may arise if this parent now feels that since this isn't his/her biological child, why should s/he have to continue these requirements of parenthood. The ultimate problem can be that this adoptive parent may rather give up parental rights in order to ';divorce'; the child, since s/he is divorcing the natural parent.What are the pros and cons of step-parent adoption?
The pros and cons will vary in each and every situation, so it's really hard to make generalized statements. That's why every adoption decision - step parent or otherwise - needs to be made carefully.
Most of the cons you will find are for the adoptive step-parent, and almost all of those include divorce situations. That is why the adoption of the child needs to be a seperate decision from the marriage. You should not adopt a child just because you married the parent. Step-parents have many rights including the ability to cary the child on medical coverage. You can also stipulate inheritance in your will without need to adopt. However, step-parents do not have ALL the rights to a child that a biological parent (or adoptive parent) has. The most important one is a right to parent the child if the marriage disolves or the step-parent becomes a widow/widower.
For example, my decision to try to adopt my former step-daughter was a commitment I was ready to make to HER, not to her father. Unfortunately, we were unable to get it accomplished before my ex had his little breakdown and left us (by us, I mean me, his daughter, and our son). Because I hadn't been able to adopt her, and I was no longer technically her ';step-mother'; (by right of no longer being married to her father) I was unable to care for her properly. At any moment I could have been accused of kidnapping by either my ex or the biological mother (even though that wasn't true, I hadn't taken her anywhere - my ex had LEFT her with me). More importantly, while I could have insured her under my insurance since she was living with me and I was the primary caregiver, I could not have gotten her medical attention because I was not her parent. That is a rather important barb in the law. In some states step-parents can sign medical authorizations, but not always, and usually only in an emergency. I always had to carry with me a document signed by my ex saying I was authorized to approve medical care for her even when we were together. I also could not sign her up for school because to do so required a copy of her birth certificate, but only her parents are authorized to request one. In short, because I had not yet adopted her, my hands were completely tied. What makes my situation rather sad is that NEITHER PARENT WANTED HER! Her biological mother hasn't seen her since she was 15 months old (she's now 6 and a half, and was over 3 at the time this all happened) and hasn't had custody of her since she was 10 months old. Her father walked away without a second glance, he truly had had a mental breakdown and though he was another person. I was forced (not legally or through threats, but by virtue of it being the only way to get her what she needed) to turn her over to her paternal grandparents. They had raised her before, from about 13 months until just before her second birthday when my ex stopped traveling for work and settled down with me. They had power of attourney for her father, and they could get her the services she needs.
I still don't think that severed my obligations to her however. After all, if I was ready to be a parent to her, then just because the papers weren't signed doesn't meant I can just walk away from her without a second glance. I walk a delicate balance with her grandparents right now. There is a large LARGE amount of awkwardness, but I still visit, and try to buy some clothes and things like that when I can. I put her on the waiting list for a state program that has finally kicked in, and provides her medicaid services, therapy, and respit for her grandparents. I would be willing to do more - but as I said, it is a delicate balance.
A step-parent who truly wants to be a parent to the child should definitely adopt a child. A step-parent who is only adopting a child out of ';duty'; or to make things ';easier'; should not adopt the child. One day the sence of ';duty'; may no longer be there, and it may cease to be ';easy'; if your marriage fails. An adoption is not an agreement with your spouse, it is an agreement with the child, and should be treated as such.
That being said, step-parent adoption should ONLY take place with the original parent (biological parent) is either completely out of the picture, or very nearly. It is not right to try and replace a biological father or mother who is still trying to pull his/her weight with the child, and is just not living with the child because of divorce etc. Many children these days have two very good parents, even if the parents no longer live together. It is not right to sever that connection in order to make a pretty picture through step-parent adoption. However, if the biological parent is pretty much out of the picture (even if he/she is paying child support), if the child doesn't know who that parent is or sees them less frequently than once a year, then step-parent adoption is a wonderful thing. Every child deserves to have two real parents, and if a step-parent is that other real parent, then adopting the child is the right thing to do.
On the child's side, a step-parent adoption has very few downsides. The only time it would become a ';downside'; is if a previously active biological parent was forced out of the picture so the step-parent could adopt.
For the biological parent who will retain custody is married to the adopting step-parent there are very few downsides. You will no longer get child support, of course, and if you divorce you will have to go though ANOTHER custody arrangement with the new father. However, if you truly love your kids and believe the step-parent to be a good parent, then it should be worth the risk to make sure your child has two loving parents. Also, it is important to realize that if something ever happens to you, right now your child would go to the other biological parent who he/she probably doesn't know very well (at least, probably doesn't if you're considering step parent adoption). If you let the step-parent adopt, that means your child would be able to stay in their home, with their siblings if something every happens to you.
Again, I can't stress this enough, EVERY adoption, even step-parent adoption, is an agreement between the parent and the CHILD. It is not an agreement between two married adults. The responsibility does not rest with the marriage it rests with the CHILD! Do not adopt, as a step-parent, if you do not understand this, accept this, and most of all WANT this.What are the pros and cons of step-parent adoption?
Try thinking about it the other way. Imagine if you were a step-parent, loving and taking care of a child for years, maybe even being the primary caregiver, and then you start having difficulties with your spouse. One of you starts divorce proceedings...and suddenly the child you love and think of as one of your own is taken away and you are told you can NEVER see him or her again and there is NOTHING you can do.
This is a more common problem for gay couples (because virtually all children of gay couples are biologically connected to one parent and not the other and the laws rarely even allow the option of becoming the legal parent), but it definitely happens. Also, in situations like this, the natural parent can use access to the child as a bargaining chip to get more from the divorce settlement.
This is not to say that your scenario doesn't happen, of course it does. But the longer the marriage lasted, the younger the kids were when the marriage happened, the less involved the other biological parent is involved in the kid's life and the presence of half-siblings all make it more likely that the step-parent feels that the kid is truly theirs.
My husband is stepfather to both of my children and they are covered under his medical insurance and are also entitled to a piece of our estate when we pass. It is OURS not his, therefore it belongs to both his children and my children...we are splitting it evenly. Besides, we're not dropping dead so our children can strike it rich!
Good parents don't divorce a child when a marriage fails---biological or otherwise!
If a step parent adopts a child- its their choice- going into it you know there is a possiblity of divorce- there always is.
Seriously- i'd tell em to get over it and that they made their decision. And if this is what someone is thinking before adoption- its not for them..... What would happen if a random child was adopted--- by both parents- do they then decide during a divorce that they no longer want the child because its not ';biologically'; theirs?
This happened to me. My children's biological father gave them up %26amp; the step father adopted them. About 5 months later we divorced. He is responsible for paying child support %26amp; paying 1/2 of the medical bills. My current husband is the one that carries med./dental/vision ins. on my children, because he is the responsible one. It took me about 2 yrs. to start getting any type of help from the adoptive parent. Also, he treats my children differently. I have one child that refuses to go over there.I don't make him go either.
Which parent has custody of children during separation before a divorce in IL?
We are getting two different stories from two different counties... but it should be the same state wide... what's the deal?Which parent has custody of children during separation before a divorce in IL?
When you file for a legal separation, there will be a part in the paperword that touches on children in the marriage. You can check the box requesting the children are you be in your custody...
That's the only way besides kidnapping.. and the kids won't be with you then at all!Which parent has custody of children during separation before a divorce in IL?
generally custody is legally decided at the preliminary hearing, and finalized at the divorce. Dont ask your kids, unless they are like 17 or so. That is not a decision that should be forced on a child. My ex and I had a discussion about custody before he moved out. I said I thought the kids should be with me and visit him, and he agreed. You should come to an arrangement with your STBX that is most beneficial to the children, then have it held up by the judge.
its the same every where both parents have custody the man or woman can get the child and skip the country and there is nothing you can do about it until you go down and get it in writing, one parent will have full custody and the other can have visitation or you can do it 50/50 or what ever the two of you decide. But if the child is a certain age they can decide who they want to live with because your child will be appointed a guardian of enlightenment I think that's what its called, and that person will ask your child questions and act as a lawyer on the behalf of the child
I think either parent, because nothing has been filed yet in court. When you file for divorce, when children are involved, they set a preliminary hearing which decides child support, custody, visitation for the duration of the divorce proceedings. You need to file in the county in which you live.
It isn't the same everywhere. Ask your children what they would like. They can make the decision for you.
When you file for a legal separation, there will be a part in the paperword that touches on children in the marriage. You can check the box requesting the children are you be in your custody...
That's the only way besides kidnapping.. and the kids won't be with you then at all!Which parent has custody of children during separation before a divorce in IL?
generally custody is legally decided at the preliminary hearing, and finalized at the divorce. Dont ask your kids, unless they are like 17 or so. That is not a decision that should be forced on a child. My ex and I had a discussion about custody before he moved out. I said I thought the kids should be with me and visit him, and he agreed. You should come to an arrangement with your STBX that is most beneficial to the children, then have it held up by the judge.
its the same every where both parents have custody the man or woman can get the child and skip the country and there is nothing you can do about it until you go down and get it in writing, one parent will have full custody and the other can have visitation or you can do it 50/50 or what ever the two of you decide. But if the child is a certain age they can decide who they want to live with because your child will be appointed a guardian of enlightenment I think that's what its called, and that person will ask your child questions and act as a lawyer on the behalf of the child
I think either parent, because nothing has been filed yet in court. When you file for divorce, when children are involved, they set a preliminary hearing which decides child support, custody, visitation for the duration of the divorce proceedings. You need to file in the county in which you live.
It isn't the same everywhere. Ask your children what they would like. They can make the decision for you.
What can I give my parents for Parent Night?
Our volleyball team is having parent night on Tuesday. What can the team give our parents that isn't clique? We have our pictures, flowers, and... we need something unique.What can I give my parents for Parent Night?
I say your whole team gets together and you make shirts for them. Make them cool though like tie-dyed and on the backs you can have then say '; I am #3s mommy '; or something like that.What can I give my parents for Parent Night?
well if it were me, since our season hasn't started,
I would give them my very first pair of knee pads,
why, because mine have been through hell and it
just shows how far I go to save a play or what not.
And also because my parents are proud that I
had found my own sport to play and they know how
important my first pair of knee pads are to me, and
the would be happy to get them! :)
~Jesssunscreen
I say your whole team gets together and you make shirts for them. Make them cool though like tie-dyed and on the backs you can have then say '; I am #3s mommy '; or something like that.What can I give my parents for Parent Night?
well if it were me, since our season hasn't started,
I would give them my very first pair of knee pads,
why, because mine have been through hell and it
just shows how far I go to save a play or what not.
And also because my parents are proud that I
had found my own sport to play and they know how
important my first pair of knee pads are to me, and
the would be happy to get them! :)
~Jess
Florida family law question, does a non-custodial parent have to file a case in my county?
If a non-custodial parent living in another county in florida wants to take a custodial parent to court over a visitation schedule is it required to file in the custodial parent's county?Florida family law question, does a non-custodial parent have to file a case in my county?
You file in the county where the court hearing was originally heard for custody/visitation.Florida family law question, does a non-custodial parent have to file a case in my county?
jurisdiction (where the suit is filed) is most often based on the county where the child lives. if it's divorce action, then the non-custodial parent can file in the county they reside. if it's an action for change in custody then filing in the county where the child resides is right. the courts want stability for the child.
You file in the county where the court hearing was originally heard for custody/visitation.Florida family law question, does a non-custodial parent have to file a case in my county?
jurisdiction (where the suit is filed) is most often based on the county where the child lives. if it's divorce action, then the non-custodial parent can file in the county they reside. if it's an action for change in custody then filing in the county where the child resides is right. the courts want stability for the child.
Is it illegal to runaway from home to go live with a relative if your legal parent does'nt agree?
hi .Im 14years old and i would like to to and live with my grandma because i dont like living with my parents.My grandma says its ok,but my parents dont aprouve.Can i go live with her without it being illegal..without my parents aprouval?Is it illegal to runaway from home to go live with a relative if your legal parent does'nt agree?
No. If you're a minor, you must live where your legal guardian says you'll live. If you run away to live with your Grandmother, the police will bring you home. And, depending on her actions, and whether or not your parents, or the police, wish to press charges, your Grandmother could be charged with kidnapping - even if you were there of your own free will.
You can, however, have your Grandmother petition the court to award her legal guardianship over you. It would then be up to a judge to decide whether such an action is warranted or not. However, the court wont take custody away from your current guardian unless it can be shown that there is a good reason to do so - such as some form of abuse that is going on at home.Is it illegal to runaway from home to go live with a relative if your legal parent does'nt agree?
In most jurisdictions, yes.
If your parents are good parents without any bad background, there is more than impossible because there is not allegations or valid reasons to take you away from them. If they do treat you bad and you have evidences in court will decide if your grandma can have the legal custody. Otherwise if you run away you will be in trouble.
All i know is that if your parents are divorced and you are 13 you get to choose who you live with....That might also have somthing to do with what you want to do. Try googling it or ask the police...
it is illegal
but i suppose you could try to tell them your not happy and that you might be with your grandma
though you probably already tried this you might think it smart to play the guilt card and say something like, if they care for you they would let you go
i would try a very long and peaceful- if possible conversation about this, it is a hard topic; their reason could be as simple as they dont want you to go away because they will miss you
i doubt it isn't without reason though, try this and see
good luck:)
You're too young and too dumb to ask this question.
If you run away from your HOME for no better reason than someone doesn't agree with you, you're going to have a miserable life of running every time you decide to change your mind.
Grow up and go home.
No, it's not legal. You need parents' approval.
You have to do it through the courts. If not your parents can just call the police to bring you back, and your grandma will get in trouble for helping you.
Im not quite sure
Your over the age of 10 so i think u may be able to choose to live with ur grandma
yea its illegal but your grandma can go to court and file for custody of you. but she may have to show she is the best fit as in your parents are fit to raise you. that may not be the case here.
the ppl of the law think that if your under 18 you cant make choices like that for yourself so whoever your parents say you have to stay with, thats final
You said you are 14. All fourteen year olds want to run away from home. Mostly because their parents have rules and you think that Gramma won't. Who do you think raised your parents? Just because you are Gramma's little woogams doesn't mean that she will support, cloth, house, and feed you for free. Nor should you expect her too, just because you are bent out of shape about your parents. Grow up. Your parents LOVE you, that is why there are rules. Try obeying some of them. Life will get better. Respect has to be earned, so go earn some from your parents and stop trying to run away just because you have a chip on your shoulder.
you need parental approval
That you don't like living with your parents is not so unusual at your age. You start developing your own ideas which will not be the same as your parents hence conflicts. Its a normal stage to go through. Moving out is not the option. Your age does not allow you to take any decisions when it comes to where you want to live. Growing up means staying where you are and coming to understand, in time to come, why you see things different then your parents. Growing up does not mean running away!
Yes dear unfortunately that is illegal. The only way to get away with that is if one: you can prove to a court that your parents are unfit to raise you, meaning the beat you, dont feed/clothe you etc. (which I doubt is the case b/c you have a computer to even ask this question) or two: you and grandma cut off all connections with your parents and live someplace remote, but if your parents care enough this may not work b/c they'll find you no matter what if they really want to. Best option, stick it out at home. Youve got four years dear, 3 if your smart about it. I know it seems long but its not much, seems like yesterday to me and I'm only 21.
if you testify that ur gardians are unfit to take care of a child then you will be relocated
most people running away from home don't care..
It's illegal. They will bring you home.
No. If you're a minor, you must live where your legal guardian says you'll live. If you run away to live with your Grandmother, the police will bring you home. And, depending on her actions, and whether or not your parents, or the police, wish to press charges, your Grandmother could be charged with kidnapping - even if you were there of your own free will.
You can, however, have your Grandmother petition the court to award her legal guardianship over you. It would then be up to a judge to decide whether such an action is warranted or not. However, the court wont take custody away from your current guardian unless it can be shown that there is a good reason to do so - such as some form of abuse that is going on at home.Is it illegal to runaway from home to go live with a relative if your legal parent does'nt agree?
In most jurisdictions, yes.
If your parents are good parents without any bad background, there is more than impossible because there is not allegations or valid reasons to take you away from them. If they do treat you bad and you have evidences in court will decide if your grandma can have the legal custody. Otherwise if you run away you will be in trouble.
All i know is that if your parents are divorced and you are 13 you get to choose who you live with....That might also have somthing to do with what you want to do. Try googling it or ask the police...
it is illegal
but i suppose you could try to tell them your not happy and that you might be with your grandma
though you probably already tried this you might think it smart to play the guilt card and say something like, if they care for you they would let you go
i would try a very long and peaceful- if possible conversation about this, it is a hard topic; their reason could be as simple as they dont want you to go away because they will miss you
i doubt it isn't without reason though, try this and see
good luck:)
You're too young and too dumb to ask this question.
If you run away from your HOME for no better reason than someone doesn't agree with you, you're going to have a miserable life of running every time you decide to change your mind.
Grow up and go home.
No, it's not legal. You need parents' approval.
You have to do it through the courts. If not your parents can just call the police to bring you back, and your grandma will get in trouble for helping you.
Im not quite sure
Your over the age of 10 so i think u may be able to choose to live with ur grandma
yea its illegal but your grandma can go to court and file for custody of you. but she may have to show she is the best fit as in your parents are fit to raise you. that may not be the case here.
the ppl of the law think that if your under 18 you cant make choices like that for yourself so whoever your parents say you have to stay with, thats final
You said you are 14. All fourteen year olds want to run away from home. Mostly because their parents have rules and you think that Gramma won't. Who do you think raised your parents? Just because you are Gramma's little woogams doesn't mean that she will support, cloth, house, and feed you for free. Nor should you expect her too, just because you are bent out of shape about your parents. Grow up. Your parents LOVE you, that is why there are rules. Try obeying some of them. Life will get better. Respect has to be earned, so go earn some from your parents and stop trying to run away just because you have a chip on your shoulder.
you need parental approval
That you don't like living with your parents is not so unusual at your age. You start developing your own ideas which will not be the same as your parents hence conflicts. Its a normal stage to go through. Moving out is not the option. Your age does not allow you to take any decisions when it comes to where you want to live. Growing up means staying where you are and coming to understand, in time to come, why you see things different then your parents. Growing up does not mean running away!
Yes dear unfortunately that is illegal. The only way to get away with that is if one: you can prove to a court that your parents are unfit to raise you, meaning the beat you, dont feed/clothe you etc. (which I doubt is the case b/c you have a computer to even ask this question) or two: you and grandma cut off all connections with your parents and live someplace remote, but if your parents care enough this may not work b/c they'll find you no matter what if they really want to. Best option, stick it out at home. Youve got four years dear, 3 if your smart about it. I know it seems long but its not much, seems like yesterday to me and I'm only 21.
if you testify that ur gardians are unfit to take care of a child then you will be relocated
most people running away from home don't care..
It's illegal. They will bring you home.
Can someone tell me is it normal for parent to dote on only the younger sister?
My mom dote on my younger sister so much that she can get whatever she wants.Even a $250 handphone. But when I have got no money to buy contact lens she will just try to ingore what I say! Why is it like that? I am sadCan someone tell me is it normal for parent to dote on only the younger sister?
Your sister is the baby, they probably gave you all the stuff you wanted when you were the baby. Tell your mom that it hurts your feelings when she get's your little sister all the stuff because it makes you feel as though she likes her better. I don't know, good luck though!!!
Your sister is the baby, they probably gave you all the stuff you wanted when you were the baby. Tell your mom that it hurts your feelings when she get's your little sister all the stuff because it makes you feel as though she likes her better. I don't know, good luck though!!!
Can i become a secondary driver on my parent's policy with 3 cars in the family?
Just found out even with my dad's deal as he works with RBC, it will still cost 5-7 thousand a year. Thats way to much.
its 700 a year to become a secondary driver.
Is there any way to get around the system?
I have a married sister who does not live at home.
We have 2 cars.
IIf i get one will the insurance company know that its mine? Use different insurance company?
Any ideas?Can i become a secondary driver on my parent's policy with 3 cars in the family?
if you parents havetheir names on the title it can be insured by them that is only way to do it.Can i become a secondary driver on my parent's policy with 3 cars in the family?
Three cars, three drivers, and you'll have to be the full-time driver on one of them. With two cars and three drivers, you can be part-time on one, probably the newer or more expensive one.
its 700 a year to become a secondary driver.
Is there any way to get around the system?
I have a married sister who does not live at home.
We have 2 cars.
IIf i get one will the insurance company know that its mine? Use different insurance company?
Any ideas?Can i become a secondary driver on my parent's policy with 3 cars in the family?
if you parents havetheir names on the title it can be insured by them that is only way to do it.Can i become a secondary driver on my parent's policy with 3 cars in the family?
Three cars, three drivers, and you'll have to be the full-time driver on one of them. With two cars and three drivers, you can be part-time on one, probably the newer or more expensive one.
What are the pros and cons of step-parent adoption?
Although step-parent adoption allows a child to be eligible for everything that the step-parent's biological children can receive (inheritance, medical insurance and the like,) there are also downsides.
For example, if a couple divorces, the former step-parent, now parent, is subject to everything any biological parent must follow. This includes child support, possible continuation of medical coverage, continuation of inheritance rights. What problems may arise if this parent now feels that since this isn't his/her biological child, why should s/he have to continue these requirements of parenthood. The ultimate problem can be that this adoptive parent may rather give up parental rights in order to ';divorce'; the child, since s/he is divorcing the natural parent.What are the pros and cons of step-parent adoption?
The pros and cons will vary in each and every situation, so it's really hard to make generalized statements. That's why every adoption decision - step parent or otherwise - needs to be made carefully.
Most of the cons you will find are for the adoptive step-parent, and almost all of those include divorce situations. That is why the adoption of the child needs to be a seperate decision from the marriage. You should not adopt a child just because you married the parent. Step-parents have many rights including the ability to cary the child on medical coverage. You can also stipulate inheritance in your will without need to adopt. However, step-parents do not have ALL the rights to a child that a biological parent (or adoptive parent) has. The most important one is a right to parent the child if the marriage disolves or the step-parent becomes a widow/widower.
For example, my decision to try to adopt my former step-daughter was a commitment I was ready to make to HER, not to her father. Unfortunately, we were unable to get it accomplished before my ex had his little breakdown and left us (by us, I mean me, his daughter, and our son). Because I hadn't been able to adopt her, and I was no longer technically her ';step-mother'; (by right of no longer being married to her father) I was unable to care for her properly. At any moment I could have been accused of kidnapping by either my ex or the biological mother (even though that wasn't true, I hadn't taken her anywhere - my ex had LEFT her with me). More importantly, while I could have insured her under my insurance since she was living with me and I was the primary caregiver, I could not have gotten her medical attention because I was not her parent. That is a rather important barb in the law. In some states step-parents can sign medical authorizations, but not always, and usually only in an emergency. I always had to carry with me a document signed by my ex saying I was authorized to approve medical care for her even when we were together. I also could not sign her up for school because to do so required a copy of her birth certificate, but only her parents are authorized to request one. In short, because I had not yet adopted her, my hands were completely tied. What makes my situation rather sad is that NEITHER PARENT WANTED HER! Her biological mother hasn't seen her since she was 15 months old (she's now 6 and a half, and was over 3 at the time this all happened) and hasn't had custody of her since she was 10 months old. Her father walked away without a second glance, he truly had had a mental breakdown and though he was another person. I was forced (not legally or through threats, but by virtue of it being the only way to get her what she needed) to turn her over to her paternal grandparents. They had raised her before, from about 13 months until just before her second birthday when my ex stopped traveling for work and settled down with me. They had power of attourney for her father, and they could get her the services she needs.
I still don't think that severed my obligations to her however. After all, if I was ready to be a parent to her, then just because the papers weren't signed doesn't meant I can just walk away from her without a second glance. I walk a delicate balance with her grandparents right now. There is a large LARGE amount of awkwardness, but I still visit, and try to buy some clothes and things like that when I can. I put her on the waiting list for a state program that has finally kicked in, and provides her medicaid services, therapy, and respit for her grandparents. I would be willing to do more - but as I said, it is a delicate balance.
A step-parent who truly wants to be a parent to the child should definitely adopt a child. A step-parent who is only adopting a child out of ';duty'; or to make things ';easier'; should not adopt the child. One day the sence of ';duty'; may no longer be there, and it may cease to be ';easy'; if your marriage fails. An adoption is not an agreement with your spouse, it is an agreement with the child, and should be treated as such.
That being said, step-parent adoption should ONLY take place with the original parent (biological parent) is either completely out of the picture, or very nearly. It is not right to try and replace a biological father or mother who is still trying to pull his/her weight with the child, and is just not living with the child because of divorce etc. Many children these days have two very good parents, even if the parents no longer live together. It is not right to sever that connection in order to make a pretty picture through step-parent adoption. However, if the biological parent is pretty much out of the picture (even if he/she is paying child support), if the child doesn't know who that parent is or sees them less frequently than once a year, then step-parent adoption is a wonderful thing. Every child deserves to have two real parents, and if a step-parent is that other real parent, then adopting the child is the right thing to do.
On the child's side, a step-parent adoption has very few downsides. The only time it would become a ';downside'; is if a previously active biological parent was forced out of the picture so the step-parent could adopt.
For the biological parent who will retain custody is married to the adopting step-parent there are very few downsides. You will no longer get child support, of course, and if you divorce you will have to go though ANOTHER custody arrangement with the new father. However, if you truly love your kids and believe the step-parent to be a good parent, then it should be worth the risk to make sure your child has two loving parents. Also, it is important to realize that if something ever happens to you, right now your child would go to the other biological parent who he/she probably doesn't know very well (at least, probably doesn't if you're considering step parent adoption). If you let the step-parent adopt, that means your child would be able to stay in their home, with their siblings if something every happens to you.
Again, I can't stress this enough, EVERY adoption, even step-parent adoption, is an agreement between the parent and the CHILD. It is not an agreement between two married adults. The responsibility does not rest with the marriage it rests with the CHILD! Do not adopt, as a step-parent, if you do not understand this, accept this, and most of all WANT this.What are the pros and cons of step-parent adoption?
Try thinking about it the other way. Imagine if you were a step-parent, loving and taking care of a child for years, maybe even being the primary caregiver, and then you start having difficulties with your spouse. One of you starts divorce proceedings...and suddenly the child you love and think of as one of your own is taken away and you are told you can NEVER see him or her again and there is NOTHING you can do.
This is a more common problem for gay couples (because virtually all children of gay couples are biologically connected to one parent and not the other and the laws rarely even allow the option of becoming the legal parent), but it definitely happens. Also, in situations like this, the natural parent can use access to the child as a bargaining chip to get more from the divorce settlement.
This is not to say that your scenario doesn't happen, of course it does. But the longer the marriage lasted, the younger the kids were when the marriage happened, the less involved the other biological parent is involved in the kid's life and the presence of half-siblings all make it more likely that the step-parent feels that the kid is truly theirs.
My husband is stepfather to both of my children and they are covered under his medical insurance and are also entitled to a piece of our estate when we pass. It is OURS not his, therefore it belongs to both his children and my children...we are splitting it evenly. Besides, we're not dropping dead so our children can strike it rich!
Good parents don't divorce a child when a marriage fails---biological or otherwise!
If a step parent adopts a child- its their choice- going into it you know there is a possiblity of divorce- there always is.
Seriously- i'd tell em to get over it and that they made their decision. And if this is what someone is thinking before adoption- its not for them..... What would happen if a random child was adopted--- by both parents- do they then decide during a divorce that they no longer want the child because its not ';biologically'; theirs?
This happened to me. My children's biological father gave them up %26amp; the step father adopted them. About 5 months later we divorced. He is responsible for paying child support %26amp; paying 1/2 of the medical bills. My current husband is the one that carries med./dental/vision ins. on my children, because he is the responsible one. It took me about 2 yrs. to start getting any type of help from the adoptive parent. Also, he treats my children differently. I have one child that refuses to go over there.I don't make him go either.
For example, if a couple divorces, the former step-parent, now parent, is subject to everything any biological parent must follow. This includes child support, possible continuation of medical coverage, continuation of inheritance rights. What problems may arise if this parent now feels that since this isn't his/her biological child, why should s/he have to continue these requirements of parenthood. The ultimate problem can be that this adoptive parent may rather give up parental rights in order to ';divorce'; the child, since s/he is divorcing the natural parent.What are the pros and cons of step-parent adoption?
The pros and cons will vary in each and every situation, so it's really hard to make generalized statements. That's why every adoption decision - step parent or otherwise - needs to be made carefully.
Most of the cons you will find are for the adoptive step-parent, and almost all of those include divorce situations. That is why the adoption of the child needs to be a seperate decision from the marriage. You should not adopt a child just because you married the parent. Step-parents have many rights including the ability to cary the child on medical coverage. You can also stipulate inheritance in your will without need to adopt. However, step-parents do not have ALL the rights to a child that a biological parent (or adoptive parent) has. The most important one is a right to parent the child if the marriage disolves or the step-parent becomes a widow/widower.
For example, my decision to try to adopt my former step-daughter was a commitment I was ready to make to HER, not to her father. Unfortunately, we were unable to get it accomplished before my ex had his little breakdown and left us (by us, I mean me, his daughter, and our son). Because I hadn't been able to adopt her, and I was no longer technically her ';step-mother'; (by right of no longer being married to her father) I was unable to care for her properly. At any moment I could have been accused of kidnapping by either my ex or the biological mother (even though that wasn't true, I hadn't taken her anywhere - my ex had LEFT her with me). More importantly, while I could have insured her under my insurance since she was living with me and I was the primary caregiver, I could not have gotten her medical attention because I was not her parent. That is a rather important barb in the law. In some states step-parents can sign medical authorizations, but not always, and usually only in an emergency. I always had to carry with me a document signed by my ex saying I was authorized to approve medical care for her even when we were together. I also could not sign her up for school because to do so required a copy of her birth certificate, but only her parents are authorized to request one. In short, because I had not yet adopted her, my hands were completely tied. What makes my situation rather sad is that NEITHER PARENT WANTED HER! Her biological mother hasn't seen her since she was 15 months old (she's now 6 and a half, and was over 3 at the time this all happened) and hasn't had custody of her since she was 10 months old. Her father walked away without a second glance, he truly had had a mental breakdown and though he was another person. I was forced (not legally or through threats, but by virtue of it being the only way to get her what she needed) to turn her over to her paternal grandparents. They had raised her before, from about 13 months until just before her second birthday when my ex stopped traveling for work and settled down with me. They had power of attourney for her father, and they could get her the services she needs.
I still don't think that severed my obligations to her however. After all, if I was ready to be a parent to her, then just because the papers weren't signed doesn't meant I can just walk away from her without a second glance. I walk a delicate balance with her grandparents right now. There is a large LARGE amount of awkwardness, but I still visit, and try to buy some clothes and things like that when I can. I put her on the waiting list for a state program that has finally kicked in, and provides her medicaid services, therapy, and respit for her grandparents. I would be willing to do more - but as I said, it is a delicate balance.
A step-parent who truly wants to be a parent to the child should definitely adopt a child. A step-parent who is only adopting a child out of ';duty'; or to make things ';easier'; should not adopt the child. One day the sence of ';duty'; may no longer be there, and it may cease to be ';easy'; if your marriage fails. An adoption is not an agreement with your spouse, it is an agreement with the child, and should be treated as such.
That being said, step-parent adoption should ONLY take place with the original parent (biological parent) is either completely out of the picture, or very nearly. It is not right to try and replace a biological father or mother who is still trying to pull his/her weight with the child, and is just not living with the child because of divorce etc. Many children these days have two very good parents, even if the parents no longer live together. It is not right to sever that connection in order to make a pretty picture through step-parent adoption. However, if the biological parent is pretty much out of the picture (even if he/she is paying child support), if the child doesn't know who that parent is or sees them less frequently than once a year, then step-parent adoption is a wonderful thing. Every child deserves to have two real parents, and if a step-parent is that other real parent, then adopting the child is the right thing to do.
On the child's side, a step-parent adoption has very few downsides. The only time it would become a ';downside'; is if a previously active biological parent was forced out of the picture so the step-parent could adopt.
For the biological parent who will retain custody is married to the adopting step-parent there are very few downsides. You will no longer get child support, of course, and if you divorce you will have to go though ANOTHER custody arrangement with the new father. However, if you truly love your kids and believe the step-parent to be a good parent, then it should be worth the risk to make sure your child has two loving parents. Also, it is important to realize that if something ever happens to you, right now your child would go to the other biological parent who he/she probably doesn't know very well (at least, probably doesn't if you're considering step parent adoption). If you let the step-parent adopt, that means your child would be able to stay in their home, with their siblings if something every happens to you.
Again, I can't stress this enough, EVERY adoption, even step-parent adoption, is an agreement between the parent and the CHILD. It is not an agreement between two married adults. The responsibility does not rest with the marriage it rests with the CHILD! Do not adopt, as a step-parent, if you do not understand this, accept this, and most of all WANT this.What are the pros and cons of step-parent adoption?
Try thinking about it the other way. Imagine if you were a step-parent, loving and taking care of a child for years, maybe even being the primary caregiver, and then you start having difficulties with your spouse. One of you starts divorce proceedings...and suddenly the child you love and think of as one of your own is taken away and you are told you can NEVER see him or her again and there is NOTHING you can do.
This is a more common problem for gay couples (because virtually all children of gay couples are biologically connected to one parent and not the other and the laws rarely even allow the option of becoming the legal parent), but it definitely happens. Also, in situations like this, the natural parent can use access to the child as a bargaining chip to get more from the divorce settlement.
This is not to say that your scenario doesn't happen, of course it does. But the longer the marriage lasted, the younger the kids were when the marriage happened, the less involved the other biological parent is involved in the kid's life and the presence of half-siblings all make it more likely that the step-parent feels that the kid is truly theirs.
My husband is stepfather to both of my children and they are covered under his medical insurance and are also entitled to a piece of our estate when we pass. It is OURS not his, therefore it belongs to both his children and my children...we are splitting it evenly. Besides, we're not dropping dead so our children can strike it rich!
Good parents don't divorce a child when a marriage fails---biological or otherwise!
If a step parent adopts a child- its their choice- going into it you know there is a possiblity of divorce- there always is.
Seriously- i'd tell em to get over it and that they made their decision. And if this is what someone is thinking before adoption- its not for them..... What would happen if a random child was adopted--- by both parents- do they then decide during a divorce that they no longer want the child because its not ';biologically'; theirs?
This happened to me. My children's biological father gave them up %26amp; the step father adopted them. About 5 months later we divorced. He is responsible for paying child support %26amp; paying 1/2 of the medical bills. My current husband is the one that carries med./dental/vision ins. on my children, because he is the responsible one. It took me about 2 yrs. to start getting any type of help from the adoptive parent. Also, he treats my children differently. I have one child that refuses to go over there.I don't make him go either.
Which parent has custody of children during separation before a divorce in IL?
We are getting two different stories from two different counties... but it should be the same state wide... what's the deal?Which parent has custody of children during separation before a divorce in IL?
When you file for a legal separation, there will be a part in the paperword that touches on children in the marriage. You can check the box requesting the children are you be in your custody...
That's the only way besides kidnapping.. and the kids won't be with you then at all!Which parent has custody of children during separation before a divorce in IL?
generally custody is legally decided at the preliminary hearing, and finalized at the divorce. Dont ask your kids, unless they are like 17 or so. That is not a decision that should be forced on a child. My ex and I had a discussion about custody before he moved out. I said I thought the kids should be with me and visit him, and he agreed. You should come to an arrangement with your STBX that is most beneficial to the children, then have it held up by the judge.
its the same every where both parents have custody the man or woman can get the child and skip the country and there is nothing you can do about it until you go down and get it in writing, one parent will have full custody and the other can have visitation or you can do it 50/50 or what ever the two of you decide. But if the child is a certain age they can decide who they want to live with because your child will be appointed a guardian of enlightenment I think that's what its called, and that person will ask your child questions and act as a lawyer on the behalf of the child
I think either parent, because nothing has been filed yet in court. When you file for divorce, when children are involved, they set a preliminary hearing which decides child support, custody, visitation for the duration of the divorce proceedings. You need to file in the county in which you live.
It isn't the same everywhere. Ask your children what they would like. They can make the decision for you.sunscreen
When you file for a legal separation, there will be a part in the paperword that touches on children in the marriage. You can check the box requesting the children are you be in your custody...
That's the only way besides kidnapping.. and the kids won't be with you then at all!Which parent has custody of children during separation before a divorce in IL?
generally custody is legally decided at the preliminary hearing, and finalized at the divorce. Dont ask your kids, unless they are like 17 or so. That is not a decision that should be forced on a child. My ex and I had a discussion about custody before he moved out. I said I thought the kids should be with me and visit him, and he agreed. You should come to an arrangement with your STBX that is most beneficial to the children, then have it held up by the judge.
its the same every where both parents have custody the man or woman can get the child and skip the country and there is nothing you can do about it until you go down and get it in writing, one parent will have full custody and the other can have visitation or you can do it 50/50 or what ever the two of you decide. But if the child is a certain age they can decide who they want to live with because your child will be appointed a guardian of enlightenment I think that's what its called, and that person will ask your child questions and act as a lawyer on the behalf of the child
I think either parent, because nothing has been filed yet in court. When you file for divorce, when children are involved, they set a preliminary hearing which decides child support, custody, visitation for the duration of the divorce proceedings. You need to file in the county in which you live.
It isn't the same everywhere. Ask your children what they would like. They can make the decision for you.
What can I give my parents for Parent Night?
Our volleyball team is having parent night on Tuesday. What can the team give our parents that isn't clique? We have our pictures, flowers, and... we need something unique.What can I give my parents for Parent Night?
I say your whole team gets together and you make shirts for them. Make them cool though like tie-dyed and on the backs you can have then say '; I am #3s mommy '; or something like that.What can I give my parents for Parent Night?
well if it were me, since our season hasn't started,
I would give them my very first pair of knee pads,
why, because mine have been through hell and it
just shows how far I go to save a play or what not.
And also because my parents are proud that I
had found my own sport to play and they know how
important my first pair of knee pads are to me, and
the would be happy to get them! :)
~Jess
I say your whole team gets together and you make shirts for them. Make them cool though like tie-dyed and on the backs you can have then say '; I am #3s mommy '; or something like that.What can I give my parents for Parent Night?
well if it were me, since our season hasn't started,
I would give them my very first pair of knee pads,
why, because mine have been through hell and it
just shows how far I go to save a play or what not.
And also because my parents are proud that I
had found my own sport to play and they know how
important my first pair of knee pads are to me, and
the would be happy to get them! :)
~Jess
Florida family law question, does a non-custodial parent have to file a case in my county?
If a non-custodial parent living in another county in florida wants to take a custodial parent to court over a visitation schedule is it required to file in the custodial parent's county?Florida family law question, does a non-custodial parent have to file a case in my county?
jurisdiction (where the suit is filed) is most often based on the county where the child lives. if it's divorce action, then the non-custodial parent can file in the county they reside. if it's an action for change in custody then filing in the county where the child resides is right. the courts want stability for the child.Florida family law question, does a non-custodial parent have to file a case in my county?
You file in the county where the court hearing was originally heard for custody/visitation.
jurisdiction (where the suit is filed) is most often based on the county where the child lives. if it's divorce action, then the non-custodial parent can file in the county they reside. if it's an action for change in custody then filing in the county where the child resides is right. the courts want stability for the child.Florida family law question, does a non-custodial parent have to file a case in my county?
You file in the county where the court hearing was originally heard for custody/visitation.
Is it illegal to runaway from home to go live with a relative if your legal parent does'nt agree?
hi .Im 14years old and i would like to to and live with my grandma because i dont like living with my parents.My grandma says its ok,but my parents dont aprouve.Can i go live with her without it being illegal..without my parents aprouval?Is it illegal to runaway from home to go live with a relative if your legal parent does'nt agree?
No. If you're a minor, you must live where your legal guardian says you'll live. If you run away to live with your Grandmother, the police will bring you home. And, depending on her actions, and whether or not your parents, or the police, wish to press charges, your Grandmother could be charged with kidnapping - even if you were there of your own free will.
You can, however, have your Grandmother petition the court to award her legal guardianship over you. It would then be up to a judge to decide whether such an action is warranted or not. However, the court wont take custody away from your current guardian unless it can be shown that there is a good reason to do so - such as some form of abuse that is going on at home.Is it illegal to runaway from home to go live with a relative if your legal parent does'nt agree?
In most jurisdictions, yes.
If your parents are good parents without any bad background, there is more than impossible because there is not allegations or valid reasons to take you away from them. If they do treat you bad and you have evidences in court will decide if your grandma can have the legal custody. Otherwise if you run away you will be in trouble.
All i know is that if your parents are divorced and you are 13 you get to choose who you live with....That might also have somthing to do with what you want to do. Try googling it or ask the police...
it is illegal
but i suppose you could try to tell them your not happy and that you might be with your grandma
though you probably already tried this you might think it smart to play the guilt card and say something like, if they care for you they would let you go
i would try a very long and peaceful- if possible conversation about this, it is a hard topic; their reason could be as simple as they dont want you to go away because they will miss you
i doubt it isn't without reason though, try this and see
good luck:)
You're too young and too dumb to ask this question.
If you run away from your HOME for no better reason than someone doesn't agree with you, you're going to have a miserable life of running every time you decide to change your mind.
Grow up and go home.
No, it's not legal. You need parents' approval.
You have to do it through the courts. If not your parents can just call the police to bring you back, and your grandma will get in trouble for helping you.
Im not quite sure
Your over the age of 10 so i think u may be able to choose to live with ur grandma
yea its illegal but your grandma can go to court and file for custody of you. but she may have to show she is the best fit as in your parents are fit to raise you. that may not be the case here.
the ppl of the law think that if your under 18 you cant make choices like that for yourself so whoever your parents say you have to stay with, thats final
You said you are 14. All fourteen year olds want to run away from home. Mostly because their parents have rules and you think that Gramma won't. Who do you think raised your parents? Just because you are Gramma's little woogams doesn't mean that she will support, cloth, house, and feed you for free. Nor should you expect her too, just because you are bent out of shape about your parents. Grow up. Your parents LOVE you, that is why there are rules. Try obeying some of them. Life will get better. Respect has to be earned, so go earn some from your parents and stop trying to run away just because you have a chip on your shoulder.
you need parental approval
That you don't like living with your parents is not so unusual at your age. You start developing your own ideas which will not be the same as your parents hence conflicts. Its a normal stage to go through. Moving out is not the option. Your age does not allow you to take any decisions when it comes to where you want to live. Growing up means staying where you are and coming to understand, in time to come, why you see things different then your parents. Growing up does not mean running away!
Yes dear unfortunately that is illegal. The only way to get away with that is if one: you can prove to a court that your parents are unfit to raise you, meaning the beat you, dont feed/clothe you etc. (which I doubt is the case b/c you have a computer to even ask this question) or two: you and grandma cut off all connections with your parents and live someplace remote, but if your parents care enough this may not work b/c they'll find you no matter what if they really want to. Best option, stick it out at home. Youve got four years dear, 3 if your smart about it. I know it seems long but its not much, seems like yesterday to me and I'm only 21.
if you testify that ur gardians are unfit to take care of a child then you will be relocated
most people running away from home don't care..
It's illegal. They will bring you home.
No. If you're a minor, you must live where your legal guardian says you'll live. If you run away to live with your Grandmother, the police will bring you home. And, depending on her actions, and whether or not your parents, or the police, wish to press charges, your Grandmother could be charged with kidnapping - even if you were there of your own free will.
You can, however, have your Grandmother petition the court to award her legal guardianship over you. It would then be up to a judge to decide whether such an action is warranted or not. However, the court wont take custody away from your current guardian unless it can be shown that there is a good reason to do so - such as some form of abuse that is going on at home.Is it illegal to runaway from home to go live with a relative if your legal parent does'nt agree?
In most jurisdictions, yes.
If your parents are good parents without any bad background, there is more than impossible because there is not allegations or valid reasons to take you away from them. If they do treat you bad and you have evidences in court will decide if your grandma can have the legal custody. Otherwise if you run away you will be in trouble.
All i know is that if your parents are divorced and you are 13 you get to choose who you live with....That might also have somthing to do with what you want to do. Try googling it or ask the police...
it is illegal
but i suppose you could try to tell them your not happy and that you might be with your grandma
though you probably already tried this you might think it smart to play the guilt card and say something like, if they care for you they would let you go
i would try a very long and peaceful- if possible conversation about this, it is a hard topic; their reason could be as simple as they dont want you to go away because they will miss you
i doubt it isn't without reason though, try this and see
good luck:)
You're too young and too dumb to ask this question.
If you run away from your HOME for no better reason than someone doesn't agree with you, you're going to have a miserable life of running every time you decide to change your mind.
Grow up and go home.
No, it's not legal. You need parents' approval.
You have to do it through the courts. If not your parents can just call the police to bring you back, and your grandma will get in trouble for helping you.
Im not quite sure
Your over the age of 10 so i think u may be able to choose to live with ur grandma
yea its illegal but your grandma can go to court and file for custody of you. but she may have to show she is the best fit as in your parents are fit to raise you. that may not be the case here.
the ppl of the law think that if your under 18 you cant make choices like that for yourself so whoever your parents say you have to stay with, thats final
You said you are 14. All fourteen year olds want to run away from home. Mostly because their parents have rules and you think that Gramma won't. Who do you think raised your parents? Just because you are Gramma's little woogams doesn't mean that she will support, cloth, house, and feed you for free. Nor should you expect her too, just because you are bent out of shape about your parents. Grow up. Your parents LOVE you, that is why there are rules. Try obeying some of them. Life will get better. Respect has to be earned, so go earn some from your parents and stop trying to run away just because you have a chip on your shoulder.
you need parental approval
That you don't like living with your parents is not so unusual at your age. You start developing your own ideas which will not be the same as your parents hence conflicts. Its a normal stage to go through. Moving out is not the option. Your age does not allow you to take any decisions when it comes to where you want to live. Growing up means staying where you are and coming to understand, in time to come, why you see things different then your parents. Growing up does not mean running away!
Yes dear unfortunately that is illegal. The only way to get away with that is if one: you can prove to a court that your parents are unfit to raise you, meaning the beat you, dont feed/clothe you etc. (which I doubt is the case b/c you have a computer to even ask this question) or two: you and grandma cut off all connections with your parents and live someplace remote, but if your parents care enough this may not work b/c they'll find you no matter what if they really want to. Best option, stick it out at home. Youve got four years dear, 3 if your smart about it. I know it seems long but its not much, seems like yesterday to me and I'm only 21.
if you testify that ur gardians are unfit to take care of a child then you will be relocated
most people running away from home don't care..
It's illegal. They will bring you home.
Can someone tell me is it normal for parent to dote on only the younger sister?
My mom dote on my younger sister so much that she can get whatever she wants.Even a $250 handphone. But when I have got no money to buy contact lens she will just try to ingore what I say! Why is it like that? I am sadCan someone tell me is it normal for parent to dote on only the younger sister?
Your sister is the baby, they probably gave you all the stuff you wanted when you were the baby. Tell your mom that it hurts your feelings when she get's your little sister all the stuff because it makes you feel as though she likes her better. I don't know, good luck though!!!
Your sister is the baby, they probably gave you all the stuff you wanted when you were the baby. Tell your mom that it hurts your feelings when she get's your little sister all the stuff because it makes you feel as though she likes her better. I don't know, good luck though!!!
Is it legal for a parent to ask their child questions about the other parent and record the conversation?
The child knew of the recording. The parent is not a custodial parent, and a hush order has also been set in place that neither parent is to discuss issues about the other parent or court issues.Is it legal for a parent to ask their child questions about the other parent and record the conversation?
Of course. That being said, the evidence will almost always be excluded because the chain of control was non existent and because it is sure to be infested with leading questions.Is it legal for a parent to ask their child questions about the other parent and record the conversation?
He can record any conversation with his child that he wants to record. He is in violation of the court order for having the conversation, and you are in violation of the court order for talking about it with the child. So neither one of you are obeying the court order. I hope you child has a good therapist.
And how did the ';other Parent'; know this was happening unless they also questioned the child?
Yes. Why wouldn't it be?
Of course. That being said, the evidence will almost always be excluded because the chain of control was non existent and because it is sure to be infested with leading questions.Is it legal for a parent to ask their child questions about the other parent and record the conversation?
He can record any conversation with his child that he wants to record. He is in violation of the court order for having the conversation, and you are in violation of the court order for talking about it with the child. So neither one of you are obeying the court order. I hope you child has a good therapist.
And how did the ';other Parent'; know this was happening unless they also questioned the child?
Yes. Why wouldn't it be?
How do you deal with having a bipolar parent?
me, well, that's why im asking.How do you deal with having a bipolar parent?
I am a mum with Bi polar, I am assuming that the parent has been honest about their illness. If not you need to try and sit down and have a friendly chat. I did that with both my children, and explained when I was having my bad episodes that it was NOT their fault it was my illness.and that my love for them would never ever go away, I know my children find it hard as i am sure you do with the ups and the downs. My children now know when mum is not well that it takes a few days for the medication to help me, I can imagine that it is very hard for you. But please remember, and as i spaek as a mum, even on my really bad days I love my children and I am sure your parent does. There are some really good websites out there, even i did research so I could understand my illness, not just for me but my childrens sake. And dont forget if your parent has a care team, ask your parent if you could also speak to them. Then maybe you can be involved with their care plan which will help you feel included instead of exluded. As this illness will not go away but can be well managed. I was diagnosed 4 yrs ago and with the right meds my family are more at peace as i have longer periods of good days.
Good luck and I hope that you have a good support base, you need it just as much as your parent does.
Thinking of you xHow do you deal with having a bipolar parent?
Get them medication and therapy.
Then love them anyway.
a polar bear parent buy them a frozen treat at 7/11sunscreen
I am a mum with Bi polar, I am assuming that the parent has been honest about their illness. If not you need to try and sit down and have a friendly chat. I did that with both my children, and explained when I was having my bad episodes that it was NOT their fault it was my illness.and that my love for them would never ever go away, I know my children find it hard as i am sure you do with the ups and the downs. My children now know when mum is not well that it takes a few days for the medication to help me, I can imagine that it is very hard for you. But please remember, and as i spaek as a mum, even on my really bad days I love my children and I am sure your parent does. There are some really good websites out there, even i did research so I could understand my illness, not just for me but my childrens sake. And dont forget if your parent has a care team, ask your parent if you could also speak to them. Then maybe you can be involved with their care plan which will help you feel included instead of exluded. As this illness will not go away but can be well managed. I was diagnosed 4 yrs ago and with the right meds my family are more at peace as i have longer periods of good days.
Good luck and I hope that you have a good support base, you need it just as much as your parent does.
Thinking of you xHow do you deal with having a bipolar parent?
Get them medication and therapy.
Then love them anyway.
a polar bear parent buy them a frozen treat at 7/11
What is the most annoying kid show you have to watch now that you're a parent?
I think the doodlebops are annoying. What show annoys you the most? What kids show do you like? I like charlie and lola lolWhat is the most annoying kid show you have to watch now that you're a parent?
YO GABBA GABBA OMG, is that guy on crack or what? And who the heck do they get to actually be on the show, they must like be serving mandatory community service or something because that is the only way anyone I know would ever be on that show!
Like..well, Diego isn't bad, at least it seems normal even if I do have to watch it over and over and over. What is the most annoying kid show you have to watch now that you're a parent?
I have to disagree with you and my 4 yr old would also. The doodle bops, Hip Hop Harry, Imagination Movers and Yo Gabba Gabba are auto tuned on our tv. those are the faves for the morning along with Higglytown Heroes.
The ones I dread to watch are Spongebob, Jimmy Neutron and Fairly Odd Parents.
The most annoying show I think is Spongebob! I have 3 boys and they think it is the funniest show. I won't let them watch it when I'm in the house, but my husband doesn't mind it so he lets them. Ughh It's sooo annoying!!!
I don't mind watching the suite life of zach and cody or Drake and Josh.
for a while my daughter was into wonder pets, i HATE the stupid duck! but she doesn't watch that now, she watches almost anything, i refuse to watch yo gabba gabba (whatever its called), but 99% of the time she watches dora, which gets old, but its not too bad
everything on the cbeebies channel!!
i find myself watching the bloody telly even when they go down for a nap... and i know all the words!! its stupid!!
mum of 3
30wks 4 days pregnant with #4
^oof teletubbies definitly remember those and im glad they have faded into oblivion.
Wonderpets is by far the worst kids show out there these days, yo gabba gabba is a close second.
Yo Gabba Gabba, Night Garden, Barney, Four Squares
yo gabba gabba or whatever you call it. (even though i'm still preggo) I just don't understand why a grown man wears a spandex-ish outfit on a kids show... ughhhh.. creepy!
I love the Wiggles! We took our son to see them in concert twice!!
My most hated back in the day was Telletubbies! (Anybody remember that them?)
I couldn't stand ';Caillou'; (man, what a whiny kid!). I liked Kipper and I even get a kick out of Spongebob sometimes.
calliou, by far
and to add on: i like fairly odd parents. haha
can't stand wonderpets, but i like handy manny
Barney and the power Rangers Did It In for Me ...Love Pokemon and hip hop Harry
Suite life of Zach and Cody
i cant stand ben10
my kid won't sit and watch telly.
thankfully!
I can't stand wonderpets and i carly but I like spongebob.
YO GABBA GABBA OMG, is that guy on crack or what? And who the heck do they get to actually be on the show, they must like be serving mandatory community service or something because that is the only way anyone I know would ever be on that show!
Like..well, Diego isn't bad, at least it seems normal even if I do have to watch it over and over and over. What is the most annoying kid show you have to watch now that you're a parent?
I have to disagree with you and my 4 yr old would also. The doodle bops, Hip Hop Harry, Imagination Movers and Yo Gabba Gabba are auto tuned on our tv. those are the faves for the morning along with Higglytown Heroes.
The ones I dread to watch are Spongebob, Jimmy Neutron and Fairly Odd Parents.
The most annoying show I think is Spongebob! I have 3 boys and they think it is the funniest show. I won't let them watch it when I'm in the house, but my husband doesn't mind it so he lets them. Ughh It's sooo annoying!!!
I don't mind watching the suite life of zach and cody or Drake and Josh.
for a while my daughter was into wonder pets, i HATE the stupid duck! but she doesn't watch that now, she watches almost anything, i refuse to watch yo gabba gabba (whatever its called), but 99% of the time she watches dora, which gets old, but its not too bad
everything on the cbeebies channel!!
i find myself watching the bloody telly even when they go down for a nap... and i know all the words!! its stupid!!
mum of 3
30wks 4 days pregnant with #4
^oof teletubbies definitly remember those and im glad they have faded into oblivion.
Wonderpets is by far the worst kids show out there these days, yo gabba gabba is a close second.
Yo Gabba Gabba, Night Garden, Barney, Four Squares
yo gabba gabba or whatever you call it. (even though i'm still preggo) I just don't understand why a grown man wears a spandex-ish outfit on a kids show... ughhhh.. creepy!
I love the Wiggles! We took our son to see them in concert twice!!
My most hated back in the day was Telletubbies! (Anybody remember that them?)
I couldn't stand ';Caillou'; (man, what a whiny kid!). I liked Kipper and I even get a kick out of Spongebob sometimes.
calliou, by far
and to add on: i like fairly odd parents. haha
can't stand wonderpets, but i like handy manny
Barney and the power Rangers Did It In for Me ...Love Pokemon and hip hop Harry
Suite life of Zach and Cody
i cant stand ben10
my kid won't sit and watch telly.
thankfully!
I can't stand wonderpets and i carly but I like spongebob.
In North Carolina, is there an age for a child or teen to decide which parent they want to live with?
(when parents are divorcing) Also, can a parent get full custody of children before the divorce has taken place if the parents are living separately?In North Carolina, is there an age for a child or teen to decide which parent they want to live with?
No specific age to my knowledge...only how the court perceives your maturity in determining your reason for one over the other!
No specific age to my knowledge...only how the court perceives your maturity in determining your reason for one over the other!
If you are a full time step parent please tell me how do you find it?
If your step child is same gender as you does it create unhealthy competition over your partner? What's hers or his relationship like with half brothers and sisters? What was it like when the first one was born?If you are a full time step parent please tell me how do you find it?
I hated my stepmother for a long time. When my father remarried I was only 4 but found every way I could to get them separated. I kept it in my head that she was there just to steal him away from me. They had my brother when I was 6 and my sister when I was 9. My relationship with them was really rocky at first but I grew to love them. I didn't want anything to do with them because they were apart of her and I was worried that they would try to take my place. I soon realized though that they weren't going anywhere and today I love them more then ever. My sister is now having my first nephew and I couldn't be happier. As for my step mom, she is the greatest.If you are a full time step parent please tell me how do you find it?
I don't find myself competing for my partner's affection or attention with my stepdaughter. We are all aware of the difference between an adult's relationship with another adult and a parent's relationship with their child. The feelings behind both are so very different that I can't imagine having a problem with this. I am not seeking a parent in my husband. Neither he or his daughter is seeking a romantic relationship with each other. We all know who we are - parent, child, partner.
My stepdaughter was not living with us full time when the little ones were born. She was 8 yrs old when the first was born %26amp; lived with mom during the week, dad every other weekend %26amp; half of the summer %26amp; school holidays.
We made an effort to present the pregnancy to her as a positive for our family %26amp; in her life. We made it into an adventure that our family (including her) were embarking on %26amp; included her in all of the excitement. We also made an effort to keep her place in our family intact %26amp; important.
She's living with us 24/7, for the past couple years. She's 16 now %26amp; has a normal big sister relationship with both of the little kids. She's closer to her little sister, but I think that's more to do with their individual personalities %26amp; her personal stage in life than anything else.
My husband and I each had 2 when we married, both a boy and girl. Our child togther was a boy. I think having him made it easier for the kids to have a common ground. Everyone was related to him. At first my s/d tried hard not to like me out of loyalty to her mom. Her mom was very threatened. The hardest part for me was the ex wife, never the kids. We never used the word step kids, or step/half siblings. They were all our kids, period. They are all grown now and all the grandkids are mine the same as the bio ones. The first 2 are not blood related and I raised them while they're mom was in boot camp.
It was tough at first but so worth it. I got two kids with out the yucky labor part!!
I hated my stepmother for a long time. When my father remarried I was only 4 but found every way I could to get them separated. I kept it in my head that she was there just to steal him away from me. They had my brother when I was 6 and my sister when I was 9. My relationship with them was really rocky at first but I grew to love them. I didn't want anything to do with them because they were apart of her and I was worried that they would try to take my place. I soon realized though that they weren't going anywhere and today I love them more then ever. My sister is now having my first nephew and I couldn't be happier. As for my step mom, she is the greatest.If you are a full time step parent please tell me how do you find it?
I don't find myself competing for my partner's affection or attention with my stepdaughter. We are all aware of the difference between an adult's relationship with another adult and a parent's relationship with their child. The feelings behind both are so very different that I can't imagine having a problem with this. I am not seeking a parent in my husband. Neither he or his daughter is seeking a romantic relationship with each other. We all know who we are - parent, child, partner.
My stepdaughter was not living with us full time when the little ones were born. She was 8 yrs old when the first was born %26amp; lived with mom during the week, dad every other weekend %26amp; half of the summer %26amp; school holidays.
We made an effort to present the pregnancy to her as a positive for our family %26amp; in her life. We made it into an adventure that our family (including her) were embarking on %26amp; included her in all of the excitement. We also made an effort to keep her place in our family intact %26amp; important.
She's living with us 24/7, for the past couple years. She's 16 now %26amp; has a normal big sister relationship with both of the little kids. She's closer to her little sister, but I think that's more to do with their individual personalities %26amp; her personal stage in life than anything else.
My husband and I each had 2 when we married, both a boy and girl. Our child togther was a boy. I think having him made it easier for the kids to have a common ground. Everyone was related to him. At first my s/d tried hard not to like me out of loyalty to her mom. Her mom was very threatened. The hardest part for me was the ex wife, never the kids. We never used the word step kids, or step/half siblings. They were all our kids, period. They are all grown now and all the grandkids are mine the same as the bio ones. The first 2 are not blood related and I raised them while they're mom was in boot camp.
It was tough at first but so worth it. I got two kids with out the yucky labor part!!
Is it illegal for the non custodial parent to not allow interaction ie talking on the phone while in his car?
Or to put a block on the phone number so you can't even try to call?Is it illegal for the non custodial parent to not allow interaction ie talking on the phone while in his car?
What does the custody order say? If it isn't clear, go back to court WITH A LAWYER and have it spelled out concretely as to when the custodial parent can make contact with the child while the child is in visitation with the other parent. Certainly, I don't think that it is right that the non-custodial parent refuses to permit the custodial parent to contact the child and goes to the length of blocking the calls. But I doubt it is illegal...just unethical.
I strongly recommend that you go have a chat with your lawyer, and if necessary, take this back to court to get it spelled out clearly in the agreement. Good luck!Is it illegal for the non custodial parent to not allow interaction ie talking on the phone while in his car?
Illegal? Its your car, your kid,just because your the non custodial parent that doesn't mean you aren't the parent and for that matter an adult. I would say its more annoying than illegal ..lol good luck on the not letting them talk on the phone. mine text message to the point I want to throw the darn thing out the window . Its also rude to be on the phone when talking to someone else anyway. Since they invented the cell phone we are forgetting the common courteous rules. and kids are the worst. As for illegal,not sure where you got that from but no its not illegal to do that. Although I would watch out for the ex if this is a source of tension between you two and the child knows it.....also check your custody papers
Illegal? It's his car. He can do whatever he wants to do. There is no ';right'; to use a cell phone, even though most teenagers think its buried somewhere in the Constitution. The ';non-custodial'; parent is the parent when the child is with him or her. Parents, believe it or not, have the right to make certain demands on a child. If this parent doesnt want cell phones in his or her car, that is completely legitimate.
No he does not have to communicate with you while his child is in his custody.
He has not broken any laws as long as he brings the child back to you when his visitation is over.
What does the custody order say? If it isn't clear, go back to court WITH A LAWYER and have it spelled out concretely as to when the custodial parent can make contact with the child while the child is in visitation with the other parent. Certainly, I don't think that it is right that the non-custodial parent refuses to permit the custodial parent to contact the child and goes to the length of blocking the calls. But I doubt it is illegal...just unethical.
I strongly recommend that you go have a chat with your lawyer, and if necessary, take this back to court to get it spelled out clearly in the agreement. Good luck!Is it illegal for the non custodial parent to not allow interaction ie talking on the phone while in his car?
Illegal? Its your car, your kid,just because your the non custodial parent that doesn't mean you aren't the parent and for that matter an adult. I would say its more annoying than illegal ..lol good luck on the not letting them talk on the phone. mine text message to the point I want to throw the darn thing out the window . Its also rude to be on the phone when talking to someone else anyway. Since they invented the cell phone we are forgetting the common courteous rules. and kids are the worst. As for illegal,not sure where you got that from but no its not illegal to do that. Although I would watch out for the ex if this is a source of tension between you two and the child knows it.....also check your custody papers
Illegal? It's his car. He can do whatever he wants to do. There is no ';right'; to use a cell phone, even though most teenagers think its buried somewhere in the Constitution. The ';non-custodial'; parent is the parent when the child is with him or her. Parents, believe it or not, have the right to make certain demands on a child. If this parent doesnt want cell phones in his or her car, that is completely legitimate.
No he does not have to communicate with you while his child is in his custody.
He has not broken any laws as long as he brings the child back to you when his visitation is over.
What do you call it when your parent want you to stop drawing?
i love drawing, i really like it! i always draw and now that it's summer time, i draw and create my own manga when i'm free[ i'm always free] . now, i've decided to take up fine arts in college and then take up whatever course they what for me. so at least, i took up the class that i wanted. but my dad,he broke my dreams ,he doesn't want me to draw and continue what i like, what i love and what i want to become!!.,,what do you call this??What do you call it when your parent want you to stop drawing?
Hmmm... gee, sorry to hear this! I always encouraged my 3 kids to draw! It's something very creative and passes the time. [They are now all over 27 y.o! ] I'm thinking that, as previously mentioned by others, your parents are possibly fearful that you will not put 'priorities' over your hobbies and very much dislike the amount of time that you are using for your drawings. [do keep a dated portfolio of them!]
Maybe you need to 'postpone' some drawing until you do what you need/have to do. Discuss this matter with them and FIND OUT just what the issues are. No need in guessing what it might be, find out.
Be prepared, as an adult, to do any priorities and then have your treat of drawing later. Try to understand their point of view as it may be on a grander and broader scale that what your point of view is, at this time of you life.
Don't get angry with them; just have a nice conversation so that all is clear. Please DO take up art in college!
Best wishes and have fun drawing! * in your spare time. :-) *What do you call it when your parent want you to stop drawing?
Foolish, unconscious, fearful, controlling, repressive. Often a person like you is ';given'; parents like this to ';see'; how you will deal with this choice: to knuckle under to their soul killing agenda, or to bring out your courageous side and prompt you to find a way to follow your passion no matter what. But in a manner that creates the least confrontation, to the extent possible.
This planet is filled with fearful, brainwashed people. They are programmed to be ';normal'; and to pursue ';normal'; goals. In fact such path leads to repression, obsession, mediocrity and dysfunction.
I will not go in to depth as to why this programming exists -- i assure you, however, that it benefits only ';the ruling class'; -- keeping the ';peasants'; dis-empowered, ';stupid'; and controlled helps keep them from being overthrown, which they richly deserve.
In any event, to not follow your heart is a likely prescription for unpleasant repercussions, health wise and otherwise.
Good Luck !!!
I'd call it abuse. But for the record I would say it's a matter of control. I think he's afraid that it isn't good enough for his girl and that you should be looking for something more concrete in education.
There will be a point where he has no say in the matter so let him air his views. When he's finished go to art college anyways. It's your decision not his.
well,I love drawing also,but there's not much of a chance you'll be able to support yourself financially with it,which is probably what your father is concerned with.Maybe you should try for a degree in graphic design or something simular,and pursue the manga in your free time.That way you'll have a viable occupation and still draw what you like,and MAYBE get lucky and land a job doing graphic novels or manga.Hope you do!
censorship!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Most parents are afraid of their kids getting into any of the arts (music, acting, art etc) because they're afraid you won't be able to support yourself. They think if you try to be in the arts you can never make enough money to live on. Try taking some of the courses they want you to take but taking some art and drawing on the side. Hopefully if you stick with it and they can see your progress and commitment to it they will change their minds over time. Be patient, they're only trying to protect you and make sure you will be successful later on in life. Many kids change their minds often so they want to be sure you're truly interested and it isn't just a phase.
Your parents are thinking too much, I don't know if you will financially be able to support yourself by doing manga, but you can go into other art fields and have manga at the side. I'm going to get me an art career too, but instead of manga it's animation. Your parents should support your dreams, if they think it won't financially support you, they could atleast advise you to take more than one thing.
its called hating
go to your parents and say mom dad you guys are such haters!!
It's called paying the bills. The reality is, to the extent that they are paying for your education you really do have to satisfy them you are learning something that will help you become independent (something that's hard in this day and age anyhow).
If you are really serious about this, and on work-study, most colleges have a graphics department you can get a job at. This will help you figure out how you are going to make a living from the arts, if that's what you want to do.
I might mention that my brother got his B.S. at 36 and I got my B.A. at 40. While I don't recommend postponing college, I do think you can put off studying Fine Arts if that's what you have to do. On the one hand don't be discouraged, but on the other, college is expensive and how independent are you? This is a very hard and unpleasant fact you are just going to have to come to grips with.
keep up with the art! he just wants you to be able to make a reasonable living once you graduate, so show him what carrers would be avaliable to you. ?(hint) sell your art now. ppl will buy it!
I call it nuts. Maybe your dad believes that you can't make a living off your art. All you have to do is prove him wrong.
It's called ';parents-against-what-their-children-lov鈥?br>
http://bestcartoonblog.blogspot.com/
abuse.
go for your dreams.
its called ';your parents obviously dont want you to do what you want, just what they want';
trust me, i really want to act, but my mom doesnt want me to, and she like, crushes my dream because i cant go to NY and audition bc i have no way of getting there.
controlling
(keep your independence under your hat
'til you are 18 and outtathere)
Is it poss able that you ask your father why he does not want you pursue your dreams, maybe there is a good reason, or you both might come up with something that pleases you both. You might be able to combine both interests.
Hmmm... gee, sorry to hear this! I always encouraged my 3 kids to draw! It's something very creative and passes the time. [They are now all over 27 y.o! ] I'm thinking that, as previously mentioned by others, your parents are possibly fearful that you will not put 'priorities' over your hobbies and very much dislike the amount of time that you are using for your drawings. [do keep a dated portfolio of them!]
Maybe you need to 'postpone' some drawing until you do what you need/have to do. Discuss this matter with them and FIND OUT just what the issues are. No need in guessing what it might be, find out.
Be prepared, as an adult, to do any priorities and then have your treat of drawing later. Try to understand their point of view as it may be on a grander and broader scale that what your point of view is, at this time of you life.
Don't get angry with them; just have a nice conversation so that all is clear. Please DO take up art in college!
Best wishes and have fun drawing! * in your spare time. :-) *What do you call it when your parent want you to stop drawing?
Foolish, unconscious, fearful, controlling, repressive. Often a person like you is ';given'; parents like this to ';see'; how you will deal with this choice: to knuckle under to their soul killing agenda, or to bring out your courageous side and prompt you to find a way to follow your passion no matter what. But in a manner that creates the least confrontation, to the extent possible.
This planet is filled with fearful, brainwashed people. They are programmed to be ';normal'; and to pursue ';normal'; goals. In fact such path leads to repression, obsession, mediocrity and dysfunction.
I will not go in to depth as to why this programming exists -- i assure you, however, that it benefits only ';the ruling class'; -- keeping the ';peasants'; dis-empowered, ';stupid'; and controlled helps keep them from being overthrown, which they richly deserve.
In any event, to not follow your heart is a likely prescription for unpleasant repercussions, health wise and otherwise.
Good Luck !!!
I'd call it abuse. But for the record I would say it's a matter of control. I think he's afraid that it isn't good enough for his girl and that you should be looking for something more concrete in education.
There will be a point where he has no say in the matter so let him air his views. When he's finished go to art college anyways. It's your decision not his.
well,I love drawing also,but there's not much of a chance you'll be able to support yourself financially with it,which is probably what your father is concerned with.Maybe you should try for a degree in graphic design or something simular,and pursue the manga in your free time.That way you'll have a viable occupation and still draw what you like,and MAYBE get lucky and land a job doing graphic novels or manga.Hope you do!
censorship!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Most parents are afraid of their kids getting into any of the arts (music, acting, art etc) because they're afraid you won't be able to support yourself. They think if you try to be in the arts you can never make enough money to live on. Try taking some of the courses they want you to take but taking some art and drawing on the side. Hopefully if you stick with it and they can see your progress and commitment to it they will change their minds over time. Be patient, they're only trying to protect you and make sure you will be successful later on in life. Many kids change their minds often so they want to be sure you're truly interested and it isn't just a phase.
Your parents are thinking too much, I don't know if you will financially be able to support yourself by doing manga, but you can go into other art fields and have manga at the side. I'm going to get me an art career too, but instead of manga it's animation. Your parents should support your dreams, if they think it won't financially support you, they could atleast advise you to take more than one thing.
its called hating
go to your parents and say mom dad you guys are such haters!!
It's called paying the bills. The reality is, to the extent that they are paying for your education you really do have to satisfy them you are learning something that will help you become independent (something that's hard in this day and age anyhow).
If you are really serious about this, and on work-study, most colleges have a graphics department you can get a job at. This will help you figure out how you are going to make a living from the arts, if that's what you want to do.
I might mention that my brother got his B.S. at 36 and I got my B.A. at 40. While I don't recommend postponing college, I do think you can put off studying Fine Arts if that's what you have to do. On the one hand don't be discouraged, but on the other, college is expensive and how independent are you? This is a very hard and unpleasant fact you are just going to have to come to grips with.
keep up with the art! he just wants you to be able to make a reasonable living once you graduate, so show him what carrers would be avaliable to you. ?(hint) sell your art now. ppl will buy it!
I call it nuts. Maybe your dad believes that you can't make a living off your art. All you have to do is prove him wrong.
It's called ';parents-against-what-their-children-lov鈥?br>
http://bestcartoonblog.blogspot.com/
abuse.
go for your dreams.
its called ';your parents obviously dont want you to do what you want, just what they want';
trust me, i really want to act, but my mom doesnt want me to, and she like, crushes my dream because i cant go to NY and audition bc i have no way of getting there.
controlling
(keep your independence under your hat
'til you are 18 and outtathere)
Is it poss able that you ask your father why he does not want you pursue your dreams, maybe there is a good reason, or you both might come up with something that pleases you both. You might be able to combine both interests.
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